For most of the world I have an initial burst of anger, but it's like a 60 second emotional rush that rarely makes it to full expression beyond a shouted word or two. I might mentally compose some revenge fantasies in my mind, they are just me blowing off steam. After that I mostly shrug it off & really don't even talk about it much. I figure karma will get them in the end so I don't need to do anything.
If it is DH or the boys, I wait until I can talk in a calm voice & talk about it (sometimes this comes after I bitch to a friend about the situation, depends how frustrated I am feeling). I also write notes to DH & he writes to me. We've found we both respond better to the written word, we understand what is being said better & with writing you have time to compose a response, you aren't just reacting immediately, you have a chance to really think about what you want to say & that has been invaluable to us.
Last edited by Stacey42; 05-15-2009 at 05:12 PM.
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