Warning: Whiney post ahead

[nikkiARNGwife]

DH has been gone 3 mos. I miss him. I feel like he's been gone 3 years. I get so frustrated and lonely. I'm tired of going to bed alone every night. I'm tired of DS not seeing his Daddy every day. I'm tired of missing him.

Sorry..needed to whine. :(

[Megan Turnidge]

Awww..sweetie! It's ok to whine ALL YOU WANT about that! You're doing great! You must be so strong!

[gracielou]

So sorry! My husband hasn't been gone for that long but when he has been gone at times I know how lonely and tiring it can be. Sending hugs your way!

[lizzyfizzy]

dh and i were just talking about you brave women and your military lives! we are so grateful for what your family sacrifices day in and day out, i know that doesn't help your personal family situation, but know that i pray for you guys often. you deserve for him to be home everyday and so does your son!! HUGS!!!!

[LibbysMommy]

Awww Nikki!! Big hugs to you!! I say whine all you want!! We're here to listen!! I would be whining too - I don't know how you do it!!

[Stacey42]

Hugs to you!!! Whine all you need. I know I couldn't do it.

[Traci Reed]

{{{BIG HUGS}}} Nikki! You have EVERY right to whine!

[DawnMarch]

You have every right to be whiney! I'm whiney when my DH goes on too many business trips -- I can't even imagine being apart (and being a single parent) for months at a time!

[BrattyMeg]

((((Nikki))))

[ColleenSwerb]

Huge huge hugs Nikki!! You have every right to whine. I say a small prayer several times a week for those men and women overseas AND their amazing families. I'm so very thankful to live in this country.

[AddictedScrapper]

Ohhhh girl {{HUGS}}!

[Paula]

Aww sweet Nikki! I am so sorry you're lonely and missing your hubster. I wish I had something to say to help. All I can do is say thank you for the sacrifice you and your hubster are making for our country.

[Becca Bonneville]

Oh Nikki!!! ((BIG HUGS)) Whine away girl!! You definitely have every right!!

[clearskies]

Sympathy from a fellow military wife/widow. Mine's leaving next week, but it's a short one this time (...ok, super short...2 weeks). It sucks, I agree. But, unfortunately it comes with the territory. So, whine away. (I'll join you in a few weeks...) ;)

[Nettio]

Aww, I'm so sorry. Been there, done that and unfortunately will be doing it again next year. :thumbdown: We got lucky and my DH's first deployment was only 4 months, this next time will be a year - I thought the last time seemed long, I'm really kind of worried about how I'll survive an entire year. So yeah that's my long way of saying that I totally understand and to hang in there.

[my3hens]

Nikki you are NOT whining babe! I can totally understand why you would need to vent and if you ever need to please please dont hesitate!! BIG hugs!!!

[nikkiARNGwife]

Thanks everyone...you'd think after 7 years as a military wife I'd be used to it but I don't think I'll ever be. It could be worse I know...when DS was a baby he was in Afghanistan for a year and I worried constantly about him. This time at least he's in Washington...but it's also a little more frustrating b/c I just don't GET this mission and why the nat. guard has to do it and WHY it has to be for a freaking year and WHY he hasn't gotten leave yet...so I'm just frustrated and pregnant and I just want him home.

[ZaCola3]

Awww-Nikki!
I can only imagine...and not very well what you must be going through.
BIG HUGS!
(())(())

[Mandy]

HUGS!!!!!!!
BTDT. I've been through 3 six monthers and a two year deployment on top of that. It sucks, bad. Sure there are the times when you are glad to have time to do the things you want, the way you want to do them. But mostly you just want warm arms at night, someone to argue with and a shoulder to cry on.

If you ever want to vent or whine, feel free to call on me. Ive been doing this for 13 years.
It doesn't get any easier, does it? :(

[scarletsierra]

((hugs)) ((hugs)) ((hugs))

I feel that way and mine's only gone 6 weeks this time. I know it can be so hard and so lonesome and so emotionally taxing sometimes. Thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts! Also, I'm here if you ever want to chat.

eta: You know it's not something we ever get used to, not really. And no matter how "prepared" we are it doesn't make it any easier sometimes. I'm seven years into this as well and still hate this feeling. All we can do is lean on those who support you and take it one day at a time.

[scrappychic]

That's tough Nikki! {{{Hugs}}} to you and DS!

[mcardall]

BIG HUGS to all of you. Whine, vent, kick, scream & throw a tantrum if you want. I am so grateful to your husbands that I'll sit and listen for hours if it will help. Your families are all in our prayers everynight, too. Thank you for your sacrifice.

[Chels85]

Aww ((hugs)) You have every right to whine... just be strong and hang in there, keep up with your scrap threapy

[crystalbella77]

AWWWW!!! {{BIG GIANT HUGS}}} You have every right to whine!! Never apologize for that!! I am so sorry! I can't imagine how hard it would be! So sorry that I don't have the right words!!! :(

[Nonnie917]

Nikki, I know what you are going through. Been there, done that. You have every right to whine and as the other ladies say, we're here to listen. I do pray for our military and their families everyday. You are so important to this country. Without the men and women of our military, we wouldn't have the freedoms we have today. There are times even now when I miss my DD so much I just sit and cry, but I know that DSIL is doing a great thing for our country and it's people. Big huge hugs to you girl. Hang in there and remember that we are here for you.

[kscwgirl]

(((((Nikki)))))) Whine all you want babe, we're here for you and you deserve it. I'm sorry honey.

[rach3975]

Yup, whine all you want. Having him away has got to be even harder when you're pregnant. I'm glad to hear that he is somewhere relatively safe, but it's still a huge sacrifice your family is making for us. Thank you!

[Laura_A]

Aww honey, I really do know how you feel and I wish I could give you huge hugs right now. My DH has never been deployed for a year, but he goes on frequent assignments that last anywhere from 4 weeks to 3 months. It's no fun for sure!

Where is your hubby and when does he come home?

[cynthia1900]

Whine away...hope it makes you feel a little better to share those feelings. You are entitled....and we understand.

[MelissaL88]

Big HUGS to you Nikki! We thank God every night for families like yours who sacrifice so much to keep us safe! Whine away as often as you like, girlfriend :D

[newfiemountiewife]

Nikki, I'd feel the same way, I'm so lame, I'm like that when he's away for 1 night. ((hugs))

[junebug]

Oh, Nikki! My heart is aching for you and my eyes are all teary. I've been there before. I know how horrible and lonely that feels. My DH was in the Army and was deployed to Iraq in Jan. of '03 for the war. He left two weeks after my oldest was born. I remember dropping him off and driving home crying the whole way with 2 week old Chloe in the backseat sleeping, oblivious to it all. I could not tear my eyes away from Fox News, lol. Luckily I had great friends in our FRG and we were all there for each other. I hope you have a support system. Friends, family anything to help keep you occupied. I know its especially hard being pregnant and having little ones too. Keep your chin up! Though i know its hard. We're no longer in the military, but if you need to talk you can PM me. {{hugs!}}

[Sarah8914]

Nikki, I'd feel the same way, I'm so lame, I'm like that when he's away for 1 night. ((hugs))

I was going to say the same thing! Whine all you want! That's what we're here for!

[cindyg]

Listen, I have so much respect for you gals going through this.....YOU DESERVE TO WHINE!!!! You certainly have my permission!

[mlewis]

I'm tired just after Brian being gone one long day at work so I absolutely cannot imagine how hard it has to be! Sorry, Nikki!!