WWYD...

[emmasmommy]

back story....
my best friend lived 3 houses down from me. my kids and her kids have grown up together and more often than not, we just let them walk back and forth between the houses as they want (as long as we know they're going to/from). about, oh, february last year, a new family moved in next door to them. i know nothing about the family, just that they have a son who is the same age as emma and that they'll be going to school together next year...OH...and that the grandpa watches him during the day.
after they'd moved in, he befriended my BF's son. he all but disappeared from our house, and when he did come down here to play with my kids, he always had the neighbor boy with him. fine, whatever, he's a boy, why wouldn't he want to play with another boy?
we all felt sorry for the boy because he didn't know anyone here and his parents were having him finish off the school year at his old school so he didn't have to switch at the end of the year.
soon enough, we find out that this boy is well, difficult to say the least. he's gone into our friends' houses when they aren't home, looking to see if the kids are there. he crashed emma's birthday party because he 'wanted to play with ryan (my BF's little boy).' since my BF moved away, he's sort of become a fixture at our house when the kids are outside.

now, here comes the part where i'm seeking advice. i don't mind if he's here while we're outside, i really don't, but i don't know him or his family, and i don't really want him in my house. he's rough. he's crass. when he's here, my kids and nephew do things they wouldn't normally do and it's getting me extremely frustrated.
last night, he was standing outside of our yard on the sidewalk in front of our house waiting for us to come outside (i guess), so while i was down in the basement putting clothes in the dryer, emma decided it'd be a good idea to run outside to play with him. Ummmmm, whaaaat? no, that's not allowed in my house. you're going outside you TELL someone you just don't take off.
so, today, i make them all come inside for lunch and quiet time. mads still naps so i make emma and levi come inside for quiet time. it's a gorgeous day out so we have the windows open. well, about 1/2 an hr after we've been inside, i can hear him standing in front of our house, riding his scooter back and forth, back and forth....and my dog is going NUTS. i yell at the dog because i'm positive he's going to wake mads up, and i see the boy, WITH his grandfather, in front of my house, and i hear the boy say, 'uhoh, someone's in trouble!' well, he left shortly after i yelled at the dog, but about 10 min later, i hear him AGAIN. finally i go to the front door and say, 'the kids can't come outside to play right now.'

what am i supposed to do here? my kids have rules, this kid obviously doesn't follow the same set of rules...and i WILL NOT tolerate my kids behaving the way that he does. am i in the wrong to reprimand him when he's in my yard? he has no adult supervision other than me when he is here. i'm seriously SO glad that summer is almost over. i can't take much more of this.