I would love to meet this super mom...
Even though, I suspect one of my good friends to be this... but if you listen to what her hubby says when she isn't around... maybe her and I aren't much different...
Just take each day at a time... create lists and every day revise those lists given what is going on. This house pretty much runs on J's schedule which is actually pretty routine. I scrap when he is down for afternoon rest or at night... and housework is thrown in around pockets of time when kiddo is busy playing or most of the time I can get him to help me... thank goodness for 3 year olds who WANT to help.
Just don't take on too much and miss out on your beautiful little girl at each stage... I did that when I first became of SAHM, trying to do it all and now I look back (even if it's been only 2 years) and wish I spent more time living in the moment and just enjoying babyhood. Now, kiddo is 3, will be 4 in a few months and I'm like... Yikes!! Where the heck did the time go... so this year, I'm focusing more on him and less on what projects I want to accomplish...