Hugs needed

[Lauren Reid]

today is my Mom's birthday...

she would have been 59 today....

i lost her suddenly 3 years ago last month.... quite frankly i try to ignore her birthday because it's really just far more than i can bare...... but today i got the sweetest email from my Father about how he and my mother met.... and how they married and what not.... it was a very special email.... my parents divorced when i was only 5, so i don't know their "story"....

but now, instead of being able to ignore the day, i'm in complete meltdown mode.

and of course dh left this morning on a biz trip, so it's me and the kiddos (who are driving each other up the wall today!)......

i could just use an extra hug if you can spare one.....

hug those you love EVERY day cuz you just never know when they won't be there to hug.....................

xooxoxooxox

[Libby Pritchett]

Awww sweetie! I know how awful those birthdays and anniversary dates are. *BIG HUGS*

[lovely1m]

Jeez, I didn't even read the email and I started bawling. How nice of your father. Sending hugs!

[Paula]

Aww big hugs Lauren!!

[Melissa Bennett]

Oh I am so sorry. ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

[schock77]

So sorry to hear that Lauren. I say turn a movie on for the kids and have a good cry- sometimes it feels better to let it out than trying to keep it in. :(

Sending hugs your way!

[nikkiARNGwife]

((HUGS))

[jessica31876]

awww Im sorry!! I know how hard those anniversaries and birthdays can be. Just let yourself cry if you need to. It wont make it go away but it helps to ease some of the pain from missing them I think

[ColleenSwerb]

Huge hugs Lauren!!

[lltheo]

Oh, Lauren. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what it must be like to lose your mother. My heart is breaking for you right now.

I say pull out some old photos of your mom and just have a good cry. The best thing we can do for our lost loved ones is remember...the good times and bad, the fun times and not-so-fun.

Hugs to you, girl!!

[Amy Carey]

Oh Honey I'll be praying for you today. It's so hard to lose a parent ... I think of my daddy every day. {{HUGS}}

[Leah]

Aww Lauren...I have lots of extra hugs for you today. {{hugs}}
I can't even imagine how you must feel.

[kscwgirl]

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) Lauren!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[BrattyMeg]

((((hugs)))) I lost my mom YEARS ago and the old cliche about getting easier over time..I mean the hurt does heal eventually but we'll never stop missing them.

Go out and do something today with the kids that your mom would enjoy! Go to a fave restraunt or something for lunch or rent a movie (kid friendly of course) that she'd love! Make the day special in her memory

(I didn't read the other replies..sorry if I repeated another suggestion)

[ditzyscrap]

Awww, huuuuge ((((hugs)))) Lauren!!

[Christy Lyle]

(((HUUUUUGE.HUGS)))

[Lauren Reid]

thank you so much........... i appreciate the love.............

my son josh said, "well we could bring flowers to a graveyard, but there aren't any graveyards around here... and they're creepy anyway...." hahahah

omg thank goodness for kids, huh?!


xooxxooxoxo

[kristine]

((HUGS))

[meganmecrazy]

(((((HUGS))))) I'm so sorry about your loss Lauren. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. Hang in there sweets!

[CA Dreamer]

:(I'm sorry. Gigantic (((((hugs)))))

[ajf9597]

Awww big ((hugs)) Lauren

[LibbysMommy]

(((hugs))) Lauren!!

[emmasmommy]

Aww Lauren! HUGE HUGE hugs to you, I couldn't even imagine!

[Shawna]

aww huge {{{hugs}}} Lauren!

[robinforman]

Hugs, hugs, hugs to you girly

[Emmy]

I know you are sad - but what a gift that email is! Big hugs to you - I'm sorry you are hurting.

[RatherBScrappin]

I'm so sorry your heart is aching today, Lauren. Sending {{{hugs}}} to you. A suggestion, since your dad's email meant so much to you, do a layout with the text he sent you. You don't even need to post it in the gallery. Just do it for you and then you'll always have that keepsake. Just an idea...

[MissKim]

Oh hugs to you, and how nice of your dad to do that for you.

[Lizzy257]

(((((Hugs)))). You poor thing, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. x

[Keely~B]

Big BIG Hugs to you Girlie....it's just hard, no way to get around it. xoxo

[Penny Springmann]

I have a few extra hugs to spare! ((((HUGS))))

[juliemarie]

Huge hugs to you on such an emotional day for you

[Sue Setiadji]

(((Lauren))) Embrace the pain and loss - it, too, is a celebration of the joy she brought to your life. You sure have a precious gift from (and in) your Dad.

[Serendipity]

:( *hugs*

[Linz]

(((((hugs)))))

[Sharon Kay]

Hmmm could you take that e-mail and a picture(s) of your parents and scrap that? Sounds like something you won't want to forget about. ...or maybe scrap a happy memory of her and you?

I know what you mean...I lost my father back about 5 years ago (can't remember exactly...my mind has tried to block it out)... I had nightmares about how he died for a long long time. It wasn't until last year and this great group of ladies here... before I was able to scrap a layout with him in it and not break down. Still going slow on it though...and his birthday is the end of the month... I try to stay busy on that day on purpose. {{hugs}}

[AnnieBananie]

((huggles))

[mom2peanuts]

Oh this must be such a hard day for you. I am sorry DH is not there. Big hugs!

[Leila]

{{{Hugs}}}

[lizzyfizzy]

lauren, i honestly cannot imagine. how wonderful that your father is passing on her memories but at the same time i really feel for you!! i promise you i will hugs the ones i love more and i am sending some major love for you today!!!! HUGS!!!

[NettieB]

hug and a chocolate...

[sprauncey1]

big {{{{{HUGS}}}}} for you today!

[*Kelly*]

Lauren.. I want to share something with you I learned from Dr. Phil (of all people) about grief. His message was poignant to me because I have lived with a lot of pain in my heart since 1/12/04 when my identical twin boys were born/died @ 27 weeks due to TTTS. Okay.. so I was watching 'ole Dr. Phil a week or so ago about parents dealing with grief, etc. Something that really stuck with me was when he said "You must remember the one you lost with joy and not pain. The person who has gone would hate to think that every time we thought of them that it brought us pain. Our loved ones would not want to see us in pain. We must remember the special memories and not just the time of their passing"

So long story short *it's a little different for me because I didn't have but a few moments*.. remember your mom with joy in your heart and try not to allow the sadness to over shadow your special memories. Everyone handles grief differently, but the whole "remember with joy instead of pain" really has stuck with me and has allowed me to release some of my own pain and grief.

Sorry to ramble, I don't even know if I made any sense..

I wish you peace today, on your Mom's birthday. *hugs*

*ps* you could still buy flowers, put them in your favorite vase and know who and why you bought them. In a sense, celebrating.. go out to eat in honor of her, have a yummy dessert for her birthday.. you and the kids could make cupcakes, I dunno.. just some thoughts.

[LenaGardner]

I'm so sorry about your mother Lauren :(

(((big hugs)))

[Julie Billingsley]

I'm sorry Lauren :( I lost my mom in December and I'm not looking forward to her birthday. :( Big big hugs

[Voodoo_Bryn]

=(
I'm so sorry, Lauren, my grandparents raised me and when they both passed within 6 months of each other, it devastated me... still 7 years later, I have a hard time on their birthdays.

I started a little tradition this year, my boys each get a cupcake on my grandmother or grandfather's birthday and they get to make a wish and blow the candle out, I tell them that the smoke carries their wish up to gramma or grampa up in Heaven. It makes me feel a little better.

(((hugs)))

[gypsystar]

HUGS to you!!!!

[~Julie~]

I'm so sorry Lauren. {{Hugs}} I can't even imagine the loss you are feeling.

And hugs to you too Julie. I didnt know your mom passed. {Hug}

[SamaraGugler]

Big hugs Lauren

[WalkersMommy]

:( (((hugs!!)))

[starxlr8]

big hug!

[makabe]

I'm so sorry, Lauren... I lost my best friend over 13 years ago, and certain days that remind me of him are STILL hard. Your dad gave you such a gift today. He must be a special guy. My parents also divorced when I was five and I can't imagine either one of them doing something like that years later... I hope you're able to do something today that brings you some happiness. I wish I could give you a big hug in person!

[Di-ahh]

Aww so sorry Lauren, I know what that's like. I wish I could say it gets easier, some years it is, some not. Celebrate the good memories and enjoy those you have everyday.

[neenee]

OH honey! BIG BIG Texas hugs for you!!!

I won't pretend to know how you feel because I can't begin to imagine what it is like for you. However, I sympathize with you and I am sorry for your loss and your pain.

Sounds like an ice cream cone kind of day! :thumbup:

Bless your heart.

Jeanye

[Nonna2Dreja]

Big HUGS to you Lauren....

[pbumbaca]

Big huge hugs Lauren!

[suze]

((hugs)) I'm so sorry Lauren

[alansrock]

((HUGS)) sweetie, so sorry you are having a downer of a day!!!!:(

[krystalhartley]

Hugs, girl!

I lost my mother suddenly just 5 days before her 51st birthday (which also is the week of Mother's Day). Needless to say, May is a hard month for me, and I can relate to the pangs that pop up every now and then.

I think it's kinda sweet what your dad did. My parents divorced when I was 7, and it was a little strange hearing him talk about her right after she passed. You wonder how they ended up disliking each other so much.

[mrshobbes]

As someone who's also lost her mom (six years ago come September), her birthday, Christmas and Mother's Day are more painful than usual. **BIG HUGS** Lauren! I love that your dad recounted how they met, just as sometimes my own dad shares what he and my mom used to do on dates or just before they got married.

[sannajeannine]

Huge hugs for you.....I know how hard those birthdays and anniversaries are :(

[isaacsmom]

(((HUGS))) Those anniversaries are the absolute hardest! I lost my dad almost 11 1/2 years ago and I still have to have a good cry every once in a while.

[crystalbella77]

oh goodness sweetie!!! I am sooooo sorry! I am sending you so much love and hugs!!!!!!!!!!

[digideb]

Aw, sweetie! I can't even imagine how you must be feeling (((((HUGS)))))

[Lauren Reid]

thank you again *mwah*

and big {{hugs}} to those of you who have lost someone as well.... it's no good and i've forced everyone else in my family to PROMISE me they will live forever! ;) They all pinky swore, so I think it's a legit deal! ;)

ooxoxooxoxo
xooxoxooxox

[stacey99]

Lots and lots of {{{hugs}}} to you sweetie. Sieze the moment and the emotion and go with it - it will really help I think. That was so sweet of your dad to send along some special memories to you......I'm sure it really opened up the feelings you have tried to shut out in the past. Hang in there! :wub:

[scrappurple]

Gosh ... :( ... Thanks for the reminder to always love ... {{{hug}}}