Jengerbread88
10-31-2010, 06:25 PM
Okay, so I feel like I post a gazillion threads about why my boyfriend is so freaking awesome. So instead of me doing that (since I don't have my old ones) I'm just going to brag about him here... and I figure if you want, you can brag about your S.O. here, too...
Anyway, reason 5,790 (or something) that my boyfriend is the best. one. ever. is because I was so so so upset the other day. It was 1 year from the first time I got a positive pregnancy test (my miscarried pregnancy) and I was so teary eyed all day. I'm used to dating guys that just really don't care. My boyfriend leaned over, held me while I cried, and said "I know you're used to dating guys that don't give a crap... but *I* give a crap. So when you're ready to talk, let's talk about why you're crying." I told him the whole thing, about how I was upset about losing the baby, and that was all I wanted, ever, was to be a mom. Not a lot of people know, but he's an Atheist. I'm a Christian. What he said next actually made me lose my breath a little. He said "Honey, God had a plan for what he did. If you wouldn't have lost the baby, you would still be in that marriage. I know it doesn't make it any easier, but what happened was exactly what God had in mind for you, to make things work out. We will have more chances in the future. You are going to be a mom someday." He didn't say it in a mocking way. He didn't say it in a "this is what you believe" way. He said it, from his heart, because he knew it's what I needed to hear. He set aside his own issues with faith long enough to give me what I needed. It really impressed me. In some respects, I think he does believe, I think he just has a lot of questions, but for him to tell me exactly what I needed to hear, whether or not he believed it, really helped me feel a lot better. He is right... it WAS God's plan, even if it hurts or I don't understand it.
Other reasons in the same day... he took me to the Melting Pot to cheer me up since I love me some fondue, and collect fondue pots, but had never been to a fondue restaurant. And he filled up my gas tank "to make things easier on you... I know it's the end of the month, and you don't get paid yet, so let me fill up your tank and you can use your leftover money on something you need or want more than gas."
...I'm spoiled.
Anyway, reason 5,790 (or something) that my boyfriend is the best. one. ever. is because I was so so so upset the other day. It was 1 year from the first time I got a positive pregnancy test (my miscarried pregnancy) and I was so teary eyed all day. I'm used to dating guys that just really don't care. My boyfriend leaned over, held me while I cried, and said "I know you're used to dating guys that don't give a crap... but *I* give a crap. So when you're ready to talk, let's talk about why you're crying." I told him the whole thing, about how I was upset about losing the baby, and that was all I wanted, ever, was to be a mom. Not a lot of people know, but he's an Atheist. I'm a Christian. What he said next actually made me lose my breath a little. He said "Honey, God had a plan for what he did. If you wouldn't have lost the baby, you would still be in that marriage. I know it doesn't make it any easier, but what happened was exactly what God had in mind for you, to make things work out. We will have more chances in the future. You are going to be a mom someday." He didn't say it in a mocking way. He didn't say it in a "this is what you believe" way. He said it, from his heart, because he knew it's what I needed to hear. He set aside his own issues with faith long enough to give me what I needed. It really impressed me. In some respects, I think he does believe, I think he just has a lot of questions, but for him to tell me exactly what I needed to hear, whether or not he believed it, really helped me feel a lot better. He is right... it WAS God's plan, even if it hurts or I don't understand it.
Other reasons in the same day... he took me to the Melting Pot to cheer me up since I love me some fondue, and collect fondue pots, but had never been to a fondue restaurant. And he filled up my gas tank "to make things easier on you... I know it's the end of the month, and you don't get paid yet, so let me fill up your tank and you can use your leftover money on something you need or want more than gas."
...I'm spoiled.