omgosh, it's so true! But I do scrap about it:
They're coming into their own, and they don't know how to process all the feelings and hormones, so they act like jerks sometimes. One night, my oldest teenager woke me up at midnight sobbing because he looked in the mirror and didn't know the person looking back at him. I was able to treat him with a lot more compassion after that. It's not just hard to parent teenagers; it's hard to BE a teenager, especially with social media.
I wish we could discuss this over coffee so I could hug your neck and help carry your burden.