I guess I could have just added this to our yahoo convo, but I didn't wanna. hehehe
I use Tide (or Western Family) cold water detergent for the wash, with Fleecy fabric softener if I am hanging to dry outside (which I did over the past weekend, hoping the sun comes back again soon so I can do more outside!!). If I use the dryer, I throw in a Bounce sheet, scent free. lol
Not much help am I? The key is to do the laundry, don't let it pile up (yeah, I rarely practice this myself, but it does work according to my MIL. lmao).