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Originally Posted by Traci Reed
I agree with lots of what's been said here though I'm not of the "stay together for the kids" mentality. IMO, having been raised in a house of bitterness, anger and everything that comes with it, sometimes, "staying together for the kids" is way more damaging than just getting a divorce. I think it's impossible for children to be happy if the parents aren't happy. The unhappiness seeps into everything and colors your whole childhood. Every memory I have of my mother and stepfather is tinged with anger and bitterness and fights and meanness. I'm not sure that's the best environment to raise children in, tbh. If he's checked out, done, mean, cheating then why stay together? It's obvious they're not going to do counseling, etc.
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But why not? Why not do counselling? I mean, sure they kinda hate each other right now. But that doesn't mean that they can't work on it and end up with a strong marriage?
I've been where they are, marriage-wise. Jeff and I basically hated each other. There was so much hurt and anger that it seemed hopeless.
But we realized one imporant thing: Our children needed Jeff and I together more than the two of us needed to be apart. Period.
So we worked on it. Hard. And now we're ok. And you know what? My kids might remember some fighting. But they also will remember that their mommy and daddy FOUGHT FOR the family. We fought to keep our family together.
I don't feel like Jon OR Kate are fighting for anything.
Its pathetic. Its a cop-out. I don't think it should be so easy to just get out of a marriage. You should have to try EVERY.OPTION.AVAILABLE before you just bail out.
**Disclaimer** I wanted to add that my views on marriage and keeping marriage together *do* come with some stipulations. In cases of drug abuse, physical abuse, addiction, etc. , I feel that there are different rules. Especially when kids are involved.