WWYD (teen boundaries issue)

[Valgal]

So Jake, 17 yo, came to John and I a bit ago with this request: his friend, also 17, is going to housesit for his grandparents for 3 days. He invited Jake and two of their other friends (who are 18) to basically play house for the 3 days. They want to cook meals and sleep there and more or less pretend they are living in an apartment together.

We've been letting his leash out, so to speak, more over and more over the last year. I give him a lot of freedom but this is more than I think is appropriate and so the answer (from both John and I) was 'no.' He can go over there and eat and hang out , but he has to come home in the evening and sleep at home and get up and get ready for school at home.

Hoooooooly crap... he threw the biggest fit. That kid came up with every reason you can think of why this doesn't make sense, we just want to control him, blah blah blah. He's my big arguing kid and knows how to push my buttons, but I stay relatively calm until he walked away calling us 'bad parents.'

I know, I know, I know, he's a teenager. But we have done so much for that kid (he's adopted) that I take that pretty personally. So that's why I started yelling and told him we are NOT bad parents, we are damn good parents!



Anyone else have big head-butting situations like this?