You aren't a bad mom Sara! As you can see we all go thru this at some point (or multiple points!) One thing that we've done is put a gate up at the door of my son's room. He figured out how to climb out of his crib around 2.5yrs and we got freaked out a few times when he would walk into our room in the middle of the night. So once we switched to the toddler bed we decided to add the gate to keep him contained to his room at night. That helped us a bit with the getting up at night. We also did what Nikki did - didn't speak to him and just put him back to bed.
As for naps - once ds started climbing he quit taking naps. But there was no way I wasn't going to get my 1-2 hr quiet time in the afternoon! lol So everyday he plays in his room for quiet time. We would close the gate to keep him in his room (we just stopped using the gate) and he has a blast playing and reading his books. Once he quit taking naps we adjusted his bedtime a little bit. Before he would go to bed at 8:30 - now it's around 8 pm. And he sleeps until 8 or later (which I LOVE!!)
But anyways - that's my 2 cents! Don't feel bad and just stick to your guns! You'll get thru this phase!!
