Keeping hormones in check? HELP!!!

[Jengerbread88]

Ugh. I am a total jerk. My boyfriend has been so awesome, especially since I found out I was expecting. But today, I was a total jerk. He took me out for lunch AND dinner, and was so great to me...


....and I picked a fight with him. WTH?! Why did I do that? No idea. I sat there and just b****ed at him the whole evening once we got back from dinner, and even got mad at him for helping a friend of him get to school and back. It was completely ridiculous, and so dumb.

He has put up with every single mood swing, every irritation, everything else. Tonight he reached his breaking point a little bit, and got mad at me, but when I talked to him later, and told him I was sorry, and that I really didn't want to lose him, he told me "I never once thought of leaving you... I'm not going to." and then he told me that he still loves me.

He is being so great. But I'm SO not being great. I'm being awful.

How do you guys keep your hormones in check? Do you? I mean, I have PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder), so even normal periods give me insane 2-3 week mood swings, but I had those under control. It was just now, with the sudden influx of hormones, I'm struggling again. I don't know what to do... :/
He's being great, really, but I honestly don't want to keep putting him through my mood swings.

[scrapperjade]

Awww, hon - CONGRATS on your pregnancy!! I read a couple other threads and I thought you were, but didn't see an official announcement!

From the posts you've made about your BF, he sounds like a really great guy, and it will take more than mood swings to scare him off! He's around for a the long haul! I'm sure he knows that you aren't meaning to attack him and that it's just your hormones coming into play.

I don't have any good advice because I've been super lucky as I never have mood swings, even in my periods, or currently in my pregnancy. DH doesn't realize how lucky he is? Maybe you can apologize by baking him a batch of his favorite cookies and a gushy card about how much you love him?? Bribery always works with my DH! !

[Jengerbread88]

Yes, I guess this is the semi-official announcement. We have kept it under wraps, and we are trying to keep it OFF of facebook. We haven't even told my parents (they won't approve, because they don't totally approve of him, and we're not married). We're working on how/when to tell them.

Plus, I've had a miscarriage before, so we've been waiting to tell a lot of people until after that. But... I wanted to share with SOMEONE, and I thought my scrappy friends were the best choice

[SweetMelissa]

Whenever I felt like ripping my DH's head off (or felt myself "losing control") I went to the kitchen and ate some grapes, apples, banana's, ect. I made myself take a time out, cool down and enjoy a snack. We did find out later that I had a sugar issue where it would be really high and then just drop & that was contributing to my temper.

If a snack didn't do it then I took a bubble bath, read some pages of whatever book I was reading or just put my Ipod on and jammed out. Thankfully DH knew that when I did these things I was trying to avoid being a total b*tch to everyone so he kept the kids away and gave me my space.

&& congrats on being pregnant!!!! I hope you have a happy & healthy 9 months.

[lovely1m]

First, congrats! Second, mood swings are a part of pregnancy, they happen. I am sure your boyfriend knows that and won't leave you over it. Just make sure to apologize when your moods get back under control. I remember them, you can feel that you are just being ridiculous, but there is nothing that can make you stop. Maybe when you recognize it, go give yourself a time out? lol Somtimes it helps.

[jessica31876]

I totally remember the mood swings as well. Mine went the other way though as in everything made me cry. I would get upset over the stupidest things and start crying. It only lasted for the first three months or so then I think it leveled out alot for me. Now when it is my time of the month I can always tell it is coming because every single thing my husband does gets on my nerves and I find myself just being real snippy with him.

[Megan Turnidge]

Originally Posted by lovely1m

First, congrats! Second, mood swings are a part of pregnancy, they happen. I am sure your boyfriend knows that and won't leave you over it. Just make sure to apologize when your moods get back under control. I remember them, you can feel that you are just being ridiculous, but there is nothing that can make you stop. Maybe when you recognize it, go give yourself a time out? lol Somtimes it helps.

This. lol It's totally normal and sometimes you just get a free pass to be ridiculous when you're pregnant. But I also think it's a good idea to take a timeout for yourself when you feel it coming on... just let him know you're moody, it's not his fault, you still love him, but you need a little time to yourself to {scrap, take a bath, do something that relaxes you}.

[Jengerbread88]

Thank you guys for the advice! I think it is really going to help a lot. I'm going to try the snack thing and the time out thing. I think both could be a major help for me... I already have blood sugar issues, so the snack thing may be a good idea.

You're right- the whole time it was happening, I was like "I KNOW I'm being ridiculous. I KNOW this is really stupid. I KNOW what I just said was really dumb." but I just. kept. going. I couldn't stop.

We spent the day together today with no issues at all, everything was fine. For some reason, last night, I was just extra moody. I've been moody a few times, but I'm hoping it levels off soon.

[MommaTrish]

First congrats!!

Second I am like the most hormonal person in the world when pregnant. It's like 5-6 different me's live in me then and our fighting for control. That being said, with my last pregnancy, my husband got the worst of it. He knew I was home with our 3 year old all day and our 4 year old for half the day and I couldn't be psycho around them so after they went to bed I let loose on him.

Little Debbies... while not healthy, helped me keep my sanity.

[Jengerbread88]

Originally Posted by MommaTrish

Little Debbies... while not healthy, helped me keep my sanity.

I hear ya'. I have a box of Star Crunch in my car AND my room. Boyfriend says he's going to buy stock in them. :P

[MommaTrish]

Funny thing... I don't even LIKE sweets! However, during my last pregnancy Ryan and I would go through a whole box every two days. No wonder I put on more weight with that pregnancy than the others!

[Jengerbread88]

I hate bacon with a passion. I think it's disgusting. Today we went out for lunch, and I ordered EXTRA bacon. And ate it all. Plus his.


...oops.