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neenee

01-20-2010, 03:17 PM

Okay girlies.....tomorrow is DD's first OB appointment and I am going to take her! Then we are going to have lunch, grab her some Vitamin E oil and I want to buy her a good pregnancy book.

I am so stoked to see her. I haven't seen her since July 17th! And.....I get to see my grandbaby (even if it is digitally....hey, I love digital) too! What an amazing reunion this will be! I am not going to be able to sleep tonight I can already tell.

Any other suggestions to help cut down on stretch marks? Our family gets them REALLY bad! Or suggestions for the BEST pregnancy book you found?

digideb

01-20-2010, 03:19 PM

Have fun & good luck!
I have no advice since I've never been preggo. lol
But, I found this book at Barnes & Noble one time & I'll definitely be getting it once I do get pregnant! It's not a "all about pregnancy" kind of book...just a fun one! http://www.amazon.com/Belly-Book-Nine-Month-Journal-Growing/dp/0307336182/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264025907&sr=8-1

lacidock

01-20-2010, 03:26 PM

How exciting NeeNee :) Have a great day with your daughter tomorrow! As far as books, I liked What to Expect When Your'e Expecting with my 1st baby.
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/What-to-Expect-when-Youre-Expecting/Heidi-Murkoff/e/9780761148579/?itm=1&USRI=what+to+expect+when+you%27re+expecting

Sarah8914

01-20-2010, 03:27 PM

I really liked the What to Expect book. With my first, I always read way ahead to see what was happening next. So exciting. And with my second I looked at it once or twice. With my third, I never opened a single book. Not that I'm a pro, just too busy to care. ha! Anyway, I liked it a lot. As far as stretch marks... I don't know. You can do cocoa butter, but I don't know if it helps. In my opinion it's pretty much all heritary. Maybe you can do a few things here and there, but pretty much, if the family gets them bad, everyone will... and if they don't, you won't. Not always the case, but that's been my experience talking with friends and such. good luck!

Misty Cato

01-20-2010, 03:27 PM

I found What to Expect When You're Expecting (http://www.amazon.com/What-Expect-When-Youre-Expecting/dp/0761148574/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264026421&sr=8-1) pretty much covered everything I wanted to know.

ETA - Obviously I post too slow, lol!

FlirtatiousBrat

01-20-2010, 03:28 PM

I swore by Mother's Friend for stretch marks!

no book advice..I just wing it lol

lauren grier

01-20-2010, 03:30 PM

nothing will help.. lol. It's genetic. if they're going to happen.. they're going to happen. no stopping those buggers ^_^

I'm a "just wing it " mom too .. no book advice here

jessica31876

01-20-2010, 03:31 PM

I dont think you can really avoid stretch marks. Cocoa butter supposedly helps but I dont think it does (I got stretch marks during pregnancy because I gained like 80 pounds). I think if you really watch your weight gain you can limit the stretching of the skin. As for books its been so long since I had kids (12 years + since I was pregnant). I know there are some cool sites online you can sign up for which will email what is going on with your pregnancy each week that you could have her sign up for.

Anyhow good luck and I hope the day goes really well and you get to see your grandbaby. Is she far enough along to know if its boy/girl yet? Or are you guys not sure how far along she is?

msteiner99

01-20-2010, 03:31 PM

I'm so excited for you - I hope the two of you have a wonderful time together!

As far as stretch marks - no clue. I have terrible stretch marks - nothing worked for me.

I love What to Expect When You're Expecting. I also really liked The Pregnancy Journal: http://www.amazon.com/Pregnancy-Journal-Day-Day-Healthy/dp/081186989X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264026591&sr=8-1

neenee

01-20-2010, 03:32 PM

Wow, I am glad to hear that What To Expect When You're Expecting is still a great choice! It was the first one that came to mind but, I didn't know if it was replaced by something better since I bought the book um....19 years ago. LOL

starxlr8

01-20-2010, 03:34 PM

I hope it all goes well for you NeeNee!

HeatherKS

01-20-2010, 03:34 PM

I really liked Dr. Sears' The Pregnancy Book and The Baby Book with my first one. They are kind of geared toward attachment parenting, which I wasn't into but they had lots of great info on breastfeeding and other aspects of babies.

Have fun tomorrow! How exciting! :)

jessica31876

01-20-2010, 03:34 PM

I also saw a journal type book at Barnes and Noble for her to write stuff in. Like food cravings and the first kick and all that. I wish I had done it with mine because now I dont really remember those little things and my kids ask and I cant remember.

neenee

01-20-2010, 03:35 PM

Anyhow good luck and I hope the day goes really well and you get to see your grandbaby. Is she far enough along to know if its boy/girl yet? Or are you guys not sure how far along she is?

We will find out tomorrow how far along she is. I am thinking by her estimate of her last period that she is about 11 or 12 weeks.

At what point can they start to be able to tell the sex? Around 20 or so weeks?

DawnMarch

01-20-2010, 03:36 PM

heathergw

01-20-2010, 03:38 PM

oh how fun! I don't have anything to add... all great suggestions so far... the only thing I can think of for stretch marks is to drink plenty of water... it won't prevent them but it will help them from getting all itchy.

krystalhartley

01-20-2010, 03:43 PM

I'm surprised at the OCD people saying they just "wing it." The "What to Expect" book was such a wonderful read for me...every little question had answers. I *needed* to know what the heck was going on with my body and what to expect up the road. For a first pregnancy, it was such a fabulous source of information--> peace of mind.

Of course, that was before the internet became what it is today, so I'm sure all the same info is online now.

neenee

01-20-2010, 03:47 PM

I'm surprised at the OCD people saying they just "wing it."

Bwahahahahahaha! I thought the same thing. I am very OCD and I lived by my books.

jessica31876

01-20-2010, 03:51 PM

i checked and it says 18-26 weeks is the best time to tell. Is she hoping for one or the other? With my first I was told it was a boy. I had boys everything...didnt even bother picking out a girls name and then I had my daughter LOL. I was kinda shocked when they said SHE is ok. I argued with my nurse that I was not having a girl and she kept saying that I did have a girl.

FlirtatiousBrat

01-20-2010, 03:52 PM

I'm extremely OCD but you also have to remember that NO baby is alike...none what so ever. All of my kids are completely different so what works for one person with one baby will not necessarily work for another person and their baby. I think there's TOO much information and stories of "what works" that it's overwhelming. You can pick up 3 different books and 3 different authors are going to tell you the "right" way to parent..it's nonsense to me. Have confidence in your mothering abilities and your intuition. Mother's intuition is always best.

kscwgirl

01-20-2010, 03:54 PM

I read what to expect when you're expecting.. but my kids have never (and probably will never) done anything "by the books". Every kid is different. :)

Have FUN with your daughter NeeNee!! So glad you get to see her!!!!!!!!!!!!

FlirtatiousBrat

01-20-2010, 03:57 PM

I think you should buy her THIS (http://www.sweetshoppedesigns.com/sweetshoppe/product.php?productid=19332&cat=267&page=1)

real stories..from real women who have been there!

mummytothree

01-20-2010, 04:02 PM

this is a good read!! I didn't read it till pregnancy #3 and still found it very funny!!!

http://ebooks-imgs.connect.com/product/400/000/000/000/000/053/480/400000000000000053480_s4.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Belly-Laughs-Naked-Pregnancy-Childbirth/dp/073820949X)

Emmy

01-20-2010, 04:05 PM

I thought What to Expect and The girlfriend's guide to pregnancy were the perfect combination of books. No idea on the stretch marks - I think you can try to use vitamin E or lotions but it's just a genetic thing....I have a girlfriend that had triplets and she had not a single stretch mark until the week before they were born (35 weeks!) and I've known people that got horrible stretch marks with a single baby.....

I hope you two have a good visit and some bonding time.

loralyn

01-20-2010, 04:10 PM

I thought What to Expect and The girlfriend's guide to pregnancy were the perfect combination of books.

I second this! And that stretch marks are genetic, unfortunately!

I'm so happy you get this opportunity to be with her for such an exciting appointment!

neenee

01-20-2010, 04:16 PM

I think you should buy her THIS (http://www.sweetshoppedesigns.com/sweetshoppe/product.php?productid=19332&cat=267&page=1)

real stories..from real women who have been there!

Oh Meg! That is a wonderful idea! I have it......I still need to finish looking it all over. So many awesome stories and inspiration in there! She doesn't have her own computer. Maybe I can buy her a copy and print it out for her......in book form.

krystalhartley

01-20-2010, 04:18 PM

FlirtatiousBrat

01-20-2010, 04:22 PM

yeah I agree that a book with the pregnancy related issues is a good idea..especially for a girl going into this without a clue of what's going to happen with her body. (assuming here..since she is so young)

I just don't agree with child rearing books all so much...lol I've always been a do it my way type of girl though. Some people NEED that direction and methods..

Have fun tomorrow NeeNee!! :)

FlirtatiousBrat

01-20-2010, 04:23 PM

Oh Meg! That is a wonderful idea! I have it......I still need to finish looking it all over. So many awesome stories and inspiration in there! She doesn't have her own computer. Maybe I can buy her a copy and print it out for her......in book form.

it's BEAUTIFUL printed out :) Would be something she could go back thru over and over

isaacsmom

01-20-2010, 05:48 PM

We will find out tomorrow how far along she is. I am thinking by her estimate of her last period that she is about 11 or 12 weeks.

At what point can they start to be able to tell the sex? Around 20 or so weeks?

I think they usually say they can tell the sex starting around 18 weeks or so. I had an ultrasound at 16 weeks 6 days and the ultrasound tech was positive it is a boy. However, I went in for a "special" ultrasound at a maternal/fetal specialist, so I am wondering if maybe she has a better eye then say your ordinary ultrasound tech - since she was/is used to looking for abnormal/unusual things such as birth defects, etc.

At any rate, I think the norm is kind of to do an ultrasound early when your first go in, and then another one around 20-22 weeks. At that second trimester ultrasound is when you can usually find out the sex if you want.

Good luck tomorrow! It will be an awesome experience and great bonding time for the two of you!

joelsgirl

01-20-2010, 06:08 PM

Congrats! I cannot believe you are old enough to be a grandmother, though. You must have started having kids at like twelve, right?

profiler_mar

01-20-2010, 06:13 PM

I loved this book -- it's really funny and tells it like it is.
Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy (http://www.amazon.com/Girlfriends-Guide-Pregnancy-Vicki-Iovine/dp/141652472X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264026947&sr=1-1)

CONGRATS NeeNee! :hugs: I agree with Dawn's book suggestion...I have not had a child myself, but my SIL personally did not care for What To Expect, she felt it was really preachy. But she LOVED Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy! :)

nesser1981

01-20-2010, 06:25 PM

I second Belly Laughs by Jenny McCarthy, What to Expect When Expecting and this was one of my favs.

A Girlfriend's Guide To Pregnancy (http://www.amazon.com/Girlfriends-Guide-Pregnancy-Vicki-Iovine/dp/141652472X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264037081&sr=8-1)

nun69

01-20-2010, 06:38 PM

no advice on books, but I did love what to expect when you are expecting and hhad my 1st and last 14 years apart! I am sooo glad you are getting to see her and I hope you guys have a wonderful day together!

MamaBee

01-20-2010, 06:39 PM

How exciting!!! Good luck...

And for what it is worth, when the baby comes (and I like to read ahead)... I really liked this book because it wasn't "old fogie"...

The Modern Girl's guide to Motherhood (http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Modern-Girls-Guide-to-Motherhood/Jane-Buckingham/e/9780060885342/?itm=1&USRI=The+Modern+Girl%27s+Guide+to+Motherhood)...

lovely1m

01-20-2010, 06:40 PM

Jenny McCarthy's books are must haves! I also loved What to Expect When You are Expecting. As for stretch marks, ugh, I had 1 on a scar before I went into labor which shocked me cause I have them just from growing. After I came out of labor, I had an entire maze on the lower half of my stomach, I thought maybe I just couldn't see them before, but I was assured that they weren't there before. I had been putting stuff on my stomach the whole time, too.

neenee

01-20-2010, 06:41 PM

Congrats! I cannot believe you are old enough to be a grandmother, though. You must have started having kids at like twelve, right?

Ha ha! Just about. I was 16 when I had my oldest DD. I feel older than I am somedays, especially when you find out you are going to be a grandmother!

Priscilla

01-20-2010, 07:18 PM

I second this one :Dthis is a good read!! I didn't read it till pregnancy #3 and still found it very funny!!!

http://ebooks-imgs.connect.com/product/400/000/000/000/000/053/480/400000000000000053480_s4.jpg (http://www.amazon.com/Belly-Laughs-Naked-Pregnancy-Childbirth/dp/073820949X)

Sarah8914

01-20-2010, 07:36 PM

Gotcha! But I read the book for my first *pregnancy*...not for child-rearing. Things like mucous plugs, delivery poo, and post-partum bleeding would have freaked me out if I hadn't known about them beforehand.

totally agree here! I have read bits and pieces of maybe two "baby" books or "sleep" books and they drove me nuts because my babies have never done anything like "the books." but I LOVED pregnancy books. (well, the one I read... haha)

then I have the most OCD friend ever (and a control freak) who had read 5 billion books and it going nuts that her baby isn't doing anything in any of them and keeps trying to find more books to get the answers. Let it go already! Seriously, it drives me nuts seeing her go nuts because of books. yeah.

scrappurple

01-20-2010, 08:52 PM

How exciting for you Neenee!! I have no advice until she delivers ... stool softners ... that's all I am sayin'. ;)

crecia27

01-20-2010, 08:57 PM

How exciting! I hope its a great day for both of you! I agree with the book suggestions. I happy that What to Expect is still so popular, it was given to me by my first doctor, but that was 18 years ago :blink:

Jessica - When I had my last baby it was an emergency c-section. I was only 37 weeks so the baby had to go to the NICU for several hours. They finally brought it in around midnight. The nurse said "now remember, when you change the diaper don't pull back the head of the penis." I almost started crying - my house was an explosion of pink!! Thankfully she was wrong and I really did have a girl.

mrs_jb

01-20-2010, 09:00 PM

I loved this book -- it's really funny and tells it like it is.
Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy (http://www.amazon.com/Girlfriends-Guide-Pregnancy-Vicki-Iovine/dp/141652472X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264026947&sr=1-1)

Yep, this is a fav of mine too! It's so funny and really more geared to the mom/pregnancy part, more so than the baby.

I'm also a Dr. Sears fan and like The Pregnancy Book.

scrapperjade

01-20-2010, 09:59 PM

I'm another one for the What To Expect When You're Expecting book. I also bought a What To Expect Journal, which I LOVED. I wrote down everything in it, and I am so glad I did!

As for stretch marks, I tried everything. And I got them baaaaaaaaaad. So bad that when the doctor walked in to deliver Ava, she said "Woooah - do you ever have stretch marks!", and then said I was in the running for the top 2 worst cases she'd seen of it. Nice.

eranslow

01-20-2010, 10:23 PM

neenee

01-20-2010, 10:36 PM

I also recommend What to Expect When You're Expecting. I also found a ton of information online - babycenter was my to go place when I was pregnant. I know you said she doesn't have a computer but it might be something fun for you to follow too?

Exactly! I did a bit of looking into it already today and as soon as I know the babies due date tomorrow, I am going to get signed up. That way I can have journaling things to go along with any pictures we have or B's feelings, etc. It can be a mother/daughter project.

eranslow

01-20-2010, 10:41 PM

Exactly! I did a bit of looking into it already today and as soon as I know the babies due date tomorrow, I am going to get signed up. That way I can have journaling things to go along with any pictures we have or B's feelings, etc. It can be a mother/daughter project.

It's super sweet to hear how excited you are about your new grandbaby!! Your daughter is very lucky to have you!!

pomi

01-21-2010, 12:33 AM

Enjoy your day, Nee Nee! I'm happy for you.

Since I live in other part of the world, I have no books recommendation. :) But thinking of any other useful and beautiful things, what about a DVD with pregnancy yoga or pilates?

MamaBee

01-21-2010, 07:07 AM

Exactly! I did a bit of looking into it already today and as soon as I know the babies due date tomorrow, I am going to get signed up. That way I can have journaling things to go along with any pictures we have or B's feelings, etc. It can be a mother/daughter project.

Oh that reminds me... have you and EVERYONE you know sign up for baby stuff... diapers, etc. so you can get coupons stocked up...

ltarbox

01-21-2010, 08:51 AM

Okay - I know I'm late to the party (again), but I had a few thoughts.

As others have mentioned, babycenter.com is fun. Once you plug in the baby's due date, they will send you a weekly e-mail telling you what is going on with your pregnancy, how the baby is developing, etc. It's kind of cool. Also, if you find that you have any sort of complications or other questions during your pregnancy, the community at babycenter is great about answering questions and offering support. I found lots of good information about my thyroid issues over there during my last pregnancy.

For diapers, wipes, and other stuff like that, you HAVE to check out the Subscribe and Save option at Amazon.com. We usually buy Huggies, and we have found that it's cheaper than Costco. You go to the product you want to buy, and over on the right hand side, it will have a button for Subscribe and Save. You can tell it how often you want it delivered. You get 15% off and free shipping. And, then you sit back and wait. Diapers and wipes appear on your doorstep care of your loving UPS guy once a month (or as often as you have chosen). We buy diapers, wipes, Pull Ups, and toilet paper this way. And, I'm sure there are a bunch of other things we could do too, we just haven't gotten around to it yet. I LOVE it! And, it saves money too. I don't think you can subscribe for Newborn size diapers, but you only use those for a short time anyway. Once the baby is in Size 1/2, you're good to go!

Good luck with the Dr. appointment NeeNee! How fun! It's so true that it doesn't matter what the circumstances are, every baby is a blessing to be cherished and loved. I know you daughter will appreciate your support so much!

rach3975

01-21-2010, 09:39 AM

You're probably there now. I hope your DD and the baby are doing well and the 2 of you are having a great time together!

sczos911

01-21-2010, 11:06 AM

Oh! Have fun! You sound so excited.

I would get her Your Pregnancy Week by Week. And a Baby Names Book!! :) As for stretch cream - no clue. I got them bad and tried smearing stuff all over the tummy.

jessica31876

01-21-2010, 11:30 AM

Ohhh just an FYI I saw a baby names book at my local Dollar Tree. It was the same one I bought when I was pregnant with my last for a whole lot more LOL. SO if you have a dollar tree nearby maybe stop in and see if they have it there?

WalkersMommy

01-21-2010, 11:35 AM

I learned a lot about pregnancy from the weekly newsletters from
babycenter.com You should sign her up :)

crystalbella77

01-21-2010, 02:43 PM

no book advice..I just wing it lol

ditto! :D

Have fun NeeNee!

lmno

01-21-2010, 03:31 PM

I also liked:
The Pregnancy Journal: A Day-to-Day Guide to a Healthy and Happy Pregnancy
http://www.amazon.com/Pregnancy-Journal-Day-Day-Healthy/dp/081186989X/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264112776&sr=8-4
If she plans on breastfeeding I recommend this:
http://www.amazon.com/American-Academy-Pediatrics-Mothers-Breastfeeding/dp/0553588702/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264112855&sr=1-1