Separation Anxiety!!

Oh. My. GOSH! DS is driving me nuts with this. He has always been SO easy going and would pretty much go with anyone anywhere...well here lately he will not let me out of his sight. He cries if I try to leave him with my mom which has has NEVER done. He used to could care less if I left him. I think it's a little sibling jealousy with Ella and also it seems like it started after she was born..with me being gone and in the hospital for a couple of days. But anyway, my mom was here this morning and offered to take him home with her for a few hours and he wouldn't go!! :cursing: I was really aggravated with him b/c he LOVES to go to their house and play and I really could use some time with just one kid for a while. But he just flat out refused to go. I'm pretty aggravated with him right now.

Yeah, thats really tough. I think most kids go through phases like this. And I think you're right about it maybe having a little to do with Ella. Just give him time, lots of patience (ha!), and just remember: he WILL survive if you *make* him go with grandma to get a few hours of peace. In fact, he'll probably end up having a good time.

((hugs))

Coupled with a new baby in the house and daddy gone Avery is sure to have some emotional issues. Poor little guy!!

(((hugs))) I'd say that it's pretty normal...first of all there's Ella...she came into your life and then your DH left again. Those two things combined could be causing him some issues and he may think that you will leave to.

I've been experiencing similar things with my 3yo too. We've left him at both my mom's and MIL's house and we've seen that same horrible crying, fit, oh it's sad to see him cry like that. But then as soon as we've left - he's fine. Because, like your son, he loves being at either grandma's house.

I've been off work since October and the baby wasn't born until end of Nov ---- so my 3yo is the one that has fully enjoyed me being off work this time. So it's just a phase I'm sure.

I try to be really patient with him, but some days I feel like I may go a little crazy lol. He is just NON stop boy ALL day long. Thank goodness Ella is such a good baby b/c if she were giving me fits too then I'm pretty sure I'd be talking to y'all from a loony bin lol. Believe me this deployment can't end soon enough.

Yeah, I'm sure it's b/c he thinks you'll leave, too, like Daddy if he lets you out of his sight for long. Maybe just leave him at your parents' for only 45-60 minutes to start with and continue to reassure him that you're not going away like Daddy is right now.

It could also just be age -- and then add in to that the deployment and new sibling. My youngest has done that to me too many times to count!!! lol, we usually make him go and then he has the best time with his Nanny!

alansrock said:

Coupled with a new baby in the house and daddy gone Avery is sure to have some emotional issues. Poor little guy!!

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Yep...it will get better though! Try to not show him that you're upset about it.

His age has something to do with it as well. For some reason 3 year olds have a bit of a regression before they become "big kids."

My almost 4 year old puts on a show for me when I drop him off at Sunday school or Mother's Day Out. And he has been going there his whole life. I just ignore him at that moment but give him special attention at some other point when he is not throwing a fit.

Aww, sounds like you both are having a tough time. Give lots of attention and try to leave him in baby steps. Little bit here, little bit there. Maybe have someone come to your house to play with him so you can sneak away. Maybe a teenage girl to preoccupy him in his room with his toys. Then it kinda feels like he's gone for a bit.

For some reason it's just whenever my mom wants him to go with her or my Dad. He doesn't want to get in their car/truck and go with them. This afternoon I took him over and dropped him off and he was fine with it. It's just something about getting into someone else's vehicle I guess. I knew he'd be fine with it if I went with him and dropped him off like that.