Looks like i'm going to be an Aunt.

my little brother, 24, and his girlfriend are expecting. i don't know how far along she is. this is a shock. my mom isn't happy. we love Heather, she's a great girl. its not that. they are just not financially stable. i don't know what they are thinking. my brother likes to spend money. never saves. cant' afford to buy new tires he desperately needs for his car. and now they are going to have a baby. they're already on WIC. She's on Medicaid. i just don't think they realize how hard its going to be. they live with her parents right now. my brother is a volunteer firefighter and also works full time at Pepsi. Heather has been out of work for awhile now and i think gets unemployment. i told my brother things will be very different with a kid. no more going out and buying a two hundred dollar camera, which he just did. he says "i know, i know" but i don't really think he does know, lol. he'll see. i'll be there for them and its a bit exciting to become an auntie, but i'll worry about them.

girl, I feel for you.

my OLDER brother has made some decision in his life that have caused me so much stress and worry. He started dating, then went into debt to buy a house for a girl who had four kids. From three different dads. he was 28 at the time. My parents didn't know she had kids, he was just telling us all how great she was - then one day he called because his car had been repossessed and he neede money to get it back. Apparently he stopped making his car payment to have money for the house.

I lent (ahem - "gave") him the money to get it back so he could get to work, but ratted him out to my parents about the kids. I was so worried about the decision he was making and thought he was ruining his life. It was truly a huge family crisis, as he had asked my grandparents for money without telling my parents.

And you know what?

He's been married for 11 years now, and has been the best dad in the world to all four of the kids. In fact, he and his wife have been foster parents and recently were asked by the state to adopt a baby they were caring for. He's over the moon excited because this is his first baby experience, and I just couldn't be happier for them!

It was a rough road - he definitely had money troubles for several years, but it all worked out. He really came through.

So hopefully your brother will do the same!!

aww, thats a fairytale ending, lol! i love that! i know my brother will be a great dad; he was dating this other girl awhile back who had a child from another guy, and he was soo good to that little boy. watched him while she worked, bought him things he needed (and toys, lol). so i know he'll be good, i just worry about them financially. he'll have to be on his toes!

eh. .no one is ever financially prepared to have a child.. even when they think they are. They'll find a way.

i was just going to say what la said. they will make it work! hopefully a child will help your brother with is priorities and his spending! glad it is with a good girl and one that the family likes! hugs!! and congrats!!!

La and Lizzy, you are right; no one is really prepared, lol. he just has a habit of being careless with his money. he wants to be a good dad, and i know he will, so this will probably be his chance to 'grow up' and be more responsible. he's a good kid though, and i adore his girlfriend.

I don't think anyone is ever really prepared for having kids either, there is never going to be a "right" time. I got pregnant when I was 24, SO was still at uni, I had dropped out and was working as a manager in the student union bars and nightclubs (not exactly baby friendly). I was making ok money, but didn't know what saving meant at all.. It all worked out great in the end though - it was hard in the beginning while SO finished his degree, but we made it through, and now we have our own house, another daughter and both have pretty good jobs (and I have a degree now too!) So it might be the wake up call that he needs! And congrats on becoming an auntie!

Well, the wonderful news is that you are going to be an Aunt! Congrats for that love! I love being an Aunt. My nieces and nephews are just the best and I love having them in my life! Hope it all works out for the best and I am sure it will.

I'm sure they'll learn to be better with their money. You just have to know where your priorities are. Sometimes you have to pass on that TV you're just dying to have and buy diapers, or Christma presents, or get something else you actually need, not want.

We learned, as I'm sure he will.