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wildblueeyez
10-05-2008, 12:55 PM
Yesterday was my niece's wedding - she's like a little sister to me as I was only 15 when she was born. As I grew up, she practically lived at our house (with my parents) until my Mom passed away in 94. After that, my husband and I always managed to "need" her to babysit for us so that we knew she had money in her pocket to do things with her other teenage friends, even though we couldn't afford it. We'd pay her to come babysit and we'd go somewhere for coffee or go walk around the mall or a Walmart for a few hours. She came from a family of 5 kids and was the oldest so most of the time when she needed money, the answer was "we just don't have it". Don't get me wrong, my brother and his 2nd wife (his first wife abandoned him and the 4 kids - when the kids all were under the age of 5) provided well for them, there just wasn't money for extras. As she grew into a young adult, I do not get to see her as much as I would like. :(

anywho.... it was a very emotional day for me. My Mom would have been so proud of Amanda on her wedding day. She's found an extraordinary man to share her life with. Her husband asked her to marry him using my Mom's engagement ring and their wedding rings yesterday were my Mom and Dad's rings. I had my Mom and Dad's cake knife from their wedding that I cleaned up for her to use and I FORGOT IT AT HOME!!! It was going to be a surprise so atleast I didn't disappoint her. I cried a zillion times yesterday. LOL Adding to the emotions of the day was the fact that we just found out 2 weeks ago that my Dad has prostate cancer and that it has metastasized to his bones.

I was a bit disappointed that my daughter wasn't in the wedding but I understood the reasons why she wasn't - and trust me, Taylor had a blast NOT being in it LOL... After seeing my niece with her twin brother's new babies and her best friends little ones, I know I did a great job at being an aunt because I see her doing the exact same things for them as I did for her when she was little. Always taking them everywhere with her and doing things with them.

So, you can see why it was an emotional day for me.... *sigh* feels good to "get it out"....

meems
10-05-2008, 01:00 PM
Glad your niece is on a good start to the next phase of her life. Sounds like you did great by her. Sorry about your dad. :(

lauren grier
10-05-2008, 01:18 PM
((hugs)) so sorry to hear about your dad :( :(
I think you did a GREAT job as an aunt :)

Nikki Epperson
10-05-2008, 01:37 PM
Awww, LuAnn!!! I'm so sorry to hear about your father!!!

But it sounds like a wonderful wedding and that you have been an EXTREME blessing in her life!

crystalbella77
10-05-2008, 01:48 PM
Awww! I am so sorry about your dad! {{big hugs}}

What a great you are! I am so glad that she is starting this chapter of her life so well and with such a supportive family behind her. :) I can totally see whey you were so emotional! {{hugs}}

Jennifer
10-05-2008, 02:03 PM
Awwww...lots of hugs to you. What an amazing aunt you are! She's one lucky girl to have you.

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

pbumbaca
10-05-2008, 02:05 PM
Wow what a lot to deal with, I'm glad she had a beautiful wedding and found a great guy but I'm so sorry to hear about your dad!

Penny Springmann
10-05-2008, 03:14 PM
LuAnn, the wedding sounds delightful and I'm sure your niece knows all you did for her and is truly grateful.
I'm so sorry about your father! (((((HUGS)))))

Tracie Stroud
10-05-2008, 04:26 PM
Awww, (((HUGS!)))

wildblueeyez
10-05-2008, 05:14 PM
thanks for the shoulder to "cry" on everyone!!! :wub:

lizzyfizzy
10-05-2008, 08:15 PM
glad you could come and chat with us! so sorry about your dad, luann...what a hard thing to be going through. on the flip side...congrats for your neice, it sounds like you did a great job of being a fabulous supportive aunt. i hope my neices/nephews (one day) will look back and love me the way your neice loves you! sorry the day was so bittersweet. ((HUGS!!))

julifish
10-05-2008, 09:26 PM
Lots and lots of hugs LuAnn!!! I'm glad your niece is off to a great start with a wonderful man and that you got to be there to share it with her. I'm very sorry to hear about your dad. Let me know if I can help you in any way- even thought I'm not there I'm thinking about you girl!

newfiemountiewife
10-05-2008, 09:54 PM
I'm so sorry about your dad LuAnn. ((hugs))

I can imagine it was an emotional day, but how wonderful that she found someone great to start her new life with. I'm sure you being there for her made all of that possible.

my3hens
10-06-2008, 09:12 AM
Lu Ann the wedding sounded just beautiful and shes very lucky to have you in her life! I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I will be thinking of you guys!