Oh my goodness thank you so much everyone! You guys are awesome.
I'm using the Curly Girl method. It is amazing! The book is here:
http://amzn.to/wediQc
I highly recommend you read it if you're interested in doing it, as it has lots of ideas and details. Anywho, the basic premise is that you stop mistreating your hair by brushing, blow-drying, using products with sulfates and silicones, using regular towels, etc. All those things are reeeeally hard on your hair, and curly hair is much more prone to damage.
I've switched to the DevaCurl products, including a non-lathering shampoo. Then I coat my hair with conditioner and leave most of it in, then I put in gel and scrunch it and use an old tshirt to blot it a little so it's not dripping. Then I pretty much leave it alone until it's dry! I've only been doing it about 3 weeks and I've seen amazing results. It takes a while for your hair to 'heal' and quit getting frizzies and all that good stuff, but mine is already waaay better. My psoriasis on my scalp is also almost completely gone, and I've been fighting that with medicated shampoos for YEARS.