My Twisted Life~long

The twists in my life amaze me....What do you think?

Here is what happened today...
I had a gyn appt today (Mondays are my day off). Scheduled 2 months ago. We have had snow falling all day. My appt was for 1pm. At 12:30, they called to say the schools were closing early due to bad weather. My husband said he would pick up my son while I when into my appt. I live a rural suburb about 15 miles from the Dr. I was tempted to skip the appt but the office was closed during lunch so I couldnt speak with anyone. So off I went.

The appt was ok. The dr asked to updated on my health and my family situation. I told her of my stepson's medical condition over the summer. She was floored. She was amazed to find she knew of two boys with the same medical condition. She said what made the other family so memorable was that the mom was just diagnosed with cancer herself. The bells started ringing in my head. I had told my husbands ex to have a medical condition checked out last month. As a nurse, I saw something that made me step out my usual comfort zone and tell her to get it checked out. At the time, I felt I had crossed the line. I was very pushy about it. I left no doubt that she needed to be checked out.

So the whole time I was having my pelvic--I am at the age where I get the whole she bang--All I could think about was how my stepsons would be affected and what we (my husband and I) could do to support her. Not really what you want to be thinking when things are going on down there but it did make the exam seem to go quicker.

So that is my twisted story. Have you had a twisted event lately?

So the person she was talking about was your husbands ex Im guessing? I dont think I read about your stepsons condition this summer though so that part I do not know about. Unfortunately though life kinda does seem to throw some real curve balls to you.

I don't know that I'd call them twisted, but recent conversations with Fi re: our future have thrown a bit of a curveball at us.

For as long as we've been together, his ultimate goal has been to be a college professor and/or own his own business. He has wavered between which course of study he would pursue, but in the last few weeks has really honed in on wanting to obtain a PhD in economics. After some research on his part for Midwestern universities with PhDs in economics, he's discovered that the very best (and most labor-intensive and most expensive, of course) program is at Notre Dame. That is my hometown as well as where my dad works (but not as a professor), so of course, I am very familiar with the location and university.

We have never ever discussed moving to my hometown as I've never wanted to permanently live there and, in fact, made a point of moving away from there as quickly as I could (twice!). It would be unlikely we would stay past when he graduated, but still, that is four years of lake effect snow & being 'stuck' in my hometown again with no cool things to do like there is here in Indy & trying to start a family while he is in the midst of an incredibly difficult doctorate program. We would be 2 1/2 hours from his son & revamping the visitation and child support schedules would be a pain as well as trying to maintain a viable relationship with that much distance.

On the other hand, of course, I'm used to things there. I know where the mall is, the good restaurants, etc. I would have immediate friends and my parents, sister, and both grandmothers would be within 15-20 minutes drive of wherever we chose to live in the area. Although I'm not especially close to my family, it would be nice to be that close (as opposed to the 2 1/2 hour drive we have now) and get to spend more time with my nephew and be around when my sister & her fiance start their family together. I know that being a professor is his dream and, of course, I want the best for him and to support him in his academic endeavors.

*lol* See how confused I am?! Thank goodness none of this would even happen until summer/fall 2010!

*lol* Really?! 101 looks & only two replies?! For shame, gurlies! FOR SHAME!

I guess its just because I don't really understand the post. I was waiting for her to respond to the question before posting so that I didn't put my foot in my mouth by misunderstanding.

Ditto to Jenny.

It is my husbands ex-wife. My step son had cancer-We have the 6month past chemo follow up next week-Fingers crossed. Her cancer is life threatening. She hasn't told my husband yet. She doesnt see that the boys need all the support they can get at a time like this. She has the boys one week--We have the boys one week-a very nice rotating schedule. So the boys went to her the day I found out.

And I really didn't need replys. I just needed a safe place to get my mind around this event. Because she hasn't told my husband yet, I dont feel it is my issue to discuss with my friends. Kinda weird I know but that is my feeling on the issue.

Thanks for offering a place to vent and attempt to keep my sanity.
And thanks to my reward points, I can get some good therapy~retail!!:blink:

Yes, this is why I didn't reply. I didn't understand. Sometimes when we are very upset our thoughts aren't as coherent as we think they are LOL.

A double whammy for your family, that is so sad. It stinks that she hasn't shared it with you all...I know she will in time but maybe she just needs time. Did the doctor not violate any rules by sharing that with you? I guess she didn't know you knew her and I'm assuming she didn't use names, etc, but it still seems a bit weird.

Cancer is such a scary thing. I'll pray for your family, and (((hugs))) to you!!!