S/O: Are you like your parents?

[Hom74]

A spin-off of Amy's Parent's Thread (https://www.sweetshoppedesigns.com/community/showthread.php?t=9249): Are you like your parents?

I didn't read all the posts in the other thread. Probably just the 1st 2 pages and Chloe's response about how she and her DBF are like her parents just cracked me up because we are like that too.

I can say that I'm definitely like my father. Unfortunately, the 'bad' characteristics lol.

(1) We both get frustrated/annoyed easily. Though I'm not as bad as he is, especially after I had my girls. He's SO short w/my mom and sometimes I see myself being very annoyed with DH.

(2) We both are punctual, very punctual! In High School, there are 2 schedules you can pick from and of course I picked the early schedule. Don't exactly remember, but it probably started at 8 a.m. or 7-something versus the later start around 9:30 a.m.. And even then, I would arrive at school well over 30 minutes before my class started! One of the biggest criteria for me when I was picking schools for DD was that *I* REALLY wanted an early start school (7:50am versus the others that start at 8:30 and 9:30). I'm always early to whatever I need to be at...unless I'm planning on being late :p. I get frustrated w/DH when he's not ready when he says he should be, just like how I remember my dad getting steamed at my mom as we were all waiting in the car while she was still getting ready.

(3) We have no fashion sense :p. Well...I can wear my jeans/bottoms and tops to death...for years and years. My dad was the type of dad who would have the same pair of shoes for 10+ years. My mom is SO not like that :p.

(4) We both get bloody noses easily. For me, I have to be careful when there's a sudden change in weather. Like foggy, cold one day and then really hot and humid the next. Well...ok, I won't get into physical similarities

So funny, my DH is so like my mom! They both are sorta 'ditzy'. They are the type of people that sometimes needs an extra explanation as to what the conversation/joke was about. They are tend to be on the late side. Though both my mom and DH have gotten a lot better after surviving living together with my dad and myself :p. Both my mom and DH have MANY shoes! and clothes! :p DH is very masculine...but he really has a thing for shoes, especially Nike's.

Both my DH and my mom are the 'social butterfly' of their relationship. Both me and my dad do have a lot, a lot to say...but we aren't usually the ones to start with strangers.

On the parenting front we are no where like my parents though. What about you guys?

[marnel]

1.)I'm alot like my mom in the way we tune out our kids, it's a bad thing I know but I can't help it I try to be different and after so many years it's not something I know how to turn off or change :unsure: I'm kinda like whatever:glare:
My mom is very insensitive and this is something I struggle with not really putting much into other peoples feelings when sick or someone dies It's a constant struggle to be different if this is how i was taught.
2.)I'm like my dad in that I'm cheap I always buy everything on sale or clearance and rarely buy name brand. I didn't know what it was so my kids don't know what it is to have the latest Nikes' or Jordans cuz I've never taught them that.
I hate to have company I guess that's a bad thing b/c my dad always made faces and complained when family/friends would come over especially unannounced and that's me :huh:
I have a do my job and do it well and to the best of my ability b/c of my dad;)
Ok enough I could go on forever!!!

[nesser1981]

Not sure about my dad, he passed away when I was 3.

But me and my mom are pretty much the same person. She's a little crazier than I am, but other than that. It really scares my husband. LOL!

[AmyM]

The older I get the more I get like my father. Me and dad have a lot of quirks and little things in common. Same train of thought, mischievous in high school, same depressive modes off and on, same hair trigger temper mixed with laid back attitude......it's scary how alike we really are sometimes. I look more like him too. Same skin, hair, eyes, etc..
Me and mom, total opposites. She's very calculated, precise, non-feeling, planning, workaholic type person. I don't think my dad ever really grew up and I'm just a big kid too LOL

[newfiemountiewife]

Yes. LOL

I am like my mom, she is ageless. She listens to ACDC and Metallica...owns a pool, rides a Harley. She is funny, happy, and very caring. I hear myself all the time, saying stuff to the kids that she used to say to me. It's funny sometimes when I catch myself. She was 19 when she had me, we used to go for rides around town in the car, just for something to do, she knew everyone! And I do the same with my kids, driving is one of my favorite things to do!

I may have gotten her sarcasm also.......

My dad and I are a lot alike also. Procrastinator Supremes LOL. Both of us work much better under pressure, like if I have a month to do something, guaranteed I'm the last week doing it, and he is the same. He used to play in a band when I was a kid/teenager, playing bass and guitar. I played flute and piccolo, but we both can play by ear just about anything.

Both my mom and dad are music lovers, and passed that on to both me and my brother. I can't think without music on, and I know the words to everything LOL! I think I'm a very good combination of them both. I would hope they would be proud that I got their good traits LOL

[LeeAndra]

Interesting question, Karen!

My mom and I have completely opposite personalities in almost every way: she's a stereotypical feminist liberal Democrat who simultaneously worked outside the home and took care of everything inside the home as well while I am a feminist, but by different definition, conservative Republican who would love nothing more than to have 3 or 4 babies and stay home with them fulltime. She has a great head for numbers while I am all abt writing and reading and creativity. I am very introspective and psychoanalytical (*lol* obviously, right??) while she mostly takes and prefers things at face value. She very much enjoys her very middle class life and does things to fit in and not rock the boat while I love to make people think in a new way and try to be true to my weird quirky self. She will talk to anyone in almost any social situation, but is not particularly funny or witty while I am completely awkward when I meet new people, but pride myself on being a good funny storyteller (or so I'd like to think!).

HOWEVER, we handle things in very similar ways. By that, I mean that she taught me, by example, to be the strong one that never takes help from anyone and would rather do everything herself and behind the scenes than draw attention to her work and sacrifices. I do that, too, and it drives BF crazy. She also taught me by example to never discuss my feelings or the elephant in the room, as it were, but to pretend everything is fine, all the time, and with a smile on my face. We are both firstborn children who are incredibly responsible, dutiful, and goody two shoes-esque down to our core.

My father is not my biological father, so we share no genes, and this fact coupled with our different personalities and his relationship with my sister, his only biological child, vs. his relationship with me means we have absolutely nothing in common nor do we act like one another nor do we spend time together aside from family functions.

[mrs_jb]

I am very much like both of my parents and my grandmother.

From my mom I know that I got my sense of humor, my drive and motivation, my strong math skills, and my sense of responsibility. From my dad, I got my anxiety/depression issues, which are hereditary in that side of the family.

I see a lot of my grandmother in myself, which isn't surprising because I lived with until I was 9. She is very strict and stern when it comes to parenting and I always used to dislike that when I was a child. However, now that I have children of my own, I see why she is the way she is, I see the benefits to control and discipline. I do not take it to the extent that she did, but I do many things that are in line with the "old" way of thinking.

[scrapmonkey]

I am like a combination of my parents - not as studious as my dad, but more so than my mom. Not as creative as my mom, but more so than my dad. I love numbers and analytics like my dad (my mom is not friends with them), but I love to create like my mom. Physically, I did get the bad stuff from my parents - my weight issues from my mom, and bad knees, dry skin and one bad eye from my dad. I wish I had gotten a love for doing sports from my dad, but no such luck. Fortunately, both had kind hearts and I hope I got half of what they had and then I'll be in good shape...

[meems]

I'm slow like my mom, meaning that we do things slowly, like wash dishes and cooking. But in other things we're so opposite. Like she loves gardening and cooking; I sooo do not. My mom is a laissez faire sort of parent and I see myself like that too. We're both not very good drivers. :unsure: (she's worse)

I see sometimes that I have a lot of my father's meanness and short temper. :( He was into gadgets and so am I.

[kresta]

Hehe! It's funny you posted this 'cause I just said something to DH this afternoon about being more and more like my mom every day - and how that is scary!!! Really, she's awesome, I just find myself acquiring a few of her idiosyncracies (sp?).

Example: We were driving this afternoon and this very very old man was in front of us going e..x..t..r..e..m..e..l..y.. slow (yes, that slow. When we passed him we realized how old he really was and my DH said he looked like Methusella (sp?) (ya know, I guess the oldest person to ever live?). So I said, "yeah, except he's a man" to which DH said "so was Meth....". I said "oh my gosh, who's the lady with all the wild hair?!" He said, "Medusa!" I had gotten them confused which is the same sort of thing my mom would do! It was hilarious though!

[AmyM]

Interesting question, Karen!

My mom and I have completely opposite personalities in almost every way: she's a stereotypical feminist liberal Democrat who simultaneously worked outside the home and took care of everything inside the home as well while I am a feminist, but by different definition, conservative Republican who would love nothing more than to have 3 or 4 babies and stay home with them fulltime. She has a great head for numbers while I am all abt writing and reading and creativity. I am very introspective and psychoanalytical (*lol* obviously, right??) while she mostly takes and prefers things at face value. She very much enjoys her very middle class life and does things to fit in and not rock the boat while I love to make people think in a new way and try to be true to my weird quirky self.

HAHAAAHHAA! I could have written the same thing! One of my fav hobbies is going out shooting with my dad (blowing up milk cartons, targets, fiddling around with different types of rifles and what they'll do, that sort of thing LOL) and my mom has never fired a gun nor has my hubby. She absolutely hates going fishing with us when we bring the guns. We get a good laugh out of it. Me and daddy call her the hippy dippy tree hugger, her along with my husband. They're just different creatures to us- but we love 'em anyways. Oh and the republican thing, they made me mad too. Daggone it I switch to independent. they're all crooked, but that's another topic for another day i guess. :)

[Lyd]

Oh Yikes! Am I ever EXACTLY like my mom! I never understood why everyone said we looked so much alike the whole time I was growing up - until I saw pics of my mom as a teenager. We look almost identical! And, we have identical personalities too. Of course, we are both fairly stubborn and convinced that we are always right. This caused a lot of friction between us during my teenage years. But, we get along great now. I also have all the same medical problems that my mom has had - crazy! The worst part about that is I have all the medical problems about 15 years earlier than my mom had them.

I thought I was trying really hard NOT to marry someone like my dad. That didn't work at ALL. Don't get me wrong - my dad is an AMAZING person - truly one of my heroes. But, he's been through some really rough times in his life. DH is like my dad - anti-social, conflict avoider of the highest order. Luckily, DH's coping mechanisms are a lot healthier than my dad's were for a long time. But, sometimes I'm just amazed at how much they are alike.

DS#1 is so much like DH. DS#2 seems to take after me. Whew! Raising these two kiddos is going to be quite the ride!

[Stacey42]

I'm not like either of my parents. They are gregaroious, outgoing, social, very involved people. They are not just on committees, they are forming them or running them. They are born sales people. I can't go anywhere in the world without meeting someone who knows my Dad from Jaycees (true, on my honeymoon in the Netherlands I ran into people he knew. Broken down in Orangeburg, SC I ran into people he knew, snowboarding in VT I ran into people he knew.) They are very responsible people, very neat people. Very nice normal, moderately conservative, middle class suburban people, who are very active in their communities.

Me, I keep to myself & don't say much. Though I do have their sens of responsibility - you do what you say you will do, you keep your commitments - which why I don't make many. I channel my dad every now and then in the car. "I *WILL* pull this car over and those toys *WILL* be tossed out the window!" and because I have followed through on that my kids know I am not kidding.