jessica31876
06-18-2012, 08:41 PM
I cannot say what I want to to the person in question because I dont want to upset my daughter but about two weeks ago I messaged her mother in law trying to be nice because apparently I am not nice enough to her or her husband. I asked her if she would like to help with the shower. She said yes and I told her we could have lunch with my daughter and talk about it to brainstorm ideas. My daughter asked me to do the invitation and decorations on the computer. Well about two weeks ago my daughter asked if I wanted to go to lunch this friday (June 22nd which would be 11 months since my son passed away). I am still dealing with this loss and honestly do not know how I am going to feel day to day but I said yes I would go.
Then we got a supeona for court for this accident. I guess they finally decided 11 months later they were going to deal with the citation. (really that is all this guy is facing is a fine and he still plead not guilty). So we have to go and sit through god knows what just so he can save a measly 164 dollars. So I guess because I did not answer my daughter's mother in law right away about what she can "do" for the shower when she messaged me today she called my daughter and asked if we are still going on Friday because if not she can make other plans.
Court is tomorrow. I have no idea what to expect. I know I still have a lot of anger about how this happened and how it is being handled. I know it is going to be hard. I honestly do not know how I am going to feel later this week. MIL knows about the accident and my daughter told her we have court tomorrow and Friday is the 22nd. She does not care. She wants an answer tonight. Now what I want to tell her is go do whatever you feel like doing and I will plan the shower without you. You do not help your son or my daughter when they need help and we did contribute to their wedding because apparently that was another thing my daughters in-laws complained about is how it is the brides families responsibility to pay for everything. We may not have been around for the planing but umm that was sort of out of our control. I gave my daughter money for food and we gave her and her husband 1000 dollars on her wedding night. She has not even been married a year and I am sick of her mother in law and her temper tantrums. She had a fit when my daughter and her husband posted their sonogram photos on facebook before showing her.
Sorry I just really need to vent and if I dont I will send this entire message to her mother-in-law and tell her look you still have your son and daughter so you have no idea what we are dealing with and if you cannot understand that sitting in a courtroom with the man who killed your son and listen to him and his lawyer try to get him out of paying 164 dollars is going to be so fricking hard then there is something seriously wrong with you!!
Then we got a supeona for court for this accident. I guess they finally decided 11 months later they were going to deal with the citation. (really that is all this guy is facing is a fine and he still plead not guilty). So we have to go and sit through god knows what just so he can save a measly 164 dollars. So I guess because I did not answer my daughter's mother in law right away about what she can "do" for the shower when she messaged me today she called my daughter and asked if we are still going on Friday because if not she can make other plans.
Court is tomorrow. I have no idea what to expect. I know I still have a lot of anger about how this happened and how it is being handled. I know it is going to be hard. I honestly do not know how I am going to feel later this week. MIL knows about the accident and my daughter told her we have court tomorrow and Friday is the 22nd. She does not care. She wants an answer tonight. Now what I want to tell her is go do whatever you feel like doing and I will plan the shower without you. You do not help your son or my daughter when they need help and we did contribute to their wedding because apparently that was another thing my daughters in-laws complained about is how it is the brides families responsibility to pay for everything. We may not have been around for the planing but umm that was sort of out of our control. I gave my daughter money for food and we gave her and her husband 1000 dollars on her wedding night. She has not even been married a year and I am sick of her mother in law and her temper tantrums. She had a fit when my daughter and her husband posted their sonogram photos on facebook before showing her.
Sorry I just really need to vent and if I dont I will send this entire message to her mother-in-law and tell her look you still have your son and daughter so you have no idea what we are dealing with and if you cannot understand that sitting in a courtroom with the man who killed your son and listen to him and his lawyer try to get him out of paying 164 dollars is going to be so fricking hard then there is something seriously wrong with you!!