Jengerbread88
02-12-2011, 02:15 PM
Okay, so... long story, I'll try to keep it short.
My fiance's best friend posted some status about working out, and how he hasn't seen weight loss, but has felt sore, so YAY!
Someone commented on it, I think one of my fiance's former friends.
My fiance, being the joker he is, make a kind of rude comment to the person's comment. Now, I don't know the context well... AT all. I don't know anything about whether or not things were good and it was just a joke, or if Kyle (fiance) intended it to be mean, or not. I know I say things to my friends that are mean, that she things are haha funny, so I didn't know the context. Well, I guess someone took it wrong, because the former friend's friend/partner/something posted this (sorry, language):
"Kyle, there is no nice way to say this; you're an inconsiderate, selfish, cynical, criminal, asshole whose life is a waste of his own bile. Instead of picking on people who your transparently jealous of, why don't find your balls and pick o...n someone your own size, like a rat, or a snake or another semi-homeless good for nothing, bloated, petty, waste of welfare, insurance and air who brags about dealing drugs and knocking up a poor girl who hasn't known you long enough to see that your entire life will amount to nothing and that your response to this diatribe will probably prove my point that you have killed so many brain cells that it won't even be worth reading, if it's even coherent. You're not funny, you never were and never will be. You lost all your friends because they all got so tired with your shit, it became easier to take out the trash then keep you around. You probably tell everyone that you hate your family you because they're all a bunch of crazy assholes when the truth is they abandoned you long ago because after years of substance abuse and your infamously tiresome excuse that your fortune is a sum of "bad luck" you've turned you into just that, a crazy self absorbent asshole who is a cancer to everyone he has ever known. I pity you and the pitiful life that you continue to limp through. Don't you dare ever call, write or ever even think of me or my family again, this has been a very angry reaction that has been waiting to be said for years so don't even make me out to be the hateful prick that you are, but it has to be said, your dead to me. Go to hell and on second thought, please come see me when your in town, I'd love to show you what pavement tastes like."
Okay, first off, a very good portion of that is completely untrue. I know the backstory not just from Kyle, but from talking to Kyle's ex girlfriend, his brother, everything else. So I know what my fiance is, and the crap about him knocking me up before I could see his life will amount to nothing is just ridiculous- I know his backstory, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Anyway, in MY opinion, the last sentence was a threat. To me, it screams threat. And, my fiance is worried when we go on vacation to visit his family and friends (to exactly where this person lives), that this person is going to try to start something.
I told Kyle that he needs to take screen shots of the conversation, showing the time and date and exactly what was said on facebook (it was said very publicly). Then, if this guy DOES try to start anything while we're there, we have a record of what was said beforehand- both on his side AND on Kyle's side. And then, if anything DOES happen, we can show that it was pre-meditated.
Kyle is the type to just let things die-- so this guy said something, so he beat me up in person, blah blah blah, we don't need to make a big deal out of it.
I am the type of person that doesn't like to see people I love get the crap beat out of them, so if this guy DOES try anything, I want records of EVERYTHING.
Here's my question: Am I going overboard by wanting to keep records and screen shots of all of this? Should I just leave it be and not worry about it? Or should I continue with my way of doing things? Kyle isn't going to stop me- he already said that I have been the one who has been through this before, and if I think it's what needs to be done, to do it, so he's not opposed to me doing it (he just personally doesn't care one way or the other). I can tell he's upset about this- the guy who posted that is his cousin. After that post, Kyle apologized, said he was really sorry for making that joke on his friend's status, and that he didn't mean any harm by it.
I just worry... when I got divorced, my ex-husband hacked into all of my accounts, facebook, everything. He hacked into my online dating profile, changed my password, then changed all the information to say things like "hobbies include clearing out an all you can eat buffet" and "too lazy to get off my fat ass to do anything but eat" I know how cyber crime works, I have a friend who works in the cyber crime department of the local Sheriff's office. I do have SOME experience with cyber crime. I don't plan on just reporting this one message-- I plan on saving it in case something DOES happen-- but like I said before, I just want your guys' opinion on if it's the right thing for me to do.
My fiance's best friend posted some status about working out, and how he hasn't seen weight loss, but has felt sore, so YAY!
Someone commented on it, I think one of my fiance's former friends.
My fiance, being the joker he is, make a kind of rude comment to the person's comment. Now, I don't know the context well... AT all. I don't know anything about whether or not things were good and it was just a joke, or if Kyle (fiance) intended it to be mean, or not. I know I say things to my friends that are mean, that she things are haha funny, so I didn't know the context. Well, I guess someone took it wrong, because the former friend's friend/partner/something posted this (sorry, language):
"Kyle, there is no nice way to say this; you're an inconsiderate, selfish, cynical, criminal, asshole whose life is a waste of his own bile. Instead of picking on people who your transparently jealous of, why don't find your balls and pick o...n someone your own size, like a rat, or a snake or another semi-homeless good for nothing, bloated, petty, waste of welfare, insurance and air who brags about dealing drugs and knocking up a poor girl who hasn't known you long enough to see that your entire life will amount to nothing and that your response to this diatribe will probably prove my point that you have killed so many brain cells that it won't even be worth reading, if it's even coherent. You're not funny, you never were and never will be. You lost all your friends because they all got so tired with your shit, it became easier to take out the trash then keep you around. You probably tell everyone that you hate your family you because they're all a bunch of crazy assholes when the truth is they abandoned you long ago because after years of substance abuse and your infamously tiresome excuse that your fortune is a sum of "bad luck" you've turned you into just that, a crazy self absorbent asshole who is a cancer to everyone he has ever known. I pity you and the pitiful life that you continue to limp through. Don't you dare ever call, write or ever even think of me or my family again, this has been a very angry reaction that has been waiting to be said for years so don't even make me out to be the hateful prick that you are, but it has to be said, your dead to me. Go to hell and on second thought, please come see me when your in town, I'd love to show you what pavement tastes like."
Okay, first off, a very good portion of that is completely untrue. I know the backstory not just from Kyle, but from talking to Kyle's ex girlfriend, his brother, everything else. So I know what my fiance is, and the crap about him knocking me up before I could see his life will amount to nothing is just ridiculous- I know his backstory, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Anyway, in MY opinion, the last sentence was a threat. To me, it screams threat. And, my fiance is worried when we go on vacation to visit his family and friends (to exactly where this person lives), that this person is going to try to start something.
I told Kyle that he needs to take screen shots of the conversation, showing the time and date and exactly what was said on facebook (it was said very publicly). Then, if this guy DOES try to start anything while we're there, we have a record of what was said beforehand- both on his side AND on Kyle's side. And then, if anything DOES happen, we can show that it was pre-meditated.
Kyle is the type to just let things die-- so this guy said something, so he beat me up in person, blah blah blah, we don't need to make a big deal out of it.
I am the type of person that doesn't like to see people I love get the crap beat out of them, so if this guy DOES try anything, I want records of EVERYTHING.
Here's my question: Am I going overboard by wanting to keep records and screen shots of all of this? Should I just leave it be and not worry about it? Or should I continue with my way of doing things? Kyle isn't going to stop me- he already said that I have been the one who has been through this before, and if I think it's what needs to be done, to do it, so he's not opposed to me doing it (he just personally doesn't care one way or the other). I can tell he's upset about this- the guy who posted that is his cousin. After that post, Kyle apologized, said he was really sorry for making that joke on his friend's status, and that he didn't mean any harm by it.
I just worry... when I got divorced, my ex-husband hacked into all of my accounts, facebook, everything. He hacked into my online dating profile, changed my password, then changed all the information to say things like "hobbies include clearing out an all you can eat buffet" and "too lazy to get off my fat ass to do anything but eat" I know how cyber crime works, I have a friend who works in the cyber crime department of the local Sheriff's office. I do have SOME experience with cyber crime. I don't plan on just reporting this one message-- I plan on saving it in case something DOES happen-- but like I said before, I just want your guys' opinion on if it's the right thing for me to do.