I give my kids choices, but my youngest would make me batty if I had to fight everything with him. If he didn't have choices, he would make everyone nuts!
For me... it is him completing things by himself. For example, if we have to get ready in the morning, I ask if he wants to put his shoes on or if he wants to close the straps.... most mornings, he puts the shoes on, and I close the velcro straps. Same goes for clothes. He puts his shirt on, and I help with his pants. Slowly, we are getting him to do it all, but it will be a process. I need to be sane, and to actually get out of the house in the morning!
For food... like veggies... I have worked on offering dessert as the choice. At dinner, if he wants dessert, he has to choose to eat a veggie. If he says no, he doesn't get dessert... but if he eats it, he gets dessert - but he decides. He is pretty good with handling the no dessert, and knowing that he chose to have it or not have it. My oldest will always eat the veggies for a dessert. Sometimes, I will get him to eat if off my plate instead of his own... but that is more occasional.
Everything is always give/take, and choice over here!
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