how do you deal with the little things your SO does that annoy you?

[lauren grier]

I'm not talking about any serious things.. like lying, or being a crappy person in general..

just the little.. tiny things that irk you to no end? I consider myself a pretty patient person................ ridiculously patient actually. I don't get upset about the toilet paper roll, or the toilet seat, or the socks that never manage to get into the laundry. These are trivial issues and I just don't care.

but the mouth noises while eating? o.m.g. We've lived together for over a year now, and I just can't get past it. lol

how do I find peace with this, or am I destined to murder him over dinner one day? ??? Sometimes I just stop what I am doing and glare at him, I've mentioned it (you know.. dude, close your mouth??) but it continues. that *smack smack smack slurp gag gross disgusting drooly food chomping with your mouth wide open noise* It makes my skin crawl.

Please tell me there is a way you have all mastered ignoring your SO's annoying little habits. I feel like my tolerance of it is getting less and less and less as time goes by!

[carrie1977]

I have to walk out of the room whenever Matt is eating a bowl of cereal. It's like he sucks/slurps the cereal and milk off of the spoon and then makes weird noises when he chews it. It's only with cereal, too. It was way more annoying when I was pregnant. The little things irked me more. LOL!

[lauren grier]

lol i don't think i could deal with these sounds being pregnant.. you're a brave woman

[adi&co.]

the mouth noises while eating are like the ONE thing I CANNOT handle and he knows it. i would just keep reminding him if it really bugs you that much. and then hope that if you are doing something that bug him that much, that he'll tell you as well. give and take!

[jk703]

lol. My DH eats ok, like non-noise... maybe take you dinner and make a joke to say you will eat in another room, cause the sounds make you a bit batty?!

DH drives me nuts by doing things that I ask super duper slowly... it's little things, but they help me out. and he just sits there. Or, when he is off work, and he can't start dinner, or do something constructive besides watching ESPN.... like there aren't a ton of things he's been putting off! LOL!

I have learned to ignore things, but will say jabs... or if I do things myself, he groans that he would have done it - then I get to make a sarcastic/smart remark, and that makes me feel better.

[nikkiARNGwife]

I have to walk out of the room whenever Matt is eating a bowl of cereal. It's like he sucks/slurps the cereal and milk off of the spoon and then makes weird noises when he chews it. It's only with cereal, too. It was way more annoying when I was pregnant. The little things irked me more. LOL!

Yes this..it's only the cereal thing with us too...and he eats it in bed at night when I'm trying to go to sleep. It drives me INSANE.

[lovely1m]

Omg, Nikki, in bed while you're trying to sleep. I laughed so hard at that. Why is he eating cereal like that?

[nikkiARNGwife]

lol..well he stays up later than me watching TV and will usually have a bowl then. It's so annoying.

[julifish]

I hate mouth noises while eating!!! It's the worst. Doesn't matter who it is. I try to keep the conversation going so there is noise to filter out the sounds. I can tell from across the room if my kids are chewing with their mouth open and will tell them to shut their mouths - LOL! I have to remind them (DH and my daughters) that food noises and repetitive noises really bother me and that they need to be mindful of that.

Honestly I've really tried hard not to focus too much on the little things that drive me nuts about my husband. I realize that there are probably things that drive him nuts about me and he never says a word (wise man!). Whenever I"m feeling super grumpy about the little things I force myself to think about the greater good of the relationship. And when it's really bad I just excuse myself to go to the bathroom so I don't totally lose it and tell him I"m going to run him over with the car, or kill him in his sleep (when he's in the middle of the bed AND snoring). LOL! It's all part of being close with another person - other people, no matter who they are, get annoying when in close proximity for any long length of time.

[crecia27]

Funny when I read the title I thought "like chewing". I want to throat punch him when he eats. I'm thankful that it's just usually one meal a day.

[MommaTrish]

I just remember that I do really stupid annoying things too. lol

[MommaTrish]

Like, John is known to snore and grind his teeth at night. OMG. The grinding of the teeth. It makes me want to punch him. BUT. I also know that I have a tendency to sleep diagonally across the middle of the bed. John hates that. I can't tell you how many times he shoves at me to go back to my side of the bed.

[glumirk]

I do the same, Trish! I'm so far from perfect and I know he's quiet about a lot of stuff because he's chosen to love me and grow with me. Occasionally we have the "this really drives me nuts" conversations, but we have them in a "let's grow together" tone and try not to be hurt by it. We've found talking about it is healthier than holding it in as it drives us crazy, even if it's sometimes a harder night. We usually get a lot of good cleaning done after those conversations because we are trying to take them as constructive criticism and have to work through it.

[maryinaz]

Can you video him and show it to him later? Or would he not be bothered by it anyway?

The chewing thing would drive me nuts. My DH doesn't do that, but we've been together over 27 years and there are plenty of things that still drive me crazy. I just have to leave the room because after all these years, he is NOT going to change. ;)

[KristinCB]

Darcy is really good at understanding that i'm sorta a crazy person so tries hard not to annoy me too much.. we wouldn't have gotten married otherwise. I'm thankful for him because I don't think there are many people in this world who could put up with me :)

He DOES however have a problem with his jaw that makes clicking noises that he can't control when he eats and it does make me want to jump lol

[KristinCB]

Please tell me there is a way you have all mastered ignoring your SO's annoying little habits. I feel like my tolerance of it is getting less and less and less as time goes by!

I think the problem here is that you are too patient and too kind and you need to lay it down on him and tell him to cut the crap lol. He can respect the fact that he chews horselike and needs to try harder not to :P

[marnel]

I also know that I have a tendency to sleep diagonally across the middle of the bed. I can't tell you how many times he shoves at me to go back to my side of the bed.

LMAO, OMG this is DH and I
The annoying mouth chewing would be a turn off for me a deal breaker! The snoring I do pinch him or push him b/c I do want to punch him in the throat :unsure: that and the fact that he eats alot with his fingers, for the love of anything I want to smack him like he's a child. I see he learned it from his parents b/c of the culture thing but gahhhh I told him once long ago I'd divorce him if he didn't stop!! That's how much it made me cringe and grossed me out. :o We usually talk about our annoyances so we work with each other on them but the snoring is one I gave up on. :blink:

[NeverendingJen]

Honestly, I remember that do stupid stuff too that drives him bats*** crazy. and when he's in the field, I rejoice that I don't have to shut cabinet doors behind him, unbury his pillows from the blankets in bed, gather up 43 random glasses and pieces of dishware from where he left them, etc.

[adi&co.]

He DOES however have a problem with his jaw that makes clicking noises that he can't control when he eats and it does make me want to jump lol

i have this same problem. it use to annoy DH a lot but I think he's gotten over it because he's not mentioned it in a long time. I can't help it!

[flergs]

Mine isn't too bad. It's the mouth noises ugh. I have to REALLY ignore them, or leave the room. He sneezes obnoxiously loud its ridiculous. But the farting in bed. ..come on, really? Oy vey when I come to bed later than him.

[flergs]

Oh and eating one chip at a time, constantly dippping in while I'm watching a movie. Like seriously put them in a bowl or grab a handful!

[catgoddess]

When I have PMS, it's like I develop dog hearing and the eating noises that I don't hear any other day of the month I suddenly hear in stereo. Wes knows it's some weird hormonal thing, so he just turns up the TV or something. It seriously sounds like he is smacking right in my ear when he's totally not.

He's pretty easy going and doesn't do much that annoys me. He's a serious packrat, though, and I am totally not. We try to find a happy medium together. I try to understand not everyone is as dismissive as I am and he tosses or donates things he hasn't used or looked for in a year.

[SeattleSheri]

I don't have any good advice ... unless you count turning on the TV or playing music to drowned it out, lol. We both have bad habits, so I tend to think my husband and I's annoyances cancel each other out (or maybe that's just wishful thinking on my part :p)