relationships

[emmasmommy]

what i said in my other post got me thinking...
*can you tell i'm bored and hyper today?*

are you and your SO the type who want to spend every freaking minute together or are you a distance makes the heart grow fonder type?

DH works construction so he's gone A LOT when he's working, but when he's laid off in the winter, he's all up in my bidness. we do MUCH better when we spend some time apart.

[cardinalskate]

Yeah, we're the sickening type. We like to spend our time together. We like to schedule our off time together. We spend most of our weekend time together. That being said, we've never had a really extended period of time when we were together like 24/7, so that might start grating on my nerves.

[MamaBee]

Hmmm.... I have to say that we rather be together than apart - however, when he is home on vacation he messes up with my schedule... haha. I'm such a homebody and he wants to go go go... which is then I'm saying, "don't you have work to do in the home office (which is in the basement)?" :p

[NeverendingJen]

We like to spend as much time together as we can, but we NEED our space. Jer's hardly worked in a month because of the holidays and half shifts, so I sent him away yesterday to go see movies because I was just ready to kill him, lol. We do much better when he works his normal days and I just see him at nights and weekends. But after weeks of half and no shifts, we needed some space, lol.

[tanyiadeskins]

I am the kind of person that NEEDS to be left a lone ... frequently lol. That being said though, dh and I are the kind that need each other...we can each take an hour here and there but we really hate being apart. This has happened frequently and is about to again due to work, and he and I are dreading it already

[maryinaz]

Well, we've been married going on 22 years, so no, we don't have to spend all our spare time together. ;)

On weekends we usually do some kind of shopping or running errands together though (like groceries or Target) and might grab lunch. Around the house, at this time of the year, unless I'm watching a football game with him, we don't do much together. When football is not on, we usually try to watch a movie at home on Friday night.

I will say that about 12 years ago he worked out of the house - he had his office upstairs, I had mine downstairs. It wasn't a problem.

[kendallt]

When DH and I first got married, we did EVERYTHING together...running errands, shopping, etc. Now that we've been married for over a decade, we've both realized that while family time is important, it's also just as important for us to have our own "me" time to do the things we love. Another thing I've been doing more of in the past year or so is spending time with my friends. That is an area I neglected literally for years because I felt guilty being away from home. I'm definitely getting past that now and realizing how important it is to keep those friendships alive. In 2011, I took two girls trips, one a short weekend beach getaway, and the other a larger scale trip to Walt Disney World with two girlfriends. It was the first time since getting married and having my DD that I'd ever done anything like that, and I realized how waaaay overdue it was.

I think that in a lot of ways, at least for my DH and I, it was good for us to spend a little bit of time apart because it made us miss each other and appreciate one another more. Sometimes, it's hard to appreciate your spouse/SO when you're around them day in and day out. Does that make sense to anyone besides me?? :p

[nikkiARNGwife]

We've never been able to spend tons of time together for a long period of time so I really don't know how it would be in our 10 years of marriage if we had. Active duty means he's gone a lot and works a lot so I've just adapted and gotten used to doing my own thing most of the time. So yeah when he's here for long stretches I kind of get irritated with him more easily.

When we were first married, I was so dumb. I can remember shortly after our wedding he had to go to Korea for 2 weeks. TWO WEEKS and I thought my world was ending. I don't even blink at 2 weeks now lol

In fact we rarely ever get time together just the two of us..so when we do I think I appreciate it much more.

[NeverendingJen]

When we were first married, I was so dumb. I can remember shortly after our wedding he had to go to Korea for 2 weeks. TWO WEEKS and I thought my world was ending. I don't even blink at 2 weeks now lol



LOL, I remember this too from the first part of our marriage. Now 2 weeks is easy and doesn't even throw me...

[kim21673]

We used to be the couple that spent ALL the time together...then we had kids and I was introduced to digital scrapbooking.....we have gone our separate ways! LOL We have to make an effort to have TV/date nights after the boys go to bed!

[tuneskids]

Des has almost always worked such weird jobs in the 13 years we have been together, quite a few out of town for extended periods. I mean, the guy was out of town workin when all his children were born, so that should really tell you something. lol
Currently, he is gone one week, home one week. I don't mind it, especially since I am working and get a break from home whether he is here or not. lol If we want do stuff together, or as a family, we just schedule it for the week he is home.
That being said, he was just home for three weeks over Christmas - the most time we have spent together in over a year and we didn't kill each other. He did throw my routine all to heck, but I knew it was temporary, and the holidays, so I tried not to stress about it.

[emmasmommy]

Active duty means he's gone a lot and works a lot so I've just adapted and gotten used to doing my own thing most of the time.

darik isn't military, but you've described us almost EXACTLY, nikki. when he IS here, he messes with my chi. LOL

[ayaandjudah]

It really depends. Mostly we like being together but we need time apart. Girls night out or a poker game help.

[heathergw]

We schedule date nights and by date nights I mean board games cards or movie, because normally the evenings are me at the computer and him watching tv.

Mark works from home most days of the week and we go on business trips with him and the one day a week that he goes into the city is miserable for me... One of my goals tho this year is making sure I spend more time with girlfriends... I feel like I lost a lot of friends because I was so focused on spending time with my family.

[Tracyfish]

DH is usually working the entire daylight hours during the week and most Saturdays at least half days. So during the week we don't spend a lot of time together.

I've gotten used to just planning things for L.J. and I to do and sometimes if DH is home on the weekend or at night early it messes us up. LOL!

We enjoy the time he's here, but most of the time he's not and we survive with that too.

[Leontine78]

I love spending time with my husband during weekends and weeknights BUT my Monday is holy to me. If he's home he messes up me time....so yes and no....

[Giseli Freitas]

DH likes to be together all.the.time. He's all about cuddles & hugs :glare: LOL I need space. I need to have some time to hear my own thoughts. The thing is I feel the need for space just when DH wants to be with me. Do the math. Ugh! LOL

[xboxmom]

Chandler and I like to be together but when we are together "too" much we do end up getting sick of each other. When he used to work insane hours and we never saw him though and he would get time off...it really used to annoy the crap out of me because it messed my whole schedule up and the kids schedules. But I do love being with him. :D

[Leila]

I'd rather spend time with Andrew than with anyone else, so we're together a lot. If he's home, it's family time. We do our own things of course, but most of our time is spent together. And yes, he throws off my routine when he works from home. He's doing that on Wednesday this week, I'm not looking forward to it. :D

[kscwgirl]

Yes. If I didn't work during the day, winters would cause us to be divorced, I'm sure of it.

[mariewilcox]

We've never been able to spend tons of time together for a long period of time so I really don't know how it would be in our 10 years of marriage if we had. Active duty means he's gone a lot and works a lot so I've just adapted and gotten used to doing my own thing most of the time. So yeah when he's here for long stretches I kind of get irritated with him more easily.

This. DH was active duty our whole marriage (20 years).

[jessica31876]

wellll I am a SAHM. My husband is permanently disabled. This means he is home all. the. time. Now I am fine with that most days but because I do not drive and he will not leave when we getting into each other's hair it creates issues. Like it did yesterday. I was upset and tried to explain why I was upset and at first he just ignored me which made me angry. So I went to my room and cried. Then I tried again to get him to talk to me and he said he gets why I was upset but still no apology. I still do not think he got the whole thing. So needless to say we spend every single day together. If I have to go somewhere so does he because I do not drive. Normally if he has to go somewhere I let him go alone to get time to myself. Otherwise I have none. Most of the time I am ok with that. We spent the first 7 years of our marriage never seeing each other because he would go out with his brother every single night after work, I would be asleep by the time he got home and just waking up when he left for work in the morning. So I only saw him on the weekends he did not go out fishing or to play pool with his brother. Then when he started staying home he still worked and got home at 6 and was usually passed out by 9 he was so tired. We still have the weekends but that was time we spent running around either with the kids or for the kids so there wasn't much time for me and him then either. Now that he is home all day it is nice to see him so much but we defenitely have those days where it is just too much. It is just a tad over 3 years when he first became disabled.

[taracotta7]

Totally distance makes us fonder type. We each have different interest.......so we do our thing and then come together and tell each other all about it. We have stuff that is just for us together too. It is just if there is too much togetherness then we start to irritate each other. LOL

But I am also one of those gals that totally loves to be ALONE. Seriously. I go to movies by myself, I go eat by myself and it is PURE HEAVEN for me. Of course, I hardly get a chance to do that but when it happens, I love it.

[HeatherKS]

We're an absence makes the heart grow fonder sort of couple I guess. Dh works so much and travels so much for work that it's just pretty much always been that way. I'm used to taking the kids places by myself and having days and evenings to myself. I'm like you, when he is home it sort of screws up my routine because I'm just not used to having him there. LOL

[Lyd]

DH and I are sooo different. And, because of all the illness we had in our family in 2011, he spent WAY more time at home than I was used to. After him being home all day everyday for two weeks, I was sooo ready for him to go back to work! He took a whole month off when I had the baby, and the last week or so, he completely irritated me. I even went to my 20th HS reunion by myself this last July because I needed a night out with my friends and I needed to be away from him. Plus, he is completely anti-social. He doesn't maintain ANY of his old friendships. And, I need my girlfriends. I used to feel guilty about taking time away from my family to go out with the girls every now and then. But, I'm getting over that because I realize that i need it for my own mental health. And, I really don't go out THAT often - maybe once a month on average.

That being said, and all things being equal, DH and I love to watch movies and sports together. And, we have a few TV shows that we like to watch together. Luckily, he doesn't mind if I bring my laptop to the couch and scrap while we watch. :) We are getting back to normal around here, and I really do enjoy the times that we just sit and have a normal conversation about nothing important (we did this the other night, and it was so nice). Overall, we mostly do our own things, but we enjoy our family time too, if that makes sense.

[Kenzi]

Brandon and I are both. We enjoy spending time together, but also realize that it's important for us to have time apart. He knows if I don't get out of the house to spend some time alone or with girlfriends once a week I get grumpy. And I know he needs a couple weekends a year to go on fishing trips with his buddies. I think since we are both looking out for each others best interest it works perfectly. If we spent every waking minute with each other we would drive each other nuts! But then again I think it would be that way with anyone for me.
Since DH works late a lot of evenings and I try and schedule my outings during the week, the weekends are mostly for family time and our date nights.
I have a cousin who won't go anywhere with out her husband (if he's not at work) and won;t let him go anywhere with out her. It's kind of annoying really. I mean why should;t he be able to go watch the basketball game with his buddies without having her tag along. Or why can't she go to the drive through with me to pick up food without making him come along? Seriously it's that bad! And they are not newly weds, I'm talking married 6 years now lol

[Sarah8914]

I don't know what Shane thinks... but I love to be with him as much as I can. He had 1 1/2 weeks off after Christmas and we LOVED it. We had so much time as a family and I loved him being home. It might be different if it was longer, but I don't think so. Neither of us wanted it to end. I love love LOVE spending time with him. We have "date nights" at home several times a week... watching movies, playing games, etc. (and we've been married 9 1/2 years...). In fact, when the kids are grown, if I need/want to work, I hope to be a secretary at his office... and he knows that, and doesn't seem to object, so hopefully that means he likes it too.

ETA: He will go see movies by himself or with some friends and I'll do things with my friends... but it's not to get away from each other. For me, it's to hang out with my totally awesome girlfriends.

[crecia27]

He is an everyfreakingsecondofeveryfreakingday person and I'm a back off buddy and give me space person. Makes life interesting :-)

[Nettio]

He is an everyfreakingsecondofeveryfreakingday person and I'm a back off buddy and give me space person. Makes life interesting :-)

LOL we have a little bit of this going on too. In college it used to drive me especially crazy because I would come home to study and he'd be popping in every 5 minutes to see how things were going. I eventually had to stop coming home to study, haha.

For the most part we love hanging out together and we both always say the weekends and vacations are never long enough. But I do sometimes wish he was better at hanging out by himself or had some hobbies or something. He tends to want me to come along with him for everything, even if he's just going to the grocery store or to pick up a pizza. That's one of the things I miss from when he was deployed - I not only had a ton of "me" time but I was also able to spend time with new people and my family without feeling bad and I think that was really good for me. I told him after he came home that that was something I didn't want to lose, but since he's been back I haven't figured out how to find that same balance. I'd feel bad saying I was going to a thing to meet some new people when I know he'd just be sitting at home by himself. :o

[KimberlyMorris]

DH and I are tight, we do a lot together but we are ok apart too. It is nice when he's home from work because he pretty much takes over most of the Aiden duties so I can catch a break. it's always much needed.

[mummytothree]

Even after almost 15 years together I still want to spend every minute together...I can't answer for him but I think he feels the same!! :D :D There's not a day that doesn't go by that I don't wish DH could quit his job and find one working from home!! I don't think I could ever get tired of spending time with him!!! :o

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[mummytothree]

I don't know what Shane thinks... but I love to be with him as much as I can. He had 1 1/2 weeks off after Christmas and we LOVED it. We had so much time as a family and I loved him being home. It might be different if it was longer, but I don't think so. Neither of us wanted it to end. I love love LOVE spending time with him. We have "date nights" at home several times a week... watching movies, playing games, etc. (and we've been married 9 1/2 years...). In fact, when the kids are grown, if I need/want to work, I hope to be a secretary at his office... and he knows that, and doesn't seem to object, so hopefully that means he likes it too.

ETA: He will go see movies by himself or with some friends and I'll do things with my friends... but it's not to get away from each other. For me, it's to hang out with my totally awesome girlfriends.

I'm glad to read this Sarah...I wrote mine before I read any responses and the more I read the weirder I felt...I was about to go delete my response!!! :D :D

[Sasha]

Hubby and I are both i guess. We love to be with each other but if its too long then we get irritated with each other. During the week he's gone til like 7 and then we just do our routine. Weekends are family time with or without the kids...occasionally he or i will get time off to be with friends

[LibbysMommy]

We absolutely love spending time together and love doing so as much as we can, but we also appreciate the times that we have to ourselves or each get to go out with our friends. I love it when he's on vacation, but it does start to get on my nerves a bit because he totally throws my routine off and I feel like I'm picking up after a 3rd child :)

[jessica31876]

I am like you most days. My husband is my best friend but he hurts my feelings sometimes and he is not at all good at understanding WHY I say my feelings got hurt. Even if I explain why. He just does not get it. Other then that I love having him home all the time. I wish sometimes circumstances of why he is home were different cause it seriously limits what he can do now being disabled but I am still happy to see him as much as I do.

I'm glad to read this Sarah...I wrote mine before I read any responses and the more I read the weirder I felt...I was about to go delete my response!!! :D :D

[MandaT]

For the past (almost) 7 years, we've spent a lot of time, & by that I mean pretty much all of our time, together. When we were first married we spent weeks together, only the 2 of us, long-haul trucking. So not only was it just us, it was just us & about 10 feet of space for a week at a time....Neither of us are really into socailizing or have many 'friends' outside of family that we want to go do things with, so we spend a lot of time doing family things.

But I'm sort of at the point where I need to find ME again (beyond me the mom/wife). This past year was an eye-opening one for sure,. We went from DH being gone 9-10-ish hours a day (normal working hour days) to being unemployed & up in my space for ALL day, to him working graveyards/12 hour night shifts to laid-off to working away from home 3 nights a week, to back home & on graveyards again.....

When he's home, he's in my way, in my space, in my hair and driving me crazy...."WE" may not need space/time apart, but I need my space and me time. (he's okay with being together ALL the time)

[sczos911]

We're the gross type that like to do things together. We STILL grocery shop as a family. :) My family (immediate) is uber important to me and while we can do it - we do a lot together. I know as life gets busier and the girls are more involved with sports, things will change.

We love spending time with one another and when I think about him - I still get butterflies in my tummy. He's my other half - not the better, cause that is me. :) I'm better, he's other. LOL!

We watch TV together but if one wants to watch something and the other doesn't - well there is a laptop or reading to be done. But most nights we are doing something - together. That said - we still try to do date night once every other month outside the home.

And the guy still makes me laugh like no other. Like, laugh so hard I am crying kind of thing. We do have times where we'll go off alone, but his friends are my friends and vice versa but that is rare. And we talk and there are times when we enjoy silence.

Basically - we're good together. :)

[Keely~B]

I definitely have a need for alone time and honestly I'm pretty much a loner in general. That being said, I can't get enough time with DH, he's the easiest person for me to be around. We enjoying doing things together but we're not needy, it's never work or wearing to be in each other's company. We can do things or not, talk or not, we just like being around each other.

[ColleenSwerb]

That being said, I can't get enough time with DH, he's the easiest person for me to be around. We enjoying doing things together but we're not needy, it's never work or wearing to be in each other's company. We can do things or not, talk or not, we just like being around each other.

This is very much Jordan and I, and I love it. We can sit together and talk, or just sit together and BE, and it's all good. The guy I was with before him became SO NEEDY and constantly needed to talk and chatter and touch me and snuggle and it drove me up.a.wall. We can sit together and be snuggling and I can read and he can watch a show and it's heavenly. But we both like our space too, and have no problem going off and doing our own thing.

[Sarah8914]

Even after almost 15 years together I still want to spend every minute together...I can't answer for him but I think he feels the same!! :D :D There's not a day that doesn't go by that I don't wish DH could quit his job and find one working from home!! I don't think I could ever get tired of spending time with him!!! :o

:wub:

;) There's a few of us at least. :)

[ZaCola3]

Scott and I go through phases...He works third shift so it is hard to spend time together sometimes...but winter brings lots of breaks and he is up my butt...which is ok in short spurts...I know he loves me that way.
I like him to be home though-I hate it when he isn't here when I go to bed. He goes and spends a few evenings a week with his friends playing baskeball on the XBox and I hate those nights when he isn't here at my bedtime...LOL

[brooke22]

We are the distance makes the heart grow fonder couple. We have always been ok with not needing to be with each other 100%, and it works for us, our personalities. Sometimes it makes me feel bad, but its like I need a dose of time to myself every now and then to remember how much I love him. Now that its the 4 of us we would much rather spend the time as a family then as a couple if that makes sense.

[Lindsay]

We together in the same vicinity, he hardly ever has to travel for work. But we definitely have different interests - he's more the type that likes to tinker in the garage, while I'm usually on the computer or reading. We try to have a date night each month where we go out to dinner and usually a movie.

[carriesmom]

We are both fortunate to work 8-5 jobs with the rare overtime. So we generally don't have long stretches of time when we are apart. That being said, I had to go 4 hours away for a job and I was gone for about 1 1/2 months, coming back just on weekends. It was torture. I really like having him sleeping the bed next to me. It is a comfort and I don't sleep well without it. I love being with him but not necessarily *right there* doing stuff. We have computers side by side and he games while I scrap. We watch TV shows together at night. We text throughout the day and talk at night. So I guess we are somewhere in the middle. He has his stuff, I have my stuff I do, and then there is us stuff, things we do together.

[joelsgirl]

I would LOVE to be together 24/7 IF IF IF he could be fun and pleasant to be around 24/7. I am certain the problem is all with him. ; )

As it stands, we are a distance/fonder kind of couple, but I'm always jealous of couples who do everything together. Even when we go out on dates, Joel wants to go with another couple. We have to make a real effort to be together and enjoy it because I've found that if we don't make the effort, we really start to grow apart.

[joelsgirl]

We're the gross type that like to do things together. We STILL grocery shop as a family. :) My family (immediate) is uber important to me and while we can do it - we do a lot together. I know as life gets busier and the girls are more involved with sports, things will change.

We love spending time with one another and when I think about him - I still get butterflies in my tummy. He's my other half - not the better, cause that is me. :) I'm better, he's other. LOL!

We watch TV together but if one wants to watch something and the other doesn't - well there is a laptop or reading to be done. But most nights we are doing something - together. That said - we still try to do date night once every other month outside the home.

And the guy still makes me laugh like no other. Like, laugh so hard I am crying kind of thing. We do have times where we'll go off alone, but his friends are my friends and vice versa but that is rare. And we talk and there are times when we enjoy silence.

Basically - we're good together. :)

I'm SO jealous! I always feel like I have the potential to love like this. {sigh} I think I'm going to quote you in the "Goals" section of my life planner. It's just that in order to move towards this in my marriage, I think it's going to take some sacrifice and selflessness on my part, and I'm not sure I'm up to the task.

[ryliesmom]

We have friends and our own hobbies, but we do enjoy spending time together. Especially good quality time when we can just sit and talk without the everyday distractions. We do need our space from time to time though and I completely agree that absence makes the heart grow fonder. :)

[rach3975]

We've been married for 13 years, and earlier in our marriage we had a good balance of time together vs apart. But in a lot of ways having kids has killed that balance for us. We're both the kind of people who need alone time; by the time he's spent an entire day with people at work and I've spent an entire day with the kids needing me and hanging all over me, we each just want some time alone. So after the kids go to sleep I scrap and he watches tv, sometimes in the same room with me and sometimes not. Weekends are family time. We're together almost the whole weekend (with the kids) except for a couple of hours doing our own thing in the evening. I love when he's home from work and has extra time to spend with us, but he doesn't take a lot of time off. So I guess it's a mixed bag for us. When I'm with the kids I want him there, too, but if I get the opportunity to be truly alone for a few hours I take it. I'm guessing we'll go back to spending more time together (just the 2 of us) when the kids are older and we replace some of that family time with couple time.

[Lyd]

We've been married for 13 years, and earlier in our marriage we had a good balance of time together vs apart. But in a lot of ways having kids has killed that balance for us. We're both the kind of people who need alone time; by the time he's spent an entire day with people at work and I've spent an entire day with the kids needing me and hanging all over me, we each just want some time alone. So after the kids go to sleep I scrap and he watches tv, sometimes in the same room with me and sometimes not. Weekends are family time. We're together almost the whole weekend (with the kids) except for a couple of hours doing our own thing in the evening. I love when he's home from work and has extra time to spend with us, but he doesn't take a lot of time off. So I guess it's a mixed bag for us. When I'm with the kids I want him there, too, but if I get the opportunity to be truly alone for a few hours I take it. I'm guessing we'll go back to spending more time together (just the 2 of us) when the kids are older and we replace some of that family time with couple time.

This sounds A LOT like us. We spend a lot more time together (and with the kids) on the weekends, but on weekday evenings . . . it's kind of like we both need to decompress, and we do it in different ways but sometimes in the same room.

[marlathrall]

I can't get enough of my hubby and I think he feels the same way. We love spending time together. :wub: During the Spring, Summer, and Fall he works ridiculous hours and we actually fight because I miss him so much. Of course, we've only been married a year, so this could still change. I kinda doubt it though.

[mrshobbes]

Uuuuh, yeah we work in the house together, except when he leaves for client calls and meetings. We like spending time together, and if we are both bored we'd rather be together, lol. I rather think it's nauseating for some of our friends :p

[Milmomma]

Well, I fall in with the other military wives. He joined 9 ish months after we got married. And now its been so long, that I wouldn't know it any other way. When I had surgery in the fall and he was off for 4 weeks, I wanted to strangle him. A week, 2 weeks, 3 weeks, away is just not that big of deal. He misses holidays, and birthday, and recitals and games, but When he gets a weekend off we do spend it together, going on a family night, or hanging at home together. I think the time apart does help us really feel that we do love each other and miss each other. I say this as my husband is gone this week. Honestly it was just another week though.
ETA- we've been married for almost 7 years and I am so happy to be with him. :)

[liriel]

When DH and I first got married, we did EVERYTHING together...running errands, shopping, etc. Now that we've been married for over a decade, we've both realized that while family time is important, it's also just as important for us to have our own "me" time to do the things we love. Another thing I've been doing more of in the past year or so is spending time with my friends. That is an area I neglected literally for years because I felt guilty being away from home. I'm definitely getting past that now and realizing how important it is to keep those friendships alive. In 2011, I took two girls trips, one a short weekend beach getaway, and the other a larger scale trip to Walt Disney World with two girlfriends. It was the first time since getting married and having my DD that I'd ever done anything like that, and I realized how waaaay overdue it was.

I think that in a lot of ways, at least for my DH and I, it was good for us to spend a little bit of time apart because it made us miss each other and appreciate one another more. Sometimes, it's hard to appreciate your spouse/SO when you're around them day in and day out. Does that make sense to anyone besides me?? :p

Totally makes sense to me Kendall! We are the same way, and this past year I have also realized that I need to take some more me time. Hence my trip alone to WDW too to see all of you girls from Mousescrappers! It was my first trip alone in 18 years!

While we do spend a lot of time together, sometimes its just as simple as me scrapping on the laptop next to him playing games on his xbox! We just like to be near each other even if we aren't engaging with each other.

[LeeAndra]

Does it make me a bad wife to say that when DH and I spend 'concentrated' amounts of time together (like date nights) that he drives me insane?! :p He really ramps up his need for attention/entertainment, and it feels like I have another kid.

We do much better being in the same place with other distractions (running errands together) or being in the same place and doing separate things (me scrapping and him reading in the living room when he gets home from work).

We've developed a new routine in the last month now that he's working second shift where he gets up with DD and spends an hour or so with her (and I get to sleep in --- yeah!), then the three of us might hang out or run an errand, we have lunch together, DD goes down for a nap, DH leaves for work, and by the time he gets back that evening, I've had some downtime after putting DD to bed and am ready to see him again.

I guess I just get more hermit-y, the older I get. :p