college advice..

lauren grier

you're like stars
ok.. I am pretty sure I've made a decision on where I want to attend college- I'm currently registered at RIC- the college I attended ages ago.. but the school doesn't really meet with my goals for the future and blah blah blah. anyway.. so I'm 99% sure I've decided on umass boston- because they have a k.i.l.l.e.r. bio department- and dependent on which direction I decide to go with it, they have one of the best in the country for one of the fields.. boston is also one of the best cities in the country for a particular bio field- so really.. I want that. I want to move to Mass anyway.. and eventually closer to boston (I live like literally.. 10 steps from the mass line as is :p )
So the dilema.. obviously is residency. It's basically double to attend as an out of stater- I remember in HS some colleges in mass included ri as a pseudo residency.. but I don't see that in the application anywhere..
I was thinking I could just go to RIC for a year, and move to mass now, build up my req 12 months of residency etc.. but then I realized that would eff up my residency for RIC ^_^ (yeh I'm a quick one)..
So would you go ahead.. apply now.. and just suck it up that you'll owe an extra 6k for each semester one year.. or put off school for another year (or however long dependent on when you can find an apartment) or what.. ? I'm obviously going to do the whole fasfa thing.. so in the end I may be covered- but there's the whole "I'm not legally divorced" thing still looming over my head too- so I may NOT be as cushy covered as I would need to be.. So there's that too... sigh.. lol
 
LMAO Bean!!

Well La, I'd try and get the residency in. And I would certainly advise you NOT to put it off.
 
well I just finished filling out everything, and there was a box (finally) about the new england residency thing.. so *fingers crossed* .. I am going to go vomit now lmao
 
La...I think that you should be very proud of yourself. One step at a time and cross that bridge when you get to it. :)

In the meantime...maybe a pit stop at IKEA?? LOL
 
Yeah, get yourself some of that there dingleberry juice.

Or is it lingonberry.

One perhaps tastes a bit better than the other, no? ;)
 
If they don't allow residencies from other neighboring states (though a lot do to include the college I went to), you can sometimes apply for early residency based on certain circumstances. Showing that you are moving your family there for it could really help. Yes, being officially divorced would help you get a lot more money. Otherwise, everything the ex makes will be counted toward what kind of grants and loans you will get. Good luck! Sounds like the right step.
 
Hopefully that residency thingy works out..

I had to pay out of state tuition my first year..blah but the next 3 were in state lol so it worked out!
 
I wish you the best of luck with your application, etc. Boston is a great town to go to school (I almost went to school there twice - once undergrad (Simmons) and once grad (Northeastern)), especially in research and medical fields, so i would imagine bio would be great too. I hope you get the financial aid you need too, given how expensive Mass is...

Is your closest IKEA the New Haven one? It's a nice IKEA as far as they go (the one here in Cinci has been open a year and I have yet to go to it, but I've been to three other IKEAs, lol).
 
I would probably wait until I could get the divorce finalized, because that will probably impact your grants/loans for school.
Hopefully the NE residency thing will pan out. If not, I would move to MA soon and get residency established there.
 
(01) Divorce that junkpunch. Make sure your atty knows and duly notifies his that you are moving Ce out of state.
(02) Dance around your living room holding your divorce papers. Scream when applicable. Dye the words 'Single and Lovin' It' in yellow letters into your pink hair.
(03) Make sure it's okay/get permission to move Ce out of state.
(04) Move to MA.
(05) Let Ce sit on the Make Way for Ducklings ducks in that one park in Boston.
(06) Take some pictures of Ce sitting on said ducks.
(07) Create a kit with duck papers in order to scrap said Ce + duck pictures.
(08) Go to school.
(09) Become a biology rock star.
 
yeh.. the out of state thing is the only kink in the divorce.. He's already told me he's not going to let us go anywhere--but, RI is practically part of mass (haha) so if he fights me on it I don't think he has a chance in hell.. it's not like I'm trying to move across the country kwim.. I'm not going to let him stop this.. no way *shaking head*
 
yeh.. the out of state thing is the only kink in the divorce.. He's already told me he's not going to let us go anywhere--but, RI is practically part of mass (haha) so if he fights me on it I don't think he has a chance in hell.. it's not like I'm trying to move across the country kwim.. I'm not going to let him stop this.. no way *shaking head*
Don't worry about him. At all. T would have to prove without a doubt that your moving isn't in Ce's best interest... and it is. No one enforces the "you can't move out of state. Period." bs anymore... courts kind of understand the economy now and getting a good career is definitely in Ce's best interest. Seriously. Don't give that another thought.

ETA: I know because XH was going to fight us just recently about moving to WI and I talked to my lawyer about it.
 
You can also get a 'status only' portion of your divorce finalized... essentially allows you to file things as 'single'. I know it doesn't help with the divorce settlement regarding your son, but it might help for financial aid, etc. I had to do this when I wanted to buy a house and my ex-husband(or Wasband and Lena says!) was dragging his feet on the paperwork. This was a simple form and court filing. Talk to your attorney. Good luck!
 
If they don't allow residencies from other neighboring states (though a lot do to include the college I went to), you can sometimes apply for early residency based on certain circumstances. Showing that you are moving your family there for it could really help. Yes, being officially divorced would help you get a lot more money. Otherwise, everything the ex makes will be counted toward what kind of grants and loans you will get. Good luck! Sounds like the right step.

yep, yep.... I was going through my divorce (was filed but not final) while I started college and believe me it was a big financial difference. FILE NOW! You have 1000000 reasons to file, now it is also a financial reason. Once I could apply for financial aid (FAFSA) I basically got all my college costs covered by federal grants. (that was back in 1999 though) Don't let this guy screw up your future any more! file, file, file!
 
yeh.. the out of state thing is the only kink in the divorce.. He's already told me he's not going to let us go anywhere--but, RI is practically part of mass (haha) so if he fights me on it I don't think he has a chance in hell.. it's not like I'm trying to move across the country kwim.. I'm not going to let him stop this.. no way *shaking head*

Yeah my ex said that, too.

I'm in Ohio and he's in Michigan. ;)
 
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