Oh weirdness...

[Leila]

Yesterday, I picked up a section of the Sunday paper that I'd not yet read. On the second page there was a short blurb of an article that said, Verona man, 41, drowns in Lake Michigan. So I kept reading. And I recognized the name. My breath caught a bit at first but then I convinced myself that it was just another guy with that name. I mean, it could be common in his culture. Oh--I don't actually know the guy with this name. He's just the guy who lived in my house before me, so I get a LOT of his mail--even four years later.

Anyway, the doorbell just rang. And there was a woman with flowers. And I said, "Oh crap." And she said, "Uh, does XXX YYYYY live here?" And I said, "Oh, crap." again. It turns out--it was him. And I feel awful because I have no idea how this lady can find his family to deliver these flowers.

Is it weird that I'm now totally shaken and ready to bawl because of this? I mean, I really did not know this man, or his family. And yet, I've been getting his mail for four years. And I know that both he and his wife are doctors. And I know they have at least one son, who's around JP's age. We found a picture in the laundry room when we moved in.

Someone tell me I'm being ridiculous here...

[Melissa Bennett]

Nope, not being ridiculous at all. That is so sad. We got a call the other day from the city hall in the town we used to live in back in Washington State. We found out the guy who bought our home just 7 months ago died of cancer a couple of weeks ago. He was only 41. It really threw me for a loop and still just blows my mind. I never met him, but I have felt so sad the last few days.

[Darcy Baldwin]

it's not weird at all, Leila. It shows that you have a kind and caring heart!

[sczos911]

Not weird at all.

I cried when I heard that the previous owner of our home passed away. I never met her, but dealt with her son & daughter when purchasing the home and I knew how much this home meant to her & how she did not want to leave.

[Jennilyn]

If you know the real estate agent who sold you the house, maybe he/she would know where they moved to. I know our real estate agent knows where we moved after we sold our house.

[Leila]

Thanks ladies. I talked to my MIL for a while and feel better now.

Jennifer, we're renting this place. I've asked the property managers time and again to contact this family about the mail forwarding to no avail. And since we've been here for almost four years, it's always possible that the family has moved again. :(

[emmasmommy]

not weird at all Leila! We still get calls about the man who lived in our house before us. He passed away about 10 years ago, and it still makes me sad!

[CA Dreamer]

You are not weird at all! You have a connection with this person who met with an untimely death. And, I am sure that you both share an appreciation for home.

I was so sad when the man who lived in my house passed away. He was in failing health when they moved away to a home that they designed and built. His son used to pop in every now and again to see his old room and to see what we have done to the house. Nice family, and we still forward their mail--eventhough they moved 13 years ago!

[Nonna2Dreja]

That is totally weird, but I don't think you are being ridiculous at all....

[RatherBScrappin]

I'm glad you got to talk to your mom and are feeling better now...it sounds like you have a very caring soul and it's not weird at all that you were feeling bad about this unfortunate event.

[schock77]

Wow Leila... isn't it interesting the way our lives intersect with others and how that can affect us? I think I'd feel sad too.

[Paula]

No, that isn't ridiculous at all. You have a connection to him so of course you're doing to feel the connection.

[Serendipity]

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[switchwiz]

not it's not wierd, it just means you are a compassionate, feeling human being!

[bellbird425]

haven't read all the posts but, well to me it is a bit weird but i would feel the same - we get mail about monthly for a guy who actually NEVER lived here but if i read his name in the paper in connection with death etc, i'm sure i'd feel like u