I wasn't sure, if I should write this, but it seems to me that being absent for years and now wanting to take care doesn't automatically make this uncle a weirdo.
I do not know the situation and I believe the authorities had a reason for giving the boy to you. I seriously hope all will be sorted in a way that makes him the most happy. But to the uncle's defence, think about yourself in the situation. Have there maybe been people you weren't so close with in your family? Maybe him and the dad were not close. But if you hear there is an orphan boy now, maybe you would still be willing to help him?
My BF for example hasnt seen one of his uncle's in years. That uncle made the decision to stay out of his life after my BFs father killed himself. But recently when BF drove through England and got in contact, his uncle was delighted to meet him. In a family there can be a 100 reasons and old stories.
Of course that aunt was NOT thinking about the boy or she wouldn't have been so insensitive. And yes, it's of course overwhelming to bombard a child with lots of "lost" relatives. Yet, it sounded to me like the uncle is in principle willing to work with you and the authorities. Maybe these people do not trust the foster system completely. Some only remember the horror stories they read in newspapers. And maybe he will agree to leave the boy with you, but keep in contact. Which at a later stage might be nice for your foster son to have that connection to his family.
Again, I do not know this uncle or that family's situation. All I'm saying is that I find it hard to judge him just because he had been absent before. After all there is a chance that he really just wants to help the boy (if it's for the better or not) and that is a resepectable thing in my eyes.
But I do hope all turns out well for your family, Valerie.
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