Need Some Prayers Please

[amystoffel]

I've decided to talk about something that, honestly is really really embarassing to me. But I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this in real life, and I'm kind of a wreck.

Two and a half weeks ago when I took that sudden "break" my husband had gotten his second DUI in a matter of years the night before.

I've shared with a lot of people his battles with his depression, but not with alchohol. It's just not something I ever really wanted to share. His behaviors and actions *before* the incident we haven't even been able to deal with because of this.

The facts are that he will go to jail for a minimum of 30 days, after all the court and lawyer fees and restitution, fines and classes we will be broke for years. And considering he works in law enforcement he will most likely lose his job if he is convicted. His pre-trial is next tuesday.

I in no way shape or form condone what he did. The prayers I need are just for some strength and guidance. I don't know what will happed to my marriage, or our family or anything. I feel really really lonely and scared and sad and I just don't know where to turn. I'm going to find an Al-anon to go to for myself, and he has been in treatment since it happened.

It's really been eating at me for days....and I just needed to share and get some support...for me...not him...

I'm sorry if this is a bummer or sounds needy. I'm just feeling kind of low. Thanks you guys.

[SamaraGugler]

Amy-
Big hugs girl.

If you need to chat, I'm Luv2Crop2000 on yahoo.

[Traci Reed]

I'm so sorry Amy, it's so sad when those we love make such stupid decisions that affect us so deeply. {{HUGS}}

[Andrea Gourley]

I'm so sorry Amy that you are going through these difficult times xxx

[emmasmommy]

Sweetie, you know I'm always here if you wanna talk right? You can IM me anytime...it's always a little easier to deal when you talk about it. Love you girlie!

[Leah]

First, here's a BIG {HUG} just for you. Second, no apologies needed.

I am sorry that you are having to go through this.

Be strong. Things always have a way of working themselves out in the end. Have faith.

[joelsgirl]

I'm so sorry, Amy. That is such a hard thing to deal with, trying to figure out what is best for your children, your husband, yourself. So hard. :( I'll be praying that God will be your strength & your refuge, and that you will have wisdom & peace as you deal with the consequences of what happened.

[sammi]

Big ((((HUGS)))) Amy...I'm so sorry you have to be dealing with all of this and by yourself. I am not so great at wording things...so prayers and pt going your way.

[Mandy]

HUGS Amy. I wish you had someone to talk to in real life. These things are never easy to deal with. Sending up prayers that you will be able to get through this.

[Paula]

{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}} I know the effect that alcohol can have on a family. My thoughts and prayers are with you! I know the Lord will buoy you up and help you through this! I love ya girl!

[NettieB]

Hugs and more directed prayers now, Amy. Have no clue what to say here. I'm hurting with you and hoping clarity and a feeling of peace surrounds you soon.

[ColleenSwerb]

I hope you find the strength and guidance you are looking for Amy. Sending up some prayers for you and your family.

[AmyM]

I'm so sorry, Amy. That is such a hard thing to deal with, trying to figure out what is best for your children, your husband, yourself. So hard. :( I'll be praying that God will be your strength & your refuge, and that you will have wisdom & peace as you deal with the consequences of what happened.
Me too. (((HUGS))) Amy

[HeatherKS]

Oh Amy, I'm so so sorry you and your family are dealing with this. I'm sure you're hurt, angry, sad & scared for both your husband and your family. You'll find the strength to get through this because God never gives us more than we can handle. You'll be in my prayers. :(

[meganmecrazy]

I'm so sorry Amy {{{{{HUGS}}}}} I have you and your family on my prayer list now. Alcohol sure can destroy a family, I know that all too well growing up with an alcoholic father.

[ditzyscrap]

((((hugs)))) Amy!!

[suze]

((hugs)) I'm so sorry Amy.

[isaacsmom]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I will be saying prayers for you and your family. I pray that you find the strength that you need to get through this. As others have said, God does not give you any more than He knows you can handle, though it will be difficult. (((Hugs))) Amy.

[newfiemountiewife]

(((hugs))) Amy

[lizzyfizzy]

i'm sooo sorry you're going through this, amy. :( my heart aches for you and your feeling lonely. i just wanna come over and have a good chat with you over a cup o' joe. my prayers are going out for you!!! big hugs!!!!!

[Melissa Bennett]

Oh Amy I am here for ya!!! I just wish I lived by ya so I could give you a big hug. I pray you find the strength to make it through this difficult time. If you ever need to talk I am on yahoo as thebennettbunch5 ((((HUGS))))

[~Julie~]

I'm so sorry Amy. I pray you can get through this. {Hugs}

[AnnieBananie]

((huggles)) Alcoholism is a horrible disease. I'm a recovering alcoholic, my father was/is an alcoholic, and my husband is recovering as well... so I've been through the whole gamut. I feel for both of you and I'll be keeping y'all in my thoughts and prayers. If you want to talk, you can always IM me too (yahoo- mamabanannie).

Just a note... Al-Anon is very helpful, but sometimes it's cliquey... so if you don't like one meeting, do try a different one until you find a good fit.

[mrshobbes]

**hug** I'm praying hard for you, Amy, that God comfort you and give you guidance on what to do for yourself and your family.

[Kat Stokes]

Huge HUGS Amy!!!! You know we are always here if you need us!

[Rae's World]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! Hang it there!!

[amystoffel]

thanks you guys sooooooooooo much. i kinda feel better just saying something instead of just lurking around feeling sorry for myself.

i need to re-download my im or something, cuz i can't chat :(

[SeattleSheri]

{{{{HUGS}}}} I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[crystalbella77]

So sorry Amy. Addiction is always a really hard thing to deal with and it can really ruin things. I hope that you can find some strength and guidance and be able to get through this difficult time. HUGS!

[tuneskids]

((hugs)) Amy

[DawnMarch]

So sorry to hear about all that Amy! I know it must be such a difficult thing to work through. (((Hugs!)))

[rainydays]

Oh Amy, big hugs to you hun...you will certainly be in my prayers tonight

[Becca Bonneville]

Oh Amy honey, I am so sorry to hear this! I too will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!! ((hugs))

[scarletsierra]

Amy I just wanted to send some ((hugs)) and prayers your way. I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm so very proud of you for seeking help for yourself as well. It will help tremendously. Thinking of you!

[mom2peanuts]

Amy this is hard, I am so sorry about everything that's happened. I'll be praying for you, take care.

[EveRecinella]

*huggs' Amy!

[Nonna2Dreja]

Amy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family....
Big HUGS to you....

[Dottie]

So sorry you're having to go through this. Heaps of hugs to you.

[Julie Billingsley]

Amy, oh sweetie, I'm so sorry ((hugs)) :( I'm sending you lots of prayers for strength. Wish I could be nearby to give you a real hug.

[Juno]

Oh this must be awfully hard for you (I know what it feels like to live with someone who suffers from depressions) and I think it's good that you shared it with us. Talking about it is a step in the right direction. I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts!

[lhaslem]

amy - so sorry that you and your family are going through this. Sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts that you can stay strong for you and your kiddos!

[~ashleigh]

I am so sorry, Amy. Take comfort in knowing you are not alone. My brother is an alcoholic. It is a horrible disease that affects a lot of people. You will get through, and you will be stronger for this. (((hugs)))

[MelissaL88]

{{{{{HUGS}}}}} Amy. I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. Sending lots of prayers to you and your family. Courage!

[iJenny]

((big hugs)) amy. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this.

[CA Dreamer]

Oh, Amy. I wish things were easier right now. Tons of P and PT to you and your boys.

[juliemarie]

Awww Amy, so sorry you are going thru this. Many many hugs & prayers to you. Take care of yourself!

[Penny Springmann]

Amy, you know I'm here for you. You are making the right step by getting help for yourself and by not letting his disease rule your life. I'm so proud of you for making the decision to face the challenge head on. You're in my thoughts and prayers!

[crystalbird]

Just wanted to add more hugs for you Amy! So sorry you have to go through this!

[jessica31876]

Sorry you have to deal with this. I went to Alateen when I was younger because of my parents alcoholism. It did help me understand that it was their problem not mine and I could not solve it for them and I could not make excuses for them. I enabled their behavior by doing that for so many years. It got really bad when I was a kid to the point where we would have no food or drinks but my parents would have their wine coolers and beers. My stepdad has been sober for like 22 years now and my mom was sober for 19 before she passed away. When I married my husband he would drink a bottle of whiskey/bourbon everyday. He was a really mean drunk. He has not had a drink of anything in probably 12 years or more. So I have defenitely been there and understand where you are coming from. The Al-anon will defenitely help you understand alot more about the disease and you will have alot of people to talk to who understnad what you have been through and have been there themselves.

[rach3975]

I'm so sorry you're going through this! But it sounds like a very strong decision to seek help and support for yourself. Sending you lots of positive thoughts!

[amandabarugh]

(((hugs))) Amy. I've been thinking about you alot this week.

[melmos75]

Oh Amy - I am so sorry that you have are having to deal with this. Alcohol messes everything up - it was the demise of my parents marriage. I really hope that things turn around for you and your family. Big Hugs to you and I am here if you ever need to talk.