Confessions of a Bad Wife/Mom... [PLEASE SHARE YOURS!]

LeeAndra

LeeAndra

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I am a bad wife today because... my husband is learning how to play guitar and if I have to hear him s-l-o-w-l-y pluck the same three notes ONE. MORE. TIME., I will likely try to shove his head into the guitar hole. OF COURSE, I want him to succeed, I'm glad he has a new hobby that he's passionate abt, [insert more good wife-isms here].... but SERIOUSLY, I can't tell the difference between this slightly higher note and this slightly lower note and as much as I politely say it does, the handful of notes he is playing over and over do not sound like a song to me AT ALL.

I am a bad (step)mom today because... my stepson got a hunting game for Christmas from my BIL and SIL and that's pretty much all he and my husband have done all weekend. I am SO SICK of seeing animated animals die on screen and hearing the game say, 'Boy, that was a big one!' and 'You're the new hunter hero!' and I am SO SICK of not being able to watch TV in my own living room. I don't make you watch scrapbooking shows; don't make me watch a hunting video game.

*shew* I feel so much better.

:p

What's your confession of the day??
 
I wouldn't even know where to start with those confessions..

Here's a tip for the games though - We never really had a problem with too much gaming before, my youngest is too little, and the oldest would play a lot for a few days and then not play any for weeks. She got a DS for Christmas though, so now all she wants to do is to play it. I made up some rules, strongly inspired by my mums rules for my brother when we were younger: If she plays outside, she'll be allowed to play her game for half that time afterwards, so if she's out for 2 hours, she can play for an hour afterwards. If she tidies her room, or helps around the house, she'll get the same time to play afterwards, so if she tidies for half an hour, she can play for half an hour. And we might do something with homework too, we haven't decided that bit yet. And no time can be saved for the next day. So far it's worked great - it's a great way to make sure they get outside to run around for a bit! Yesterday she had so much fun outside in the snow that she forgot about the game when she came in;) Not sure if this would work on the husband though!
 
Oh. LeeAndra. I love you. I think my life would be richer if you lived next door.
 
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L - you are a good wife/mom cause you deal. I'd be a total shrew and be proclaiming "ok kiddies enough animal killing for today" and setting the timer on my dh as to how long he could practice guitar plucking in my presence. :glare:

I can't even think of anything cute or witty to say - in general I'm right there on being the bad mommy/wife these days - I just want to sleep and I just want kids to not crawl on me 24/7. Except the babies, I'm good with them. But enough with the needy 9 and 7 year olds....they need to buck up and give mommy some space LOL.
 
Well, let's see...I'm a bad wife b/c DH is getting on my last nerves!!

Just once..ONCE in 9 years I'd like DH to get up and DO something without me having to TELL him to do it..which he then interprets as me "nagging" him. I'd like him to not leave his dirty clothes strewn from his lazyboy all the way to the bathroom and then bless me out when he can't find the belt to his uniform...I'd like him to NOT set the alarm for 5:30 am saying he's got to get up and go PT and then hit the snooze button for a solid hour making me lose an hour of sleep in the mornings. I'd like him to take his *(*)^& earphones out of his ears at night when he's on his laptop so he can acutally HEAR me and I don't have to repeat myself umpteen times. I'd like him to change a poopy diaper for ONCE in 5 years. I'd like him to get up with the kids early on a weekend just ONCE instead of sleeping til noon. While I'm at it I'd like him to just ONCE do the dishes, fold some laundry, pick up a toy, feed the kids, give them a bath, put them to bed etc. If he'd just do ONE of these things I'd be happy.

Sooo...he's been on leave for a WHILE now and it's a good thing he's going back today lol...

Oh and I'm a bad mama b/c I took all the new toys that DS got for Christmas that were going to be a royal pain for me..like a package of about 50+ toy tools, and put them away so he can't find them.
 
Yesterday we drove home from vacation over some seriously icy/snowpacked roads. I asked Dan politely to put both hands on the wheel while he was driving. He yelled at me, "I usually have both hands on the wheel. I just don't right now."

That is such a lie. First of all, if there's ever a time you need both hands on the wheel, it's when you're driving on slick roads. And second, he never has both hands on the wheel. He's the sloppiest driver ever. I'll agree that he's never had an accident, but he drives with his knee or only his left hand 90% of the time.

However, I didn't reply and just kept my mouth shut. I earned that Mike's Hard Lemonade I have stashed in the fridge.
 
Kellie, you can live next door only if I get the other side. ;)

The video game scenario is the exact reason why we have 3 tv's in the house. 1 for me, 1 for Jordan, 1 for Joey. Jordan can blow stuff up all afternoon long, and I don't have to deal with it back in the bedroom on my computer/watching my tv. Seriously a lifesaver.

I'm a bad wife because I'm kicking my brother-in-law out of the house in 2 months, even though I know it upsets my husband to have to do it. I NEED MY FRIGGEN SPACE ALREADY!
I'm also a bad wife for not getting the Christmas tree undecorated so he could take it down last night. Now he'll be rushing my tonight to get it done so he can vacuum up 90483290890423543 needles before his friend comes over to watch the bowl game tonight.
 
Don't feel bad, I'm a bad stepmom too!

The kids' mom got them Rock Band for Christmas.. and of course it goes where they go. ( I would have been totally 100% AOK with it if she wanted it to stay at her house!) Well, they've been at our house most of the time.. and its been set up in the living room. At first it was fun, but I'm tired of all the tap-tap-click-tap-click-click noise and all the clutter from having a drum set and two guitars in the middle of our super tiny living room. I put my foot down over the weekend and thankfully DH was supportive. It's been moved to the basement now.

As for being a bad wife.. I think I'm doing OK. (Warning, possible TMI.) My worst fault currently is because we're trying to get pregnant.. so every/other day I'm asking DH to do that thing where we can get the job done, but in a way where I don't really have to participate or get into it because I'm so tired. We joke that I'm a bank teller - because I'll say "thank you for your deposit".
 
I am a bad wife because I got sick. You really think I like throwing up for 12 hours and not being able to eat for 3 days? You think I can magically recover from that in one day? And having to take care of our pretty much self reliant children, washing but not folding the laundry, going to the grocery store by yourself, taking your son to one practice and loading the dishwasher is not "doing it all." That isn't even close to all I do in a day.

I love the guy and appreciate that he helped out but I better not hear him say that again.

I am a bad mom because I drained the battery on my son's DSi while playing it last night and forgot to charge it and put it back. Now he knows that I play it when he goes to sleep.
 
Nikki, what you need to do is go on deployment and let the roles be reversed :p that is what it took for me for my DH to realize how much I really do and WORK a full time job like he does!!! He realizes now how much I really do MULTI TASK!!!!

I am a bad mom because I got tired of Peyton turning the light on and waking Abby up and REFUSING to go to bed at a decent hour, he is only 2!!!!{this has happened twice in tha past 3 nights} so I took his light bulb out of the ceiling!:p

I'm also a bad mom becuase if you want to play your video games int he living room {and the 2 older kids have TV's in their room} , then they have to have their rooms cleaned and chores done! So clean rooms =video game time on big TV! and if it is a game I can't tolerate, they have to play either BEFORE i get home form work or AFTER I got ot bed!!!
 
nikkiARNGwife said:
Oh and I'm a bad mama b/c I took all the new toys that DS got for Christmas that were going to be a royal pain for me..like a package of about 50+ toy tools, and put them away so he can't find them.
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Oh God, I can relate to that! My FIL is into racing and he assumes that my son loves it too, so he got not only 1 but 2 50 piece race-car sets (like matchbox cars) that have all these TINY pieces in them. I can't tell you how many of those frigging things I've stepped on and swept up! And I hate to be mean, but I just dump them in the trash because my 6 month old is going to be crawling soon (she is already trying!!!!) and I don't want her to find them and choke on them!!!!

Then there's my MIL who believes that 4 1/2 year olds need these 3 toys for Christmas: walkie talkies, an annoying toy keyboard (that only has 1 annoying fake sounding piano sound!) and this racing car thing that flings the toy cars around and is so loud!!!! All 3 things are LOUD and I swear my son only wants to play with them when the baby is asleep!!! Ugh!!!!
Well, he broke the paino already, we took away the walkie talkies after he put them together and got that screetching feedback 1 too many times! and he doesn't care for the racing thing anymore!!!!
 
starxlr8 said:
As for being a bad wife.. I think I'm doing OK. (Warning, possible TMI.) My worst fault currently is because we're trying to get pregnant.. so every/other day I'm asking DH to do that thing where we can get the job done, but in a way where I don't really have to participate or get into it because I'm so tired. We joke that I'm a bank teller - because I'll say "thank you for your deposit".
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hahahaha!!!! :D so funny!! hey, sometimes its nice to just lay there and let them do all the work! :p

i'm a bad mom cause i get Chloe up in the morning for school, run her bathwater, lay out her clothes, coat and backpack and shoes, fix her cereal and her hair and then go back to bed, lol. (she's in first grade) granted i'm right there and sort of half awake to make sure she hears the bus, but i still fee bad. like i should be up with her but i'm NOT a morning person, lol.

my dh thinks i'm a bad wife but thats another topic entirely. one many of you have heard me rant and rave about. (don't worry, i have an evil plan muahahahaha!)
 
nikkiARNGwife said:
Just once..ONCE in 9 years I'd like DH to get up and DO something without me having to TELL him to do it..which he then interprets as me "nagging" him. I'd like him to not leave his dirty clothes strewn from his lazyboy all the way to the bathroom and then bless me out when he can't find the belt to his uniform...I'd like him to NOT set the alarm for 5:30 am saying he's got to get up and go PT and then hit the snooze button for a solid hour making me lose an hour of sleep in the mornings. I'd like him to take his *(*)^& earphones out of his ears at night when he's on his laptop so he can acutally HEAR me and I don't have to repeat myself umpteen times. I'd like him to change a poopy diaper for ONCE in 5 years. I'd like him to get up with the kids early on a weekend just ONCE instead of sleeping til noon. While I'm at it I'd like him to just ONCE do the dishes, fold some laundry, pick up a toy, feed the kids, give them a bath, put them to bed etc. If he'd just do ONE of these things I'd be happy.
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You just described how I feel about my DH!! UGGggh! lol
 
I'm quite sure I have many many bad wife moments I just can't think of one right now.

Bad mom moment.. Abby told me she had a sore throat yesterday (her first day back at school).. I handed her a Ludens and told her to suck it up and go to school. Preeeeeeeety sure she has strep. I win mother of the year, thank you.
 
I have one that is much worse which my son reminds me of often...

He broke both wrists almost two years ago at school and I did not believe he was hurt all that badly because who really breaks BOTH wrists at once? There was no swelling or bruising and he was still able to move his hands and fingers normally. Well we ended up taking him to the hospital because I noticed it was swelling or at least looked like it might be later in the day. Still no bruising though. (when I broke my foot it swelled like instantly and bruised almost black and I could not walk on it at all). He is also pretty dramatic and so when he kept switching which arm hurt it made me wonder. Needless to say he did break them and I felt quite guilty about not believing him from the beginning. If I had seen any signs of a broken bone or even a sprain I would have taken him immediately but there were none.

kscwgirl said:
I'm quite sure I have many many bad wife moments I just can't think of one right now.

Bad mom moment.. Abby told me she had a sore throat yesterday (her first day back at school).. I handed her a Ludens and told her to suck it up and go to school. Preeeeeeeety sure she has strep. I win mother of the year, thank you.
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nikkiARNGwife said:
Well, let's see...I'm a bad wife b/c DH is getting on my last nerves!!

Just once..ONCE in 9 years I'd like DH to get up and DO something without me having to TELL him to do it..which he then interprets as me "nagging" him. I'd like him to not leave his dirty clothes strewn from his lazyboy all the way to the bathroom and then bless me out when he can't find the belt to his uniform...I'd like him to NOT set the alarm for 5:30 am saying he's got to get up and go PT and then hit the snooze button for a solid hour making me lose an hour of sleep in the mornings. I'd like him to take his *(*)^& earphones out of his ears at night when he's on his laptop so he can acutally HEAR me and I don't have to repeat myself umpteen times. I'd like him to change a poopy diaper for ONCE in 5 years. I'd like him to get up with the kids early on a weekend just ONCE instead of sleeping til noon. While I'm at it I'd like him to just ONCE do the dishes, fold some laundry, pick up a toy, feed the kids, give them a bath, put them to bed etc. If he'd just do ONE of these things I'd be happy.
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Ditto to all of this except add in the toilet. I don't think my DH has scrubbed a toilet in the 12 1/2 years that we have been married. And believe me, he does his fair share of dirtying it!!
 
lol..seems I was on a little rant this morning :) yeah it wasn't a good wake up at our house today.

I love him I do..and I'm so appreciative of all he does for us and that I get to stay home with the kids. BUT...he interprets that as his job ends when he walks in the door every night. He doesn't get it that my job NEVER ends...it gets frustrating at times.
 
nikkiARNGwife said:
I love him I do..and I'm so appreciative of all he does for us and that I get to stay home with the kids. BUT...he interprets that as his job ends when he walks in the door every night. He doesn't get it that my job NEVER ends...it gets frustrating at times.
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And, a big HUGE DITTO from me!
 
kscwgirl said:
I'm quite sure I have many many bad wife moments I just can't think of one right now.

Bad mom moment.. Abby told me she had a sore throat yesterday (her first day back at school).. I handed her a Ludens and told her to suck it up and go to school. Preeeeeeeety sure she has strep. I win mother of the year, thank you.
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dooooood...I did this same thing to Sam when she was about 7 {now I work in the medical field and worked at the hospital on the same base as the school}....sent her off, the nurse called and said "I think you need to come get sam she has a fever and her throat is really red...I took my time, took her back to work with me and just had one of the nurses peak at her throat...SURE ENOUGH..she had STREP so bad they didn't even do a culture!!!!

same kid, the next year woke up at 4 am and said :my eyes hurt" I said "go back to bed Sam it will be ok"...then I got up the next morning and her eyes were literally STUCK together with this black gunk all over them...took me forever to get them open with a warm washcloth...sure enough she had pink eye in both eyes!
 
haha great thread. I think i can relate to almost every post!

Im trying hard to be a good mummy and wife today because ive been pretty slack in both departments for the last two weeks. My DH was on holidays so i took the opportunity to dump the baby on him quite a bit and call it "daddy and son bonding time".......when really i just wanted some me time to scrapbook. lol. :o
 
I'm a bad mom because when my 5 year old is screaming at my husband in the mornings that he's "ssssssssooooooooo tired" and wants to go back to bed (at the top of his lungs) that I storm downstairs and promptly make the situation worse by being angry. The child has a right to be tired, he's 5 and has to get up at 6:45 in the morning! I can't manage to think before 9!
 
I am a bad mommy cause my 3 year old is playing quietly in his room while I check my email for the last hour. He is very independent and it makes me feel guilty, but I have gotten used to this time. We do it most evenings after work/daycare.
 
nikkiARNGwife said:
I love him I do..and I'm so appreciative of all he does for us and that I get to stay home with the kids. BUT...he interprets that as his job ends when he walks in the door every night. He doesn't get it that my job NEVER ends...it gets frustrating at times.
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I totally understand Nikki. If I could go back and do it all over again, I would. Now that I work outside the home, I'm still expected (I use that term loosely...my dh never asks me to do anything) to do everything at home too. Since my dh has been out of work for about 3 months, I finally have him doing some things, but I still have so much to do on my days off or after work. He just doesn't care if some things aren't done. If the house never gets vacuumed...it wouldn't bother him. He thinks a few times a year should be sufficient! He has NO idea what I did every single day. We even had a gardener for about 10 years so he never even had to do yard work on his days off!! Uggghhh...
 
I must admit I'm a bad wife too......

Lately my DH has been snoring super loud at night and its driving me absolutely INSANE!!!!! So when he gets going I elbow him in the side. The worst part is when he jumps up to figure out what just happened, I jump up with him like I don't know whats going on and ask him is he ok (don't wanna blow my cover).

I know....its bad.
 
gabbygirl said:
I must admit I'm a bad wife too......

Lately my DH has been snoring super loud at night and its driving me absolutely INSANE!!!!! So when he gets going I elbow him in the side. The worst part is when he jumps up to figure out what just happened, I jump up with him like I don't know whats going on and ask him is he ok (don't wanna blow my cover).

I know....its bad.
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This is me too! My SO woke up with a really bruised arm one day;)

My latest trick though, is to pinch his nose together for a bit, that usually stops the snoring for about 5 minutes so I can fall asleep - I don't mind him snoring once I'm asleep, as it takes a lot to wake me up. I think I overdid it at the weekend though, he woke up with a really sore nose and couldn't understand why.. Luckily he only snores when he has a cold or has had a few too many drinks.
 
jessica31876 said:
I have one that is much worse which my son reminds me of often...

He broke both wrists almost two years ago at school and I did not believe he was hurt all that badly because who really breaks BOTH wrists at once? There was no swelling or bruising and he was still able to move his hands and fingers normally. Well we ended up taking him to the hospital because I noticed it was swelling or at least looked like it might be later in the day. Still no bruising though. (when I broke my foot it swelled like instantly and bruised almost black and I could not walk on it at all). He is also pretty dramatic and so when he kept switching which arm hurt it made me wonder. Needless to say he did break them and I felt quite guilty about not believing him from the beginning. If I had seen any signs of a broken bone or even a sprain I would have taken him immediately but there were none.
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We did the same thing, although it took much longer to notice though. When she was 3, my DD fell out of her top bunk in her bunk bed. She was a little sore, but seemed fine, so we thought nothing of it. 3 days later she was still a bit sore, so we took her to the doctor just to be on the safe side. The doctor said he didn't think anything was broken, but said we should go to the hospital to do an xay just in case. And it turned out she had a hairline fracture in her shoulder. Not my proudest mummy-moment.

When my second DD fell off the sofa (she was standing on her head on the sofa, a trick she learned from her big sister) in the summer (she was 2.5), at least I had learned my lesson, and took her straight to the ER, and she had a broken collarbone. It seems like a rite of passage my kids have to go trough at that age!
 
How can so many DH's be so similar? That Y-chromasome has a lot to answer for.

My husband makes a lot of promises - big and small ones, like 'I promise to clean the rabbit out, clean the toilet, rearrange the mortgage' etc. Does he ever keep a single one???? Nope, never and I'm a nag for reminding him to do what he's promised! I have to admit I sometimes go on abit - mainly about the toilet funnily enough (but really, would it kill him to clean it properly once in a while?) or the mountain of underpants that are festering on his side of the bed (I'm on strike over picking them up for him).

I'm a bad Mum too - I didn't want to play in the snow with Alex this morning, so I sent DH out there instead (he's working from home as the snow has pretty much made the UK grid to a halt), so I can have 5 minutes in peace here with you :)

Unfortunately I can add a lot more to the lists.... but not just now as I have quite in the house and maybe I can actually make something too whilst they're outside!!
 
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