Have to go back to work.....

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neenee

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So, I have had to make the very hard decision today that it is time I have to work again so that we can pay our bills. I seriously don't know how I am going to do it. I don't do well mentally when I work because I get seriously overwhelmed and then usually wind up sinking into a major depression. And I have basically become pretty agoraphobic. I generally don't leave the house but once a week (if that) and someone is always with me when I do.

It is so hard to find jobs too. My DD works at TGI Fridays and they are hiring. Hopefully she can hook me up......

I am so scared and depressed already. Life really sucks sometimes. :crying:
 
Good luck with the job search, I'm looking too as I know I won't get enough hours over my summer to keep afloat from November to March with out some more hours or a new job.
 
neenee said:
So, I have had to make the very hard decision today that it is time I have to work again so that we can pay our bills. I seriously don't know how I am going to do it. I don't do well mentally when I work because I get seriously overwhelmed and then usually wind up sinking into a major depression. And I have basically become pretty agoraphobic. I generally don't leave the house but once a week (if that) and someone is always with me when I do.

It is so hard to find jobs too. My DD works at TGI Fridays and they are hiring. Hopefully she can hook me up......

I am so scared and depressed already. Life really sucks sometimes. :crying:
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HUGE HUGS i am so right there w/ ya sistah!

i started working last October doing Speech Path. work Tu/Th while Jessica was in school and by February i was nearing a breakdown! i had a REALLY hard time juggling the stresses of getting the kids ready for school/activities/homework on top of of getting myself ready, planning my therapies for the diff kiddos etc and still designing.... OY!

why can't we just invent something so we don't have to worry about this stuff?! ;) good luck w/ TGIFs... i'd make a horrid waitress (picture your food on your lap....)! ;)

xooxo
 
I started a new job this year and I found that my attitude had so much to do with how I deal with things every day. If I go into it thinking that I am lucky to have a job when so many people do not; that it gives me the opportunity to meet new people and grow as a person; etc., then I am much happier in my day and able to keep from feeling overwhelmed. Good luck!
 
Aww hun, I am so sorry this will be so hard for you! :(
I too have had to go back to work this year, and have already gotten laid of twice..
But I know its what we need right now, so a searching I will go... LOL..
Keep your head up hun, TGIFs could be really fun.. :)
 
hugs...i'm right there with you...i actually go back on the 26th and i think i've almost every night since i accepted the job offer...good luck...
 
{{{HUGS}}} and good luck with the job hunting...we're here if you need us :)

on a side note ... I am so looking forward to retiring in the next 15 months and be a SAHM...I think I actually work better under stress but I can see daily since I got back from Kuwait my patience is VERY VERY thin at home and it is just not good for the fam..so I hope that we can make do with my retirement and DH's job to get by..I may work part time, but it will only be after he gets home from work...not paying $1000 in daycare any longer than I have too!!!!
 
Aww, Nee Nee...I'm sorry that you have to, but I hope you can take some time to also try to find a job doing something you might enjoy and that might bring you some happiness to your day and help to your situation.

And look at it this way - you said you wanted to be able to get out of the house more :) Think of all the new friends you'll make ! :thumbup:
 
Im sorry you have to go back to work and itll be hard on you. Im kinda in the same situation right now too and have been for several months!! Hope you have some luck finding an awesome job!!
 
I can't imagine having to go find work right now - wow. This is hard stuff. I have always had super low self-esteem and anxiety issues, and sometimes working helped that, and sometimes it didn't. I hope you can find something that gives you lots of positive feedback so you can see that you are STRONGER than you think and more capable than you give yourself credit for. :)
 
{{hugs}} I haven't worked in 19 years (as of December 20th) so would be apprehensive as well. I hope you can find a fun job that you will enjoy.

Just a thought ... I know several people that have gone back to work at elementary schools (the pay isn't really high but it was above minimum by a couple of bucks it seems)... nice thing is...no weekends...summers off...and they are off whenever the kids are on vacation... they really seem to enjoy it. Maybe??? It can be amazing how children can sometimes really cheer you up ... I used to volunteer at the elementary school and the kids really cheered me up and I enjoyed it.
 
Yuck. That darned work thing gets in the way of everything. {{hugs}}

Have you considered doing something that would allow you to make an income at home?

I love being self-employed and will never (hopefully) have to work for anyone other than myself ever again.

I'll be thinking of you sweets. I hope that you can find something that you will enjoy and that will make going back easier.
 
{{hugs}} I'd have a hard problem getting out of the house and finding a job, too. But good luck!! BTW... maybe you will be able to design your own flair!! ;)
 
((((HUGS)))) We are on the road to the same situation so I know that feeling. Ugh. I hope that you find something and it all goes smoothly. Hang in there!
 
Awwww I completely understand where you're coming from Neenee! I've been there, too. In fact, if I wasn't designing now, I'd still be working outside the home. It's so hard, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do for your family. *HUGS*
 
NeeNee, I hope things work out for you and that you're able to find something that will bring you joy. You're such a sweetheart & you're going to be loved wherever you go, girl!
 
good luck, jeanye! i definitely know how you feel....i am dreading going back to work again when the boys are in school. maybe weight loss will help with my anxieties ;) :)

hugs! you know where to find me :)
 
{{{HUGS}}} Neenee! I remember the day I had to go and try applying for work. I hadn't worked outside the home in like 20 years. I had sunk into a depression anyway with problems some of my boys were having, and then my dh had to travel up to Alaska to work for 3 months. I thankfully found work at my youngest son's school, and they were so understanding when I would have to take off because of trouble that another one of my boys was causing at his school. I ended up working there part time for 3 years, and it was such a blessing. I'm working at another job now, but I'm like Dawn in that I just am so thankful that I have a job in these tough economic times. My work is hard sometimes, but I know that if I wasn't doing it, I'd be sitting in my house not talking to anyone and just being a homebody. Nothing wrong with that, but I really need to be out and about with other people.

My house isn't nearly as clean as I'd like it, there are a lot of unfinished projects, but it's just where my life is at right now. I'm hoping to find the time to join the gym and get some much needed exercise to help me feel good and strong (and lose weight would be a nice bonus).

I love working now, and no matter if I stay at this job much longer or not, I will always be a working gal. I love it!
 
Thank you girls so much for your encouragement, stories and wubs. I too hope that I find something I love doing. Will make it so much easier to go to work I know.

All of your comments have got me thinking though so I am going to explore a few job possibilities doing something I love like writing or being creative. Maybe I will find something that allows me to express myself creatively and earn money. I need to find a scrapping magazine to write for that pays $! :p

Hugs girlies! You are all the best!
 
(((HUGS))) - and good luck finding a job!

I went back to work in April after staying at home for two years, and even though I enjoy working more than I enjoy being a SAHM it was a huge change, and at first I was pretty overwhelmed. My SO is only home at weekends, so suddenly I had to work full time as well as doing everything with the kids and at home. I drop the kids off in two different directions too, one at school and one at daycare, so mornings were the worst for me. It is a lot better now though, we have settled into a routine, and SO has finally realised that it's unrealistic to expect to come home to a perfect home on fridays, so we share more of the housework.

You can do it!
 
Lots of places are hiring right now for the holidays. What about working at a portrait studio? Or maybe being a cashier? Or you could stock shelves at the grocery store? Easier jobs, that I always enjoyed doing in the past, but not super stressful. You could also look for a civilian job at one of the many local bases or posts in your area! All the employees will be pretty polite and it shouldn't be as stressful for you that way. Either way, just go into the job thinking of all the positives, like not worrying about money at home, meeting new friends, having some time away from the norm and it should help you. Good luck!
 
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