That sounds hard! I'm sorry he is having a hard time adjusting. It will probably be fine when he gets used to it, and when he realises daddy is going to come home every week. My SO has been working away from home mon-fri for about 1 1/2 years now, and I don't mind it at all anymore. He has always worked a lot, and even when he was working nearby he was rarely home until just before the kids bedtime anyway, so I guess the adjustment wasn't so big for them (or me - I did all the hard work anyway
). They don't mind at all now, and they are happy when we go pick him up on fridays. Some weeks they want to talk to him a lot (skype/phone), and some weeks not at all. I just let them call him when they feel like it, and don't mention it if they don't.
As for you - try to embrace the time you have to yourself in the evenings. I know it's hard at first, kinda being tied to house because of the children, and not having anyone to talk to. I have learned to love the time to myself now though, I think it will be hard if he changes jobs and start being home all the time!
This is what I do after the kids are in bed:
- Scrapbook
- Have girlfriends around for a good gossip
- Long baths (well, I have long showers, not bathtub in our house)
- Watch "trashy tv" (things he doesn't like, like Desperate housewifes, Greys and reality shows) and girly movies that he doesn't want to watch.
Good luck - it will get better!
I try to make sure I get most of the housework done during the week, that way we have time to go do fun things together as a family at the weekends when SO is home. Sometimes he has a "daddy-day" with my oldest as well, they go out and do stuff just the two of them.