What's it like?
It's hard. You have to realize that you're not just married to him anymore..you're married to the army and usually the army comes first. That was hard for me the first few years, but you learn to accept it.
Do you have any say in where you go?
DH is active duty national guard so we have a little more say in where we go..he can usually accept/refuse a spot..but they can always go over him and say "nope this is where you're going" With NG though you don't move as much..we've only moved 3 times in the past 8 years.
Are your husband's gone a lot?
Yes. You can pretty much bet on deployments..they're sadly a fact of military lives right now. DH has been deployed 2 times in the past 3 years..both over a year at a time. And even when he's not deployed he has training etc. that can last weeks or months at a time. Let's just say we live apart more than we live together these days.
Is it stressful?
During deployements..yes definitely stressful. Between deployments..yes b/c you're worried about him getting put on alert again.
Do they really "take care" of the family?
Yes. Right now especially, the military is probably the best job you can have. We never pay a dime in healthcare, we have a stable income and the chances of him losing his job are slim to none lol. Tricare is a pain in the butt with all the hoops you have to jump through sometimes, but still, we never pay a dime in healthcare costs.
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