I would be careful to make sure that she'll always come to you about things in her relationship. Many people go on for years being abused and don't have anyone to talk to about it because they are scared, or are worried about an "I told you so". Make sure that she knows that she can always come to you, and support her decisions as much as you can. She is an adult, she doesn't have to listen to you, and those rebellious teenage hormones can easily drive a wedge in your relationship. Be there for her through it all, and don't let her know of your disapprovement. Maybe tell her once, but let her know that you are supporting her decision since she is her own person. If it really is a controlling/abusive relationship, then she will really need to know that she can come to you.
It may not hurt to have some general relationship talks, like where you tell her all of the things you love about your husband. Or even just watch chick flicks where there are normal healthy relationships where the women are treated with respect. Maybe if she sees a healthier relationship she will decide that hers isn't working. She'll probably always be willing to go back to him until she decides to cut it off herself.
I've never been in such a situation, but I've seen it happen to my friends a lot, and it's horrible how much they will take because they still love the guy that they first knew, so they don't see how horrible he has become.
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