I Kind of Feel Like Having a Little Cry...

[Leah]

I am sitting here, trying desperately to ignore DS in the kitchen screaming at the top of his little lungs.

He peed his pants {again today} right before we were ready to walk out the door for preschool. The rule is: You can't go to preschool if you're peeing and pooping in your pants.

Does he care? Noooooooo! :(

He figures he can just stay home and play with the daycare kids and toys.

So...I buckled him into the high chair - wet pants and all - and he's sitting there with nothing to do, nothing to touch, nothing to destroy.

He's going to be the end of me....

[nun69]

that sucks...but sounds like he knows how to get to stay home..so as hard as it is, stick to it :( my DD is going through this same thing with my DH and I wish I was there to help...

[mom2peanuts]

Oh I can so relate to that. I am in the process of potty training my middle one, she will be 3 at the end of July. I started on Saturday and since then she has not gone on the potty once, everything has been in her pants. She knows what she is supposed to do but doesn't want to. It's so frustrating, I know how it feels.

[Jennilyn]

Don't give in to putting on diapers...that's all I can say. When I potty trained my daughter a few months ago, she didn't pee/poop for 7 hours, and 2 1/2 of them were spent sitting on the potty! Finally before bed she went and was really excited. :)

[Cheryl Ashcraft]

My son will be 4 at the end of June, and he's been peeing in the potty for a long time. He had his accidents here and there, but for the most part, he would just go on his own. Now pooping was another thing entirely. He has just NOW determined that he should poop in the potty. He still has pee accidents at night, so he's wearing protection for that, but it goes on after he has his final potty break of the night and then first thing when he gets up, it comes off. It has been a LONG potty training experience for this one.

Big hugs to you and hope that he "gets it" soon.

[CA Dreamer]

(((hugs)))) I know how you feel. I hope this phase passes quickly.

[4noisyboys]

Even though I'm not a grandma yet, I'm already acting like one!! I say don't do it till they're ready!! I honestly don't think I ever made a big deal out of potty training. When they were ready, they did it. I did have one that continued to have accidents, and wore pull ups (at night)till he was 12...he had allergies and things that kept his urine from concentrating like it needs to at night. But...it was NEVER an issue. I just think it can cause more harm than good!

[AnnieBananie]

Sounds to me like he's pulling strings for power. Don't give it to him. Whatever it is that you've decided, stick with it. Remember, we INVENTED these games, so we can certainly win 'em! ;) It'll be alright honey, just stay cool.

[Priscilla]

so sorry :(

potty training is hell

[cheltzey]

I can so identify. I have a 3 and a 2 year old, so we usually have AT LEAST one accident a day. And some that are not so accidental. It sucks big time.

[emmasmommy]

Sounds just like my nephew. The ornery little cuss will look at you and make himself pee his pants when you yell at him. Fun times I tell ya. We just let him sit in it and then he doesn't get to play with anyone or anything. Sooner or later, it's gonna sink in.

[suze]

so sorry :(

potty training is hell

sounds like it :thumbdown: no kids... I can't imagine!

[my3hens]

Oh honey potty training is so hard, big hugs! I can compltely relate!

[my2monkeys]

He has figured out that he gets a "reward" for potting in his pants. I don't know if i would have left my DD in her mess when we were potty training, but she would have time out after I cleaned her up. When we working on potty training her, it seemed like the first week I was constantly cleaning up messes and doing laundry, but we stuck to it and the next week was 100% better. I did reward her for using her potty by letting her pick out a sticker (from one of the sticker pads that costs like a dollar). She loved that... she still loves stickers and even has a sticker book and now puts the stickers she gets from school in it.

I also took her to the store and let her pick the undies that she wanted... she couldn't wait to wear them.

[Leah]

Ohhhhh...we have tried every nasty little trick in the BOOK! Treats, rewards, stickers, jumping up and down whooping and hollering with excitement. We've tried firm - this is the way it's going to be and there is no other option. We've tried ignorance.

Seriously...I've tried things with Ethan that I never had to resort to with the other two.

He's had to clean up his own mess and scrub out his own gotch. Blech!

He took the intiative to start going to the potty before he turned 2yrs. old and I just let him take the lead. Well now he's over 3yrs. and is digging his heels in something awful.
Little turd.

[my2monkeys]

Is he only having "accidents" before going to preschool? or is it a more regular routine? With him potty training going so well before, and now having a set-back I would wonder if it might not be an emotional issue. We did have a set back because of a massive change in the house and her routine. It was frustrating, but we worked though it and found other ways to help her meet those emotional needs.

[nesser1981]

Keira will be 4 on Saturday and she's finally gotten the potty thing down, during the day. She still wakes up wet at night. She just sleeps too sound. We tried panties at night and us trying to get up and wake her up to go. I figure it'll come to her eventually, like going during the day did.

Good Luck.

[Leah]

I am completely stumped.

Yesterday, he pooped in his pants twice, but pooped another 2 times on the toilet and peed on the toilet all day. That was, of course, after peeing in his pants right before school.

One person says to let it be, it'll come when it comes. The other says that one you start, don't go back to diapers.

What's the best thing for him? I have no idea and that is killing me!

If I knew that he wasn't ready, I'd wait.
If I knew that he was just being lazy, I'd be firm.
If I knew that he was doing it out of spite, I'd beat him at his own game.
If I knew he needed emotional comfort, I'd be the first one to give it to him is every way possible.

But I don't know!!! :(

I feel like I'm spending each day, the entire day, fighting with him. If it's not one thing, it's another. If he's not wetting his pants, he's climbing on the tractor or playing in the shed where he shouldn't be. If he's not ripping his sister's posters off the wall, he's making the other kids cry. I am so tired of fighting with him.

I know that "this too shall pass"...but WHEN??

[nun69]

wow...I TOTALLY feel for you...my DD (3 in Jan) is EXACTLY the same....just does everything you can think of to piss you off...last night she pooped in her underware and then after her bath {her brother left the salt on the table} she decided to dump the salt all over the table and play in it...even though I am not home, I sure do feel my husband's pain....

I say, if it is that much of a fight, put diapers back on him...easier for you for the time being...then maybe he will get tired of wearing them :) sorry that's about all I can say...I hope it gets better FAST~

[Leah]

just does everything you can think of to piss you off...last night she pooped in her underware and then after her bath {her brother left the salt on the table} she decided to dump the salt all over the table and play in it...

This IS Ethan!

Seriously, looks around the room for anything, ANYTHING, he can possibly get into and then look out!

I know he's only 3yrs. old. I know that this can be typical behavior. I'm just at a loss.

[nun69]

she is also the one that decided to stick a plastic play knife up her nose and gave herself a bloody nose! and she is the one who pulled the pad off of the changing table {and everything else with it} so her and her little brother could "slide" down the changing table pad to to the floor...so honey I feel you~ I just hope she gets over it before I get home {July} 'cause mom might not be as nice as dad has been :)