We use Jason products for our kids. It doesn't contain this yucky stuff and is tear free. The only problem is it leaves their hair super tangly. Jason make a conditioner but it is worthless. So I bought a Pantene conditioner for them or I end up using my Aveda conditioners for them. I am pretty sure Jason is pretty widely available. We used to buy it at our grocery store that had a natural foods section and now we get it at Whole Foods.
Kristi