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Old 04-09-2010, 02:45 PM
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If most of the guys are a fair amount older (which is my case), they might literally just have no idea how to behave around women in the work place. There's one guy here (I call him the old guy cuz he's like 75 or something and still working like a maniac) who will NEVER argue with me. Not even over something stupid like lunch. It's like he thinks I'm gonna burst into tears if he yells at me, lol. It's kind of funny, but that might be part of it. Especially in that/this industry where it's pretty rare to find a female. It's like throwing a girl into the men's locker room, they don't GET it, lol.
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Old 04-09-2010, 02:50 PM
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And you're screwed on the actual job site, I promise, lol! I had one middle aged man practically hitting on me in front of the entire group of people from my office, WITH my engagement ring on, lol. There are no boundaries out on the job site. I can't tell you how many traffic guys hit on me when I'm out on inspections (which I don't wear my engagement ring out on inspections due to all the rust I deal with, but now I have a wedding band, so I'm set, lol!)
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Old 04-09-2010, 03:28 PM
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You're going to have to speak up to them and lay out clearly to them what you do, and what is acceptable from them. They must treat you like one of the team. You are a hard worker, and you know your stuff. If you don't speak up now, things won't get better. Men are dense sometimes and need it spelt out for them otherwise they'll treat you like the cleaning lady. I spent 15 years in the military, most of it in units where I was either the only female, or one of only a few. Stand up for yourself and speak firmly. Rehearse at home what you want to say, then say it to them all at once at your next meeting.

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Old 04-09-2010, 03:58 PM
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guys are dumb. unfortuantely I have no advice as Ive never been in that situation. Hope it gets better for you
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Old 04-09-2010, 07:53 PM
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I work with nearly all men, too. It can be a PIA. The thing that I have found to work is to kinda act like one of them. I think they are being ridiculous to you though. Hugs!
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Old 04-09-2010, 09:34 PM
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I TOTALLY relate - I have a degree in Anthropology and I just took a job working for an oil and gas company - Oil riggs ect - they guys actually keep PORN at their desk and refer to me as honey!! I do all the accounting - we are talking in the millions - accounting - and some guy came in and asked me to make coffee - and then called me the secretary - Yes the money is that good! I just blow it off and come home to my real life - They are pigs - (I am the only woman too!)
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