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03-15-2012, 06:15 AM
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UGH. Teaching responsibility is slow process.
One of my 13 year olds is upset because of this situation. Yesterday he took a boy's school planner and put it up high where he couldn't reach it as a joke. He does this a lot and I don't think it's funny. Like hiding my son's iPod and laughing when he can't find it. Well, when he gave the planner back it was covered in dusty stuff and the kid said, "I can't use that!" So he, my kid, took it with him to his next class and threw it in the garbage! Then the other boy got in trouble for not having his planner and expects Jake to buy him a replacement. Jake is all bent out of shape because he doesn't think it's his responsibility to do so. Uh... how do you figure that? We need a 'duh' emoticon. I'm making his pay for it out of his own allowance, lol!
They do eventually learn this stuff, right?
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03-15-2012, 07:18 AM
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I hope they learn it!! I think you're doing the right thing by making him pay for it out of his allowance. Just keep being consistent and eventually it will come.
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03-15-2012, 07:28 AM
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I believe there is hope.
And BTW - you did the right thing. We made our oldest buy herself a new lunchbox after the dog chewed it up to get the Teddy Grams out. She was told (repeatedly) to pick up her lunchbox. Well, the inevitable happened 2 weeks into school. She has never left her lunchbox on the floor again. And it was a Perry the Platypus lunchbox that could not be replaced. 2 lessons all rolled into one. BTW - she will be 7 next week.
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03-15-2012, 08:00 AM
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03-15-2012, 10:22 AM
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Sometimes a few hard knocks will do it. I mean...that's what happens in our lives too right? If you don't show up on time to work...you not going to keep your job!
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03-15-2012, 10:47 AM
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You definitely did the right thing. I make my daughter (who's 10) pay me out of her allowance. She has a habit of "forgetting" things, or in my words, LOSING them. I've had a couple instances where she lost her jacket at school or forgot her karate jacket (we luckily got that one back). Teaching responsibility is probably the hardest thing I'm working on with her right now. She is a good kid and an A student but taking ownership over her things and her responsibilities has been a tough lesson to learn. We aren't quite there yet but we are improving.
PS: I feel like I have to give my child a little praise in this post too...she ALWAYS does her homework during extended day care without ever being told. This makes me proud! 
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03-15-2012, 11:40 AM
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03-15-2012, 01:22 PM
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She has lost other things in the past too and always feels bad about it but not bad enough to start being more responsible. I feel like we're always coming down hard on her because she is such a great kid in every other area. She gets straight A's, she is getting a citizenship award for this quarter at school, she's at the top of her school for reading counts (a program through Scholastic books where they read books and take tests on them, each book is worth so many points and the kids set goals of specific numbers of points and earn prizes) for the second year running, etc. I mean she's a model student at school... every teacher wants one just like her. At home though she can be irresponsible, she picks on her brother and she pulls an attitude with us.
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