Need some opinions...
 

Up until now at 7 months, Ella has been sleeping in a pack n play in our bedroom. Her bedroom, along with DS's is upstairs and ours is downstairs. She sleeps through the night -well, she's been doing that since about 2 mos but I've kept her close to me just b/c kwim? DH is now wanting to move her up to her room. He likes to watch TV before he falls asleep and with her in the room he can't turn it on b/c it wakes her up. I'm just having a hard time with it..if her room were right next door I'd have no problem with it, but it's hard for me to think of her that far away from me at night even if she is 7 months old. So what ends up happening is DH watches TV on the couch and falls asleep there which drives me nutty b/c we spent 13 mos sleeping apart he needs to be in my bed kwim?

So what do I do?...tell me she's old enough to be that far away from me (with a monitor of course).

I think she is old enough to be moved. It is your baby though and i can understand why you are uncomfortable moving her since she slept there the whole time your husband was gone. Maybe you could look into one of those speaker/headphone things to plug into the TV in your room so that your hubby can watch tv with headphones on so she can stay in the room with you until you are a little more comfortable moving her to her bedroom?

LOL...put her in her room silly girl! You'll hear her for sure if she needs you on the monitor.

ITA with DH, she needs to be in her own room!

I agree with everyone else. She'll be fine. I think if you were upstairs and the kiddos were downstairs, it would be a different story.

Yes, put her in her room. She'll be fine, and you will too! You'll get used to it. Honestly, I've never even used Sadie's monitor (it started beeping all crazy) and she's across the house (granted, it's not a huge house) with her door closed. But I can hear her if she needs me.

You can do it Nikki! It'll be hard the first night or 2, but I'm sure that you and Ella can make the adjustment without too much difficulty!!

Lol... no way, Nikki... I'd be a total hypocrite if I did. Phin's crib has the front off and it's wedged between the wall and my bed... so... he's basically in bed with me and he's a year old! Yorick slept with us again last night and he's 2! I couldn't bear it, but I also couldn't bear having the tv on in my room, either.

Let him know having a tv in the room is terrible feng shui and it's completely detrimental to getting a good night's sleep... way way way too much Yang for a bedroom.

It's time to face the horrible truth that your baby is growing up. Move her to her room with the monitor and be ready to check on her a lot so that you feel "sure". It's better to do it now than wait too much longer. Once little ones get used to being in mom and dad's room it's hard to get them out. You can do this! Hugs!

Bryn don't get me started on the TV in the bedroom...it's a fight we've had since we got married and it's one I'll never win...he absolutely refuses to go to sleep without the TV on..drives me crazy.

I know you are all right and the thing is it's so not like me to not be able to handle this...DS never slept in our room past the age of about 1 month and I was fine with it, but I think a lot of it has to do with it being upstairs in this house, and the fact that when DH was gone she was right there next to me so I just got used to it...even now at 7 months I'll reach over into the pack n play at night to put my hand on her tummy to make sure she's breathing. Omygosh...I need to let it go lol!

Oh also try having her in her bedroom while she naps during the day if you dont already so you kinda get used to having her away and then maybe it wont feel so bad having her sleep there at night too?

I know the feeling nikki and what we did was bought a vidoe monitor that I have on my side of the bed....that way I can still see her and be near her---well she's 3 now but I still use the monitor in her room!

If she's sleeping all night, why not? You'll have a monitor, so it's not like you won't hear her if she needs you.

Just look at it this way....it can't be comfortable for her to sleep in that pack n play or safe if your still using the bassinet. Thae bassinet part is not meant to hold a small baby over 15lbs. And in the playpen "mode" it bascally a lightly padded piece of plywood!! Ouch...talk about back ache :D

Why not slowly transition her to her room....move her outside your door or another room on the first floor for a few days and then move her a bit father away for a few more days until she is finally in her own room and her own bed!!!

Good luck....being a momma is sure a tough job some days!!!

My dd was in her room at 4 months ... :) {{{Holding your hand}}} You can do it. :)

She's old enough! It will all be fine! I'd laugh but I'd be a hypocrite because I'd probably be doing the same thing! hehe!

Oh no we're not using the bassinet part anymore...we stopped that a couple of months ago.she's pulling up now and no way could I leave her in that.

I'm going to do it..I'll probably start her up there for naps tomorrow and get used to it...we actually do have a video monitor that I used with DS when he was a baby so I will be able to see her as well.

Oh I was so anxious for my baby to be in her own room--she was out by 2 months and it could've been sooner! However, she is just a couple doors down the hall. I totally would feel your hesitation if on different floors--even though you know she'll be fine and you have a monitor if not... it's just the thought of it.

So, YOU CAN DO IT!!! :)

You can do it! :)

i bet she'll sleep even better once she's moved nikki! That was the hardest part for me when Madelyn was a baby. Her room was down and ours was up. Needless to say, that changed when she was about 3 months. We moved Emma upstairs and we moved downstairs.

The longer you wait the harder it will be for her to get use to it!

It is tough being a mommy sometimes.

That's exactly what I was going to say. It's hard now but it'll be harder in a few months, best of luck with whatever you decide.

I would be a hypocrite, too, if I told you to move her. My ds is almost 3 and still sleeps in our room. Course we bought a very odd house and there is no room for him to use right now.

Quick answer - NO! lol. We're just that way though. We kept both of ours in our room till they were 18 months old or a little older, then we moved them across the hall. They just grow up so fast, I didn't want to push them out before we had to, you know?

Nikki, I know exactly how you feel. I am having the same problem. Alexis is 7 months old and hubby wants her out but I can't give her up yet. I love having her next to me (her crib is next to our bed) I am having such a hard time with moving her and keep delaying it. So I am no help but just wanted to tell you, you are not the only one.

You know what else...she's my last baby..no more after her...and it just seems like I blinked and she's this old already. I literally teared up yesterday b/c I changed her out of the infant seat into a convertible seat in my car! I mean..she's crawling and pulling up and it feels like I just gave birth to her yesterday. I think i'm just wanting her to stay tiny and she just won't cooperate lol

Well. JJ occasionally sleeps with me and he's 3. That being said, I would move her. Hugs Nikki!!!

aww Nikki I know how you feel!! You have so many awesome firsts to look forward to though!! I felt the same way with my youngest when he was a baby.

she's definately old enough, but oh that poor momma..... ;)

i feel your pain though, when we moved down to TX last year, we went from having all our rooms upstairs to now having ours downstairs and the kids all upstairs... they are 7 1/2, 7 1/2 and 4 and I STILL worry about them being so "far" at night! ;) It's a mother's job to worry i suppose....

you'll both be okay though!

oxox

holy moley, you guys! Where my co-sleepers at?! I need some hippy dippy support!! We have a family bed and it stays that way until the bubbas are ready to move!!

We are a co-sleeping family-or were-Landen decided way earlier than the other boys to move to his own bed-at about 3 or so.
The TV was never an issue because well-we didn't have one at that time-we do now-which is a different story.
If it causes trouble in your marriage then it's probably best to move her.
I always told Scott-we will have so many years after they are gone to have the bed to ourselves, but the time we have with them is so short-I want to have them as close to me for as long as they will let me.
I still take this stance-my big boys still come and crawl into bed with me some mornings-and I don't mind one bit.
Even at 17 & 15 they still remember their time in the family bed fondly.

That's exactly what we say, too!! They're little for such a short time... they'll only want to be snuggly in your bed for a teeny portion of their life! I love waking up with my boys!

We didn't cosleep per say, but I would always nurse in bed and usually just fall asleep with them in my arms. lol. We always had them really close since I was always bf-ing until at least a year. I miss those days! :(

She's old enough - it's okay!! I know how you feel, though. Alex was only r4 months old when we went down to Florida for what was our (former) five or six month stay. He got used to his new room fast.....and as a mom, you hear ANYTHING that sounds troublesome during the night. You'll do fine Nikki....:)

We have snuggle time in the mornings...DS comes downstairs and climbs in with me and I give Ella bottle in bed while DH gets ready for work but I don't let them in the bed with me at night..I need my space lol DS slept with me briefly when DH was deployed b/c I got so big and pregnant I was worried I couldn't get upstairs to him if I needed to quick enough but after Ella was born he started sleeping upstairs again.

My ds just stopped sleeping with us a few months ago. He decided on his own he was ready to go to his bed, though I was glad he did. He was always so squirmy and now that he's pushing 3, he was getting big for all the kicking. I still let him in when he wakes on occasion. :)

My mom put off moving my little brother into his own room, and she kept putting it off, and putting it off- he's 3 years old and still sleeps in her room with her and her husband!
She'll be fine! :)

Nothing wrong with that. ;) (You would have to read my previous post to get probably)

I am right there with you. My 18 month is still in our bed, and by 3 or 4 am, our 3 year old is in there, too. We also consider our bed a family bed.

This is what I was going to say too - The longer you leave it, the harder it will be, for both of you.