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jessica31876
11-16-2010, 09:53 AM
This is a really long story but Ill try to make it short. My 17 year old son and I got into a huge argument. He (meaning my son) threatened me while his dad was standing right there. His dad decided that to seperate us would be the best choice (I had done nothing except tell him he was not making lunch at 3:00PM when dinner would be done around 5:00PM and that if he was that hungry just get a small snack to tide him over until dinner).

OK so my oldest son is at his grandparents house at that point. My husband comes home and we end up getting into an argument over this situation because he took my son's side and it is not the first time it has happened like that. He (meaning my husband) basically blamed it all on me without even so much as hearing my side of the story. Well my husband supposedly got sick about a half hour later outside. I heard him making the sound like he was throwing up but nothing came out. So he left. Did not tell me where he was going just got in the car and left. I waited for him to get home and started making phone calls after a little time had passed to try to find him (he conveniently left his cell phone at home) so around midnight I was really worried. My husband does not drink and does not frequent bars so Im like where the hell is he? I called the hospital and they said he was in the ER but was asleep and would not wake him up and would not give me any information on why he was there.

So I waited up as long as I could for him to call or to hear something on what was going on. Anything to let me know what was going on. No call or anything. So I wake up at 6 this morning when the first alarm goes off and he is not here. So I called the hospital again and again he is sleeping and they will have him call me as soon as he wakes up. So he calls me back like 45 minutes later and by that time I was worried but also really angry that he could not call at all the whole night? Well we talk but he cannot give me any info on whats going on and his nurses/doctors refuse to. They say HIPPA law wont allow it. Well anytime I have been in the hospital it was never an issue. if he called and he identified himself as my husband and he got any questions he asked answered. So I said can I speak to my husband? The nurse put me on hold and came back and said "Ma'am I just went and talked to your husband and he said he does not want to talk to you"

So its been just a horrible all around day/night. I have no idea what I am going to do about my son. I cannot live with him treating me like that. Screaming and yelling at me and then threatening me...And I believe his father should step in before he gets to that point. And then my husband tells the nurse after I am up half the night worried half to death about what is happening with him that he does not want to talk to me? Talk about me being upset. Even if I was mad at him I would never do that to him if I was in the hospital like that. That is awful.

KateD
11-16-2010, 10:09 AM
(((big hugs)))

Hang in there.

I totally agree with you that your son should not be treating you that way and that your husband should be backing you up. Even if he agrees with your son your husband should not let him treat you that way.

As far as the hospital thing goes, you don't really know what's going on there so don't get too worked up over it. All you know for sure is that your hubby said he couldn't give you any info. He may be out of it even if he's sounding coherent. And you don't know for sure that the nurse even asked your hubby if he wanted to talk with you. All you have is her word that he said that. And even if he did say it, maybe there was another reason besides him really not wanting to talk. Could you go to the hospital? It might be easier to find out what's going on that way.

breakingbrie
11-16-2010, 10:12 AM
(hugs) I have no idea why he wouldn't want to talk to you or let you know what's going on with him! That's hard, just sitting around not knowing... When I recently took Chloe to the er, they asked when I signed her in, if someone calls, is it ok to tell them her status... Not sure if something like that is what happened with your husband, or why he'd even not want you to know, but that could be why they didn't tell you. I hope everything turns out alright!

BrattyMeg
11-16-2010, 10:18 AM
Do you have your own car? I'd drive up to the hospital if it were me.

jessica31876
11-16-2010, 10:31 AM
Therre is alot more I could get into about what is happening. it is mostly to do with my husband. But right now I just need to get out of the house.

jessica31876
11-16-2010, 10:33 AM
no he just got home but I do not drive. I walk when I have to go somewhere or he drives me

Do you have your own car? I'd drive up to the hospital if it were me.

MommaTrish
11-16-2010, 11:56 AM
((hugs))

Jengerbread88
11-16-2010, 12:57 PM
:: hugs ::

I'm sorry. :(

jessica31876
11-16-2010, 01:27 PM
I went over to my best friend's house and talked to her for a little while. Our family has some issues that need to be resolved....the way our son behaved, the things my husband has been doing. I told my husband I believe our son needs anger management and I believe my husband has some issues that he will not talk about with me so he needs to probably see someone for that. I am still really upset but after getting to talk to my best friend and get out of the house it feels alot better.

adrianka
11-16-2010, 03:59 PM
I can't offer any advice, but I offer *hugs*.

And some more *hugs*.

That must be so hard.

*hugs some more*

CA Dreamer
11-16-2010, 05:18 PM
(((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

I hope everything turns out ok. And, that you can find peace.