Facebook: Real Life / Online Life

[KristinCB]

Ok.. So this is probably part of my worrying way too much what other people think. I, for some reason, like to keep my offline life and online life separate.. so when it comes to facebook I have such a hard time with it because its all mingled together. I want to start posting layouts on my facebook but then I don't want people thinking.. I don't know. Should I just start posting and not care what other people think? I get embarassed easy. My parents want my link to my gallery here.. but then I think i'd rather they just look on facebook. if that makes any sense.

Does anyone else have this problem or am I the only doofus?

[newfiemountiewife]

I worried about it a bit at first, I was the last of my friends to get FB.

The thing for me is, if I don't post my pages there, none of my family will see them. Even Tony only sees them on FB LOL. So I post most of them there.

One thing I find amusing is, if I have something exciting/sad/happy happen to me, my ONLINE friends are the first to congratulate me, or comfort me. Sometimes I wonder if they care more or if they know more about my life than a lot of my real life "friends" do, kwim?

[scrapperjade]

No, you're definitely not alone! I put my pages up on Facebook, but not all of them. Its funny, because layouts that have a lot of heart felt journalling will end up in galleries all over cyber land, but not on my FB page. I don't know. I guess its because nobody here really "knows" me in digi land but we all understand the importance of the journalling. I just think my relatives and friends will think I'm being sappy or sentimental... for FB, I either skip posting those ones or take off the journalling before adding it...

[emmasmommy]

I'm a lot like Jaedyn. I am "closer" to most of my online friends than my real life friends in the whole emotional, spill my guts kinda way. I've posted a ton of layouts in galleries around digiland that you couldn't pay me to post on my FB page. I have a lot of real life aquaintances on FB that don't need to know all the little details of my personal life. You won't hear (or see) me talk of certain things on there because well, some of those people just don't need to know. I'd rather spill my guts to you girls (and guy) than some of the people I know in real life.

Silly I know, but, that's how I work! ;)

[WalkersMommy]

Its funny, because layouts that have a lot of heart felt journalling will end up in galleries all over cyber land, but not on my FB page. I don't know. I guess its because nobody here really "knows" me in digi land but we all understand the importance of the journalling. I just think my relatives and friends will think I'm being sappy or sentimental... for FB, I either skip posting those ones or take off the journalling before adding it...


I feel the same way. I don't post any of my emotional LOs on FB.

[ColleenSwerb]

Well, I think that there are things that are ok to post online and things that aren't. I understand people who don't post their kids names or locations or whatever.

But scrapbook pages? Personally, I don't see any harm in that. Scrapbooking is a HUGE part of who you are K! It's not JUST your "online" life, you know? You support your family with it, it isn't just a small hobby. I'm of the opinion that if something is a big part of who you are, then the whole world should know about it. It's not something to hide from your "real" family and friends, that makes it seem like it's something to be ashamed of, and it's not!

I share all my pages all over the place. If Joe Schmoe can pull up my gallery online and read my feelings, then my family/friends should be able to too. I just remember the saying "those that matter don't mind, and those that mind don't matter". Anyone who judges you for journaling on a scrapbook page is a ninny in my book. They're your feelings, just because someone else doesn't like them or disagrees with them, it doesn't invalidate them or make them less than what they are.

[Leila]

The only pages I won't post on facebook are the ones that might upset my family. My sisters, one of my brothers, several cousins, and an aunt/uncle are all in my friends list. So when I make a page that contains negative stuff about someone--well, it doesn't usually see the light of day, let alone facebook. I know one of those people would take it back to my mom, and she gives me enough crap as it is. And I have my photo albums set up nearly as tight as Fort Knox in regards to who can see them. It's actually more secure, for lack of a better word, than here since anyone can Google my name and find this gallery and every other place I've ever posted something.

[kristine]

I don't post my LO's on facebook - just because my non-online friends probably aren't that interested;) Most of my family has ignored the facebook-thing anyway, although some have signed up recently to keep in touch with my brother who has gone travelling for 9 months. I have got some scrapping-friends on fb, but mostly I just keep it for my real-life friends.

[starxlr8]

I tried to keep them separate, but then I kept getting lots of friend requests from digi people. I gave up and just decided its all me of ME.

[pewtertm]

No, you're definitely not alone! I put my pages up on Facebook, but not all of them. Its funny, because layouts that have a lot of heart felt journalling will end up in galleries all over cyber land, but not on my FB page. I don't know. I guess its because nobody here really "knows" me in digi land but we all understand the importance of the journalling. I just think my relatives and friends will think I'm being sappy or sentimental... for FB, I either skip posting those ones or take off the journalling before adding it...

Yep, that's me too...LOL, my family doesn't even know I have a blog! I'll post stuff and share things with my online friends that I'd never post on FB because I have family, old school friends/acquaintances, etc that I wouldn't share some things with. Sometimes it's easier to share things if you know you don't have to look that person in the eye the next day LOL.
And in terms of RealLife/OnlineLife...I've met both my husband and my best friend (hi Sharon!) online, so I'll be first to say that some of my online friends are definitely closer to me than my "IRL" friends.

[HeatherKS]

I didn't post my LO's on facebook for a long time because, frankly, most of my IRL friends have no idea what digital scrapbooking entails. But I wanted an easy way to share them with family and friends so I started uploading there too. And you know what, people are interested! They like to look at the pages, have questions about how I do them, and are just plain interested! :thumbup: I don't post every page - like my belly pic pages for ds's baby book didn't see the light of day :p but most pages I do put on there. I'm proud of them and I want people to see! And if I drag some people into digiscrapping while I'm at it, that's all the better! :)

[4noisyboys]

I would probably set up a Flickr account and give my family the password. Just for them...no one else. I don't really post my layouts on FB. I have a few times, but pretty much no one I know IRL gives a crap about them!! The only people that do are my sil's, and neither of them are on FB, and I send them the full size jpegs anyway so they can print the ones of their kids. I think they'd rather I not post them on FB anyway!

[Emmy]

I really struggled with the meshing of different life areas when I started on FB. Initially I only friended people I knew IRL - no digi friends unless I had actually met them or had literally known them online for years and years. Eventually I started friending back digi people - but it still felt like mixing things up. ha!

I don't post my layouts on FB but I do post them on my family blog and my friends can see them there.

I'm rambling - I think the point I was heading toward, and never made, was that I understand your feelings. I hesitate to post my layouts on FB because I'm not sure I want all my local friends to know what a scrap freak I am! :p

[Sue Setiadji]

Maybe its the feeling of anonimty thats the decider here! I'm closer to my real life friends and family so I dont really have an issue with them accessing my pages or my thoughts good, bad or indifferent. Thats why I scrap so my family now and in the generations to come can gleen something of me and my family in this present day through my pages.

What you feel is real no matter whether its in galleries viewed by strangers or friends and family who love you! Sometimes its easier to vent with online friends but people do that on their blogs too!

Id say stick with what you're comfortable with tho - that too is being true to you!!

[Jennilyn]

I've had at least 3 people ask me about scrapbooking because I post my layouts on Facebook. I don't have any problems about posting them there, except for ones that have to do with other people like my ex-boyfriend and stuff. They don't need to know how I feel/felt about them.

[Kiki]

I have a personal life FB page, and a designer/online life FB page. I don't post my layouts though on either, because FB for me is painfully slow. I suppose I could post them for my family, but then my Mom doesn't do FB, and my brother hasn't been in touch for over two months, so I don't know why I'd post them there. I guess if you didn't have the two accounts, it would be a bit confusing. I just figure that since my IRL friends and family don't really do FB, that's not an issue for me.

[Stacey42]

No one in my family is on Facebook except a couple cousins (we're a sort of privacy paranoid bunch, I don't have my real name on Facebook either).

I like that you can set the privacy level on Facebook so I can make sure that no one from high school sees that layout about how I hated high school. Or only certain people can see the layout about some problems DH & I went through. It's a lot more private than scrapbook galleries where anyone can see it

[tuneskids]

I only post ones that I don't care if anyone sees ... if it's personal, or has someone other than my own children on it, I normally don't post (unless I know the other person/child's parents wouldn't mind me posting).

[Serendipity]

I don't really mind sharing my layouts on FB because I don't really journal. But other aspects do bother me. I guess I'm just a private person and the more people (practically strangers) that get added to my FB the more I shut myself off from any sort of "sharing". I've really stopped updating on my wall a lot because I don't want to offend anyone. Which I know is stupid because if someone is offended by me they can just remove me. *shrug* I dunno. I have trust issues.

[MissKim]

I don't put my layouts on FB, but I do put a lot of photos on there. Typepad also automatically updates my status when a new blog post goes up, so my FB friends see my digital stuff that way.

Last weekend, my BIL said, "How much time do you spend on all that photo and computer stuff, Kim?" I looked at him and said, "About as much time as your brother spends watching sports."

That got a laugh.

If they don't like looking at it, they can hide me or remove me. It's me. I know a lot of my IRL friends are probably to see how involved I am in the online world, but it's who I am.

[Chels85]

i don't post my LOs on fb... half of my friends on there don't even know i scrap.and my family isn't on fb, well some but distant.

also i don't update my staus alot bec feel like it's not thier business to know everything ya know

[nesser1981]

You can block people from seeing them on Facebook Kristin, you I think you can even make a group to not see them. So if you don't want say your digi friends to see them you can block them.

I did this with some pictures of me and friends from work, I didn't want everyone seeing us hanging out and drinking when I was in the military.

[Megan Turnidge]

I post my LOs on FB... in fact i posted them there way before I ever had the courage to post them in an online gallery.... and that was back when all my FB friends were IRL friends. I know my family enjoys seeing them (my dad and all my brothers and sisters are on there... and some cousins and aunts and uncles lol) and I love sharing them. I have converted like 6 people to digital scrapping simply by posting them on FB and have been approached by others who want to learn. I'm just spreading the digi. :p :D

[Kiki]

Well this has been an education...you can block certain groups from seeing certain things...hmmm. Maybe I need Facebook for Dummies! I just don't get how to use it to my advantage.

[webseitler]

I have a personal life FB page, and a designer/online life FB page.

Oh gosh, Kiki! I never thought of this!!! I totally need to do the same because I get lots of requests from people I know on-line and it's kinda weird to mix them up with people I know from the different places we lived... :blink: LOL! Thanks for mentioning this.

[nun69]

I don;t post my LO' son FB beause I'm lazy:p it's just that simple!

[kscwgirl]

One thing I find amusing is, if I have something exciting/sad/happy happen to me, my ONLINE friends are the first to congratulate me, or comfort me. Sometimes I wonder if they care more or if they know more about my life than a lot of my real life "friends" do, kwim?

After yesterday, I can 110% agree with this.

[Leila]

One thing I find amusing is, if I have something exciting/sad/happy happen to me, my ONLINE friends are the first to congratulate me, or comfort me. Sometimes I wonder if they care more or if they know more about my life than a lot of my real life "friends" do, kwim?

I've often wondered the same thing! I have something I vent about, the first people to respond are usually from SSD and a few other sites I go to. The last? My family. Nice.

[Julie Billingsley]

I like that you can set the privacy level on Facebook so I can make sure that no one from high school sees that layout about how I hated high school. Or only certain people can see the layout about some problems DH & I went through. It's a lot more private than scrapbook galleries where anyone can see it

I'm new to facebook. Could someone tell me how to do that? Is it just for pictures or for posting too?

[jorgies5]

I'm new to facebook. Could someone tell me how to do that? Is it just for pictures or for posting too?

You can control everything. In the upper right-hand corner, click Settings. You should see an option to manage Privacy. Click "manage". If you click "Profile", you can select who you want to see certain pieces of information. You should also see the option "Edit Photo Albums Privacy Settings".

[Sari]

I'm a lot like Jaedyn. I am "closer" to most of my online friends than my real life friends in the whole emotional, spill my guts kinda way. I've posted a ton of layouts in galleries around digiland that you couldn't pay me to post on my FB page. I have a lot of real life aquaintances on FB that don't need to know all the little details of my personal life. You won't hear (or see) me talk of certain things on there because well, some of those people just don't need to know. I'd rather spill my guts to you girls (and guy) than some of the people I know in real life.

Silly I know, but, that's how I work! ;)

I'm totally the same way. Glad I'm not alone...LOL.

[maryinaz]

I'm not FB friends with any of my local IRL friends. They ask me, but I say no. I don't like my 2 worlds colliding and just don't feel it's necessary to have a local friend, whom I see often and can call on the phone, on my FB. I use FB for online-only friends, far away family friends, and long-lost friends I've found along the way.

[crystalbella77]

I am definitely closer to some online friends than real life ones. It's so weird! I post my pages on FB because my sister and family can see them..but I do have a hard time posting some really emotional pages on FB but I will post in galleries...so I don't know..lol! It doesn't make sense..but I totally get ya! :D

[Julie Billingsley]

You can control everything. In the upper right-hand corner, click Settings. You should see an option to manage Privacy. Click "manage". If you click "Profile", you can select who you want to see certain pieces of information. You should also see the option "Edit Photo Albums Privacy Settings".

thank you! I was real happy to see the 'search privacy' settings. :)