What would you do??

I need some help ladies! Maybe you can help me decide what to do here.

I work with a 17 year old (she'll be 18 in January), and while she's nice and I like working with her, she's told me stuff that I don't agree with. It actually frightens me a lot.

She drinks A LOT. She gets drunk every single day after work, and laughs about coming to work hung over every morning. And she LAUGHS about drinking and driving (!!!!). Last week she was caught but was .1 point away from being charged with a DUI so was left off with a warning.

Yesterday she was telling me that she drove around town ALL day ripping around going 90 kms per hour (about 55 mph) IN town where our speed limit is 40 kms / 25mph) and that her brakes are screwed up and she could barely stop at the stop signs and that she *almost* backended someone. Ad she hit a tree. And she laughs like its the FUNNIEST thing ever.

Well, obviously, i think her driving is extremely dangerous, and I honestly don't feel safe walking in town (we don't have sidewalks through most of town, just on main street, so I have to walk on the road) if I know she's out drinking and driving during the day, that she's going 2x the speed limit and her brakes don't work! I'm so scared that she's going to hit someone, an older person, maybe a mother pushing their baby in a stroller or maybe a group of kids crossing the street to school.

I HATE knowing stuff like this. I feel like I should be reporting to the cops, but I don't have any solid proof. Should I phone them, tell them what she told me, and ask to keep an eye on her? The only thing is that I don't want her finding out that it was me that called her in. Because we live in a TINY town (2000 people), jobs aren't plentiful, and she would HATE me if she found out I reported her... I wouldn't be able to work at the restaurant any more and I love it there. I don't want to jeopordize my job.

Aaaahhhhh, I don't know what to do!!

yea I would defenitely call and report her. Im sure they would keep it anonymous and if you were worried about that you could always report her and say you saw her driving recklessly and she almost rear-ended a car etc and not give a name that way you arent saying she told you and could possibly lead back to you

I dont know what I would do in a situation like that. I would tell her that I don't approve of her behavior and tell her someone could seriously get hurt. If she comes in hungover for work couldn't you say something to management so they keep an eye out on her?

I would first talk to her about responsibility, etc. and would report her for sure.

Can you imagine... if something happens to someone, or to her? And something WILL happen, I'm sure, if she continues on that path.

Man, that's really tough Jae I don't know what I would do, but I def think something needs to be done. Whether you have a serious talk with her, or call and report her or something. I'm sure you could call the police and say you saw her driving recklessly and just give her plate number.

I woudl call the police, and give them her license plate # .... she's going to seriously hurt herself or someone else, plain and simple

Yes, call and report her license plate number and just give any of the stories she's told as an example. They will watch (and pull her over) if they see her doing stupid things.

I hated to do it, but I reported a friend of mine because I couldn't get her to stay home with me ... they wanted to go out joyriding after taking some rufies.... =( I was in that car that I reported a few days later and we got pulled over for doing nothing TWICE.

So reporting her license plate will flag her.

lauren grier said:

I woudl call the police, and give them her license plate # .... she's going to seriously hurt herself or someone else, plain and simple

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ditto. that is RIDICULOUS

Yes, you are right girls - I should at least call in the plate number. She's been pulled over a couple times but they had to let her go with warnings. Me calling in with some stories and her plate number might be a push they need to get her off the road.

I really wonder how they can let kids like that get their licenses in the first place. Obviously she passed her road test, but MAN. I think she's supposed to be on a graded license though, like only 2 other people in her car with her and one of them has to be a family member. I know that she drives around with her car FULL of people.

Maybe I could call in and say I was a customer at the restaurant and overheard the conversation. I mean, its a TINY restaurant and we can hear everything. There were a few people in and she was talking loudly.

As for her showing up to work hung over, our bosses don't care so much as long as the work gets done well. So far, her hang overs have not effected her work. She actually is a very good waitress and a very nice person. She just makes really stupid choices because she's immature and obviously thinks she's invinsible (she was in a really bad drinking/driving accident last year where she was thrown from a rolling vehicle which landed 2 feet away from her - she thought it was "awesome" and wants to do it again!!!).

I agree with La!

scrapperjade said:

She just makes really stupid choices because she's immature and obviously thinks she's invinsible (she was in a really bad drinking/driving accident last year where she was thrown from a rolling vehicle which landed 2 feet away from her - she thought it was "awesome" and wants to do it again!!!).

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this is a really bad disaster waiting to happen~

I would report her. We've had about 4 teen/drunk driving deaths in our area in the past few months. They have no idea and think they are invincible. A guy I went to high school with spent 15 years in prison b/c he made that decision, thought he was invincible and killed 2 children in an accident. She needs a wake up call before it's too late.

I agree with everyone - you have to make the call, 'cos something is going to happen, its just a matter of when.

Its a tough position to be put in - but you have to do what your head and heart are obviously telling you what is the right thing to do, for her and your community.

scrapperjade said:

She just makes really stupid choices because she's immature and obviously thinks she's invinsible (she was in a really bad drinking/driving accident last year where she was thrown from a rolling vehicle which landed 2 feet away from her - she thought it was "awesome" and wants to do it again!!!).

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I wish people could spend a few days/nights in the ED with me and see what really happens when you drink and drive and drive without care for others. OR TEXT and drive, we are getting more and more teens and adults in with that too. :thumbdown:

that last part is really scary because a girl I knew in high school was in a chase with the police and was thrown from the vehicle and she was killed in the accident. Her little brother like a year later was killed when a semi truck made an illegal u-turn in front of him and he went under the semi. Neither accident were awesome or cool and the mom/dad only had these two kids who were both killed before they were 21 I would love to talk to this girl and hopefully talk some sense into her so she can see just how serious it is!!

scrapperjade said:

Yes, you are right girls - I should at least call in the plate number. She's been pulled over a couple times but they had to let her go with warnings. Me calling in with some stories and her plate number might be a push they need to get her off the road.

I really wonder how they can let kids like that get their licenses in the first place. Obviously she passed her road test, but MAN. I think she's supposed to be on a graded license though, like only 2 other people in her car with her and one of them has to be a family member. I know that she drives around with her car FULL of people.

Maybe I could call in and say I was a customer at the restaurant and overheard the conversation. I mean, its a TINY restaurant and we can hear everything. There were a few people in and she was talking loudly.

As for her showing up to work hung over, our bosses don't care so much as long as the work gets done well. So far, her hang overs have not effected her work. She actually is a very good waitress and a very nice person. She just makes really stupid choices because she's immature and obviously thinks she's invinsible (she was in a really bad drinking/driving accident last year where she was thrown from a rolling vehicle which landed 2 feet away from her - she thought it was "awesome" and wants to do it again!!!).

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or they could go on some calls with a wrecker driver or work on the cars afterwards in a bodyshop. I dated a wrecker driver and my husband worked on cars so I have seen the aftermath of the accidents. We just talked to a friend of my husbands who was driving a wrecker and he said after one year of it he could no longer handle pulling up to accident scenes

dabittymama said:

I wish people could spend a few days/nights in the ED with me and see what really happens when you drink and drive and drive without care for others. OR TEXT and drive, we are getting more and more teens and adults in with that too. :thumbdown:

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I say follow your gut.

Think it's possible that she's just talking out of her bum to get a rise out of you? I have a cousin like that, about essentially the same stuff too and none of it is true... she just likes attention. Either way, it's scary stuff cuz you just don't know.

AnnieBananie said:

I say follow your gut.

Think it's possible that she's just talking out of her bum to get a rise out of you? I have a cousin like that, about essentially the same stuff too and none of it is true... she just likes attention. Either way, it's scary stuff cuz you just don't know.

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No - its definitely true. I feel bad for her and her siblings though - they've had pretty much no upbringing - a childhood of abuse, neglect, etc. Their dad is in jail, they're mom ignores all the kids, her brother (13) lives with their grandma and refuses to speak with either parent. Her sister is 14 and lives in her mom's house, but the mom has a boyfriend and hasn't come home for over 3 months, and the girl I'm talking about moved out on her own earlier this year at 17.

I don't doubt for one second that she's telling the truth, and I honestly think that she's just trying to seem/look cool and get attention. Unfortunately, the attention she will get isn't necessarly the kind she should want.

I feel bad for her really. But I feel more worried about damage she could cause. I know its just a matter of time.