Friend had a miscarriage -help!

[kscwgirl]

Originally Posted by jovi_girl

I think as long as u don't ignore it, your doing the right thing. When I had mine, so many of my friends/family didn't know what to say so they just didn't say anything. That was awful. I just wanted someone to cry with me, not for everyone to just sweep it under the rug cos it was easier for them. Also probably good to remember she's still going to be hurting for a long time. I couldn't get over mine til I got past my due date.

I think a little gift or note since u can't be with her is perfect.

This. Exactly. It's so hard to know what to say or do, but not ignoring it is best.. just let her know you're available.

With both of mine, just knowing people were there for me, even if i couldn't cope with it, was so helpful.

[hollyxann]

I'm like La.
When I had mine I wanted nothing to do with anyone. I had to go through the D&C though.

Just be there for her when she's ready to talk.