NSBR: Need Perspective (long)

[LeeAndra]

Short(ish) backstory: My paternal grandmother passed away in August. My father is the executor of her estate including the condo (and all the furniture inside) she owned. Sometime next year, he and his two siblings will inherit a sizable (5 to 6 figures each) chunk of change. He and his siblings have already been through the condo and taken the sentimental and valuable items they wanted. My sister and I were allowed to go through and take a few things (e.g. fan, her old TV, etc.), but all of her estate was left to my dad and his siblings and not any of the grandchildren or great-grandchildren. My parents do not have any debt outside of their mortgage, and my father makes a good salary. His siblings are more well off than my parents are.

Present situation: I asked my father what they were planning on doing with my grandmother's washer and dryer as we (DH and I) do not have a set at our current place. This is a set my grandmother bought for herself, and while it's a fine set, it's 4-5 years old and not high efficiency and/or front loading e.g. a pretty average set. He balked at the idea at first and said he wanted to include them in the sale of the condo, but I guess has now changed his mind and is 'allowing' me to have them. 'Allowing' me to have them requires that my DH and FIL rent a truck (and pay to gas it up), drive the 5 hours roundtrip to my grandmother's condo to pick up the set, and load and unload the set onto and off the truck.

Other circumstances: My parents and my sister and BIL are the only local family. Both my parents and sister have a newer HE washer-dryer set than the ones my grandmother owned. Including a washer and dryer in the sale of a condo does not add that much intrinsic value to the home, and if my father were to sell them to someone and/or on Craigslist/Ebay, he would at most get $200-$300 for them.

Question: When my mother emailed me last night to let me know that I was now allowed to have the washer and dryer, she sent a follow up email reminding me that I needed to 'gush with gratitude online (email) and in person' for Dad's generosity and that's 'just the way he is.'

AM I MISSING SOMETHING?! Sure, I am appreciative of having a washer and dryer. Sure, I would have thanked my father in person in a genuine and heartfelt way abt being given his mother's washer and dryer. But 'gushing with gratitude?!' Really?! A father who is going to inherit tens of thousands of dollars next year, works fulltime, and has no debt allowing his needy daughter to have a used washer and dryer worth $200 (which will cost her $100 to remove and transport to her own house), and that's just such a generous move on his part?? I really don't get it, but I realize I'm biased abt the situation, so I thought maybe you guys could tell me if I'm acting entitled or like a spoiled brat and not seeing how truly generous and over the top he's being abt this issue.