There are lots of issues here and without knowing more details it's hard to say.
From a parental point of view they are obviously feeling very protective of you given the previous abusive relationship.
I don't know at what age you first got married, how long you were together for, how long you were single before the current boyfriend or how long you and he have been together for. I would need to know before making a more considered judgement.
As an initial gut feeling though, with assumptions I am making that may not be correct, if I was your parent, I would be worried about you making another big commitment at such a young age. The first one didn't work out and they obviously feel, for whatever reason, that the decision to move in with the new guy isn't a great judgement call on your behalf.
It sounds to me like you have had a taste of 'freedom' living away from home and are feeling too restricted living by your parents' household rules rather than your own. Are you sure you want to move out because you want to be with the boyfriend or because you will get your 'freedom' back?
If it is because you want to be with your boyfriend then you have to take that leap of faith that everything will work out.
If it is because you want your freedom then you need to be able to do so on your own financial footing and not rely on the boyfriend as your escape plan.
If you are feeling vulnerable about the future, well that's life, those sort of decisions always carry the risk that things won't work out. If you aren't able to put your own back up plan into place at that point then I think you need to wait until you can.
21 is still such a young age. I was 22 when I got married and even that I consider young in today's generation (I'm 46 now).
I applaud you for putting your education first and think that you need to continue to do that as it will provide a sound base for which to provide your own stability, regardless of boys or parents, in the future.
If I was your parent, I would be extremely wary of you moving into another intense relationship at such a young age and would also be looking to dissuade you. If the relationship between you and boyfriend is strong enough and he cares so much for you, then I don't understand why there is a big problem in continuing to live apart and build on what you have got together with the support of your family.
I figure that you don't actually want to hear me say this though.
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