And here's reason #74820398423098412.4 why I just love visiting my mother...

Leila

Leila

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Andrew and I offered to make dinner tonight. Ma's not much of a cook, so she took us up on the offer. We get the ingredients, and all is good. Then we get home and she's making a dessert with my niece. A dessert she knows I loathe (apple buckle-the base of which is cake--which I cannot stomach). Andrew said something about it being a bit unfair that dessert can't be something everyone will eat, and all my mother said was, "Well, it's not like she needs the extra calories anyway."

Nice As if I don't know I'm fat? Real nice. Yup. Love you too, Ma. Really.

I'm just repeating--it's only a few days, it's only a few days...
 
awww Im sorry!! I have a brother-in-law like that. I was walking into my in-laws house and he was there visiting his parents and he said "hide the food, here comes Jessica" Like I eat tons of food!! I weighed at the time 145 pounds but compared to his wife who weighs like 90 soaking wet he thinks Im fat and would make jokes about it ALOT!! They are really hurtful :-(
 
Leila, Want me to come pack your Mother's bags for her?

I would never, ever say anything like that to someone....How very hurtful....


Jessica, I actually had a comment for your brother in law, but it definitely is not very nice so I guess I'll do as my Mom always taught me and keep my mouth shut since I can't say something nice....LOL

Big HUGS to you both....
 
(((HUGS)))) Think happy thoughts...think happy thoughts (no..not the ones that involve plastic sheeting and axes).
 
I am so sorry that happened. When you need to escape come here and talk to us -- or to your husband. He sounds like a pretty cool guy that must love you a lot to call out his mother-in-law about not making a dessert for everyone to enjoy. HUGS
 
Sorry you have such an insensitive mama...some people just don't get that they are so out of line when they say those kinds of things. W.O.W.

{{hugs}}
 
Ah moms...can't live with them, can't get rid of them without going to prison. ;)

I'm so that you have to endure that. Why is that our mothers get really judgmental the older we get?
 
Oh yuck.... I'm going to my mom's this afternoon and can't wait to hear "You know, you really should _____"...
 
ugh, I so know that feeling.

earlier this month, at my brother's wedding, my grandmother pulled me aside to ask me what happened ... I had looked so good at Christmas, and it looks like I had gained about 25lbs since then. I politely informed my grandmother that at Christmas, I was covered up in long black clothes/jeans ... for my brother's wedding rehearsal I was wearing plaid walking shorts (I know, probably not the best thing to wear on a bigger butt, but they were comfy! hehee) and a tight green top. I haven't lost or gained a pound since Christmas.
Oh, and it was 3 days away from being "that time of the month" at my brother's wedding. So yeah, maybe I was bloated.

My dad's side of the family had a few snide comments to make back at my grandmother (my mom's mom), who were informed, thanks to my husband, of what she had said to me. Love my grandmother, but old age is being a b*tch to her. I mean, she has always been like that, but it's gotten worse as she's gotten older
 
I had an aunt that was like that ----I just thought to myself-- well DUH, it's not like I don't already know I'm fat, I look in the mirror every day, no reason to rub it in my face!!!! but yes it's hurtful that they have to comment!!!! Hang in there!!!
 
That's awful Leu :( My mother isn't like that (although she's always saying all my health problems are because of what I eat), but my great-grandmother was always judgmental like that and on me about my weight. It hurt!
 
I hear ya...have heard that in the past and mom isn't trim and fit either...I was just heavier than her at the time. I'm sorry...where does being a blood relative give you the right to HURT someone you supposedly love?

1girl1boy said:
Ah moms...can't live with them, can't get rid of them without going to prison. ;)

I'm so that you have to endure that. Why is that our mothers get really judgmental the older we get?
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After my mom said something hurtful in front of my sister and I...then she said..."I'm getting older and I have the right to say what is on my mind."

I looked my mom square in the face and I said "getting OLD is not a reason to be flat out RUDE...there is no excuse for it and when you were YOUNGER you would not have tolerated it from ANYONE...therefore I won't either...if you can't say something NICE, don't say anything at all". The look on my sister's face was priceless! ;)

Well that shut her up...that was her favorite phrase when my sister and I were teens! :p
 
Wow - she sounds exactly like my (evil) step-mother-in-law.

Deep breath and then go to your happy place.
 
Seriously? I can't imagine a mom being that snarky to their own child. Geez, your family is supposed to be your refuge and support system, aren't they?
 
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