No personal experience, but from what I heard from others I'd say this: For most women it's very important, that people give them feeling they understand the wish to mourn. About the loss of a person.
I imagine it must hurt sooo much, when people don't think of a baby or unborn as of something that wasn't really lost, because they did not get to know the little one. While your friend is in deep shock and already had a connection to her baby. So I guess it's totally counterproductive to tell her how they can have another one... That's a bit like: Oh, I'm sorry your husband died. But Sweetie, you'll find another one. Might be true, but every truth has its right moment.
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