Have you thought about writing her a letter? Put all your thoughts and feelings and love into it. Make it as non-judgmental as possible (is that possible?), but let her know what a healthy relationship should be, and why you are worried for her. Maybe even mention a time or two during your own teenage years where you felt the same as she does now (if it's true). Reaffirm constantly that you love her and want only the best for her. Tell her how strong she is and other postitive things like that. Leave the letter in a sealed envelope on her bed where she can find it. I would time it for a day when you're out of the house, so she can't throw it back at you immediately. Hopefully she will be curious enough to read it all the way through, then have a few hours to think it over. When you come home, don't say anything about it at all. Carry on as normal, and leave it up to her if she wants to raise the subject.
That is what I would do anyway. I would want to feel that I'd done everything I could to tell her how I feel, and counsel her in whatever way, and I know the spoken conversation can often get cut off when emotions are running high.
I am so dreading my girls becoming teenagers. Hugs to you and prayers coming your way.
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