I had a horrible weekend and I need help

This weekend probably tops the worst weekends ever. This might be long, so I apologize. My best friend that I've had since 8th grade has been trying to have a baby for a very long time, they tried infertility drugs, IVF, nothing worked and then they were very surprised and excited to find out she was finally pregnant after about 5 years of trying. She had a very easy/normal pregnancy, had her baby shower 2 weekends ago. They were head over heels excited about this little boy that was coming into the world. Well...I got a phone call Saturday morning that something horrible had happened. She gave birth to a baby boy that was stillborn. This was a complete and horrible shock. Her water broke and she went through labor fine, no complications other than she was progressing slowly. Baby's heartbeat was fine, nothing wrong. She pushed for 2 hours and nothing, so they decided to do a c-section, he still had a heartbeat when they unhooked her to take her back they checked again before they started, still everything was fine. But for some reason after they got in there, he was stuck in the birthing canal and they could not get him out. After they finally got him out they worked on him for 2 hours and there was nothing they can do. So here they are totally excited for this little baby and now they have nothing. Everything was ready for him at home and this is going to probably be one of the worst times they ever go through. I feel like there is nothing I can do for them, I mean I am there for them, but I feel totally helpless. They have only 1 good pic of him and he has a tube in his mouth. So yesterday I talked to her mom and offered to take some pics of him today at the funeral home. I'm hoping to get some decent pics of him that they will be able to keep and treasure. But I still feel like I need to do more. I want to get them something that would be special to them, but I have no idea what to get. I also am planning on putting a little scrapbook together of the pics I get of him, but still feel completely helpless. Anyone have any suggestions of a good keepsake that I could get for them?
Also, for anyone who prays, would you please pray for baby Tucker's family, they are going to have a long road ahead of them and will need all the prayers that they can get I'm sure.

That is so heartbreaking. I can't even imagine! I'll be praying for them.

Oh my gosh Angel, how completely horrible! I'm crying for them as I type this!

I have no suggestions but I'm sure they will thank God for a friend as special as you are!

This is so sad

Oh wow Angel! How incredibly sad. I will certainly pray for them. I think the photos and scrapbook are a lovely idea.

The are def in my thoughts & prayers, I am so sorry for the loss and can't even imagine what they must be going through. As far as getting them something, I really think that scrapbook will be a perfect remembrance. The only other thing I could possibly think of is maybe a shadow box with some of the things from the hospital (if they have anything) like the hat/bracelet/blanket, etc.

I am so sorry losing a child would have to be the worst thing that could ever happen to someone I will say a prayer for them.

Thanks everyone, I just feel like I should do more, but I don't know if there is anything more to do for them.

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The only other thing I could possibly think of is maybe a shadow box with some of the things from the hospital (if they have anything) like the hat/bracelet/blanket, etc.

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The hospital made them a memory box with all of this in it, so they will have that.

a friend of ours went through this a few months ago...very similar..Augie was full term and it was completely unexpected. What we did was take up a collection and have a custom made wooden box carved for him with a brass plate on top of it with his name...for his mama to store the things she had of his, hospital bracelet, etc. A keepsake box. Ours was carved in birch because Augie's middle name was Birch.

I ordered Tabatha a necklace from here after she lost Sebastian and Katriel and I highly recommend the site and their work.

Oh my gosh Lena, thank you so much for that site. I am going to check it out now and see if I can find something for her.

OMG, this is horrible! I'm so sorry. I'll keep them in my thoughts!

(((HUGS)))

I can't even imagine. Love and thoughts going out to your friends, Angel.

Oh, that's so horrible. I'm so sorry that happened to them.

Oh how horrible - my heart breaks for them. I can't even imagine that kind of pain. I will be keeping them in my thoughts and prayers.

Oh my gosh... how heartbreaking!! They are in my thoughts and prayers... I think a scrapbook is a wonderful idea... maybe a nice photo enlarged?

Oh, how sad...

My heart is just broken for them. I cannot even begin to imagine their pain. They will definitely be in my prayers.

I can't imagine how devastating that would be. I pray God will help them through their time of grieving.

Oh, Angel, that breaks my heart! I will be praying for comfort for them in the days, weeks, and months ahead.

so sorry to hear this and they will be in my prayers...I don't have any suggestions but I just checked out the sight Lena sent and it is amazing~

Oh, Angel. My heart is just breaking for your friends! What a terrible tragedy! I am seriously almost in tears...

Your friends and their precious angel baby are in my prayers. ((hugs))

Oh Angel, I'm so so sorry. My prayers go out to your friend and her family.

Oh my goodness, what a heartbreaking story! I can't imagine going through that! I'm sure your love and support will mean so much to them. They will be in my thoughts and prayers!

My heart is breaking for them, I will have them in my thoughts. I think the photos are a great idea, and the site Lena posted is perfect.

oh goodness! That is incredibly heartbreaking! My thoughts and prayers are with them.

Oh, how terrible. Thoughts coming their way.

the worst nightmare for one who struggled to get pregnant realized... my heart hurts... will be praying for your friends, and that God gives you the right words and right thing to do at the right time...

So, so heartbreaking. Love to your friends - and you too x

My thoughts and prayers are with the family. So sorry.

(((hugs))) to you & Tucker's family! My heart is broken for them! I will definitely be praying!!!

Sad doesn't begin to express my thoughts. My heart is broken for your friend and what she and her family must being going through now. They will be in my prayers. And I think it's wonderful that she has a loving friend like you at a time like this.

how absolutely heartbreaking! When my friend lost their baby, they did a cast of her hand and foot prints. They keep it in a memorial box and it is a very tangible reminder of their little angel. Some proof that the baby actually existed and made a real impression in this world, even though her life outside the womb never existed.

There is nothing worse than losing a child. My heart aches for her loss. I am sure just having you there to comfort her means more to her than anything.

How terrible sad. I am so sorry for them.

When my sister lost her child due to having her very, very early, I bought her a necklace with that baby's name on it. I didn't want to put a date on it cause she didn't consider that the baby's birthday, just the name. She wore it daily for a long time, I am not sure if she still wears it everyday, but I know having something like that close to her heart helped her. Also when a good friend of mine lost her mom, I gave her an angel. Something she could put up and see every once in a while.

I am so, so sorry. =(

I don't what to tell you I have never had to go through something like that, but my prayers are with everyone hurting.