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We have court for our foster son on Thursday. We were REALLY confident about court until about an hour ago when we got a call from our worker. Things are starting to look iffy now.

This momma's heart is breaking. I don't WANT him to go back to his parents. That thought makes me sick to my stomach to be totally honest. I really don't know what will happen in court but I am fearing the worse and trying to prepare my heart.

The worker is upset too. She can only do so much and it is up to the judge and DA. It would be different if these parents actually cared for him and were trying everything to be a better parent to him. They are not. It is a game to them.

This is our forth foster placement. Only the second one that I really allowed myself to get attached to. I am scared, upset, angry.........you name it, I am feeling it. AND it is not helping that he is teething and really cuddly right now. Ugh. I hate this.

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Old 11-15-2011, 10:11 PM
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:16 PM
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I will be thinking of you. Our 17 year old foster daughter is just like our own and we went through the same thing a couple of years ago. I couldn't imagine how you are doing it with a little guy who can't protect himself. Good luck in court. I will be sending out positive thoughts for sure.
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Aww I can only imagine how you must be feeling Tara. I kinda know how you are feeling with the court situation and how unpredictable it can be as my sister had her rights terminated for her oldest son. My husband and I really would have liked to have taken him in but we couldn't. I hope that things go well for your family in court. I can never understand why parents do not treasure having a child. So many people I know take that for granted. It is sad really.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:18 PM
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I can only imagine how hard it is. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and sending good vibes your way. That baby deserves you, I sincerely hope you can stay together.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:25 PM
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I will pray for you, and for the judge to see clearly where the child's best interests lie. Hugs.
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:27 PM
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Oh Tara my heart is just hurting for you, little man, and your whole family right now. You all will be in my prayers. (((hugs))) to you, sweetie!
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:28 PM
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Oh sweetie. i can't even imagine that. I will absolutely be in prayer for you. *HUGS*
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:31 PM
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Sending prayers your way. I know how you feel. We went through it a few times and it is such a roller coaster of emotions. (((HUGS)))
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:48 PM
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I'll be thinking of you and keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I hope so much things work out. ((big hugs))
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Old 11-15-2011, 10:52 PM
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My heart is breaking for you, Tara. <3 all my love and prayers
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:09 PM
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:09 PM
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Oh Tara! Big (((HUGS))). My thoughts and prayers are with you!
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:11 PM
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:11 PM
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I can't imagine what you are going through. But my heart is aching for you and I will be thinking about you all and hoping the Judge will see that you are the better choice for this child! *hugs*
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:13 PM
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:31 PM
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Old 11-15-2011, 11:48 PM
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Old 11-16-2011, 12:07 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 12:10 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 12:18 AM
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So sorry. It should be a lot easier for folks who truly love a child to keep the child in a place where he is safe and cared for. I'll be praying.
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Old 11-16-2011, 01:16 AM
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Ahhh! I have a friend here who is going through a similar ituation right now. Its looking like they will be able to adopt their foster boy who they have had for over a year now. These poor babies need good homes like you guys! Prayers and hugs being sent your way!!
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Old 11-16-2011, 02:58 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 03:29 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 03:47 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:57 AM
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Old 11-16-2011, 09:02 AM
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Oh Tara! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I can't even imagine how worried you are. You will most definitely have my prayers throughout this ordeal.
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Tara! Prayers going up for you! God bless you for being the rock in this kiddos life!
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Oh, Tara! I cannot even begin to imagine the emotions you must be feeling right now! I will definitely be praying!!!
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Old 11-16-2011, 10:26 AM
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I can't imagine what you are going through. But hang in there! You're strong and will get through this.

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Old 11-16-2011, 10:42 AM
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Best of luck Tara!!! I hope you get to cuddle that little baby after the court date!
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Thanks everyone! Seriously......I am SO thankful for this community! If I could give each of you a hug I totally would! So I am sending lots of virtual hugs out!!!! ((HUGS))

I really don't know what will happen tomorrow. We have had him since he was 6 weeks old and he is now 15 months. We are his mom and dad. He doesn't even know his parents because they only show up half the time when visits are available to them. SO, we shall see. If the judge wants to go status as is currently and evaluate at next court time then I will be able to breath a little easier. If he decides to change the plan and work on reunification with the parents then it will still be a while before he leaves our house. He doesn't know them so it will be a process to get him ready for the transition. We still have a long road ahead of us either way.

It just breaks my heart for Peanut. It is not fair to take away what he knows as family and security. I think what makes me the maddest is the parents. Don't get me wrong........I totally adore them. In fact, I feel bad for them. BUT I don't think they are capable of taking care of him. Seriously, no bias feelings here. They just don't get it. PLUS, they have had over a year to get all these things done to work on getting him back and they are JUST starting to work on things in the last couple of weeks. SO frustrating.

Anyways, I will update what I can. I wish I could just spill all the details and vent but I can't. I really do appreciate the hugs, thoughts and prayers. Court is tomorrow afternoon 1:30 central time.
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Old 11-16-2011, 11:31 AM
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I really hope everything works out. I cna't even imagine!! (hugs)
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I am sooooo sorry Tara, sometimes prayers are stronger than your arms, but I pray you can have both.
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Old 11-16-2011, 01:26 PM
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:13 PM
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I hope there is some way for you to express everything you just said to the judge or your attorney so they know how you feel and I really hope they look at what is best for the child. Which is to stay with what he knows and that's you guys.
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THANK YOU!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! To everyone that has prayed, sent sweet words and given virtual hugs my way!

It was a VERY long and emotional day. We showed up at the courthouse at 1:15 and wasn't seen by the judge until 4:45!!!!! AND it was standing only where we were waiting for that WHOLE time. Needless to say we are exhausted. I did want to update that the parent's attorney did in fact try to change things but the judge SAW THROUGH the scheme and was very matter of fact with them. We are staying status que right now and will re-evaluate at the next court hearing on Jan. 26th!!!! THis is EXACTLY what I prayed would happen. I was really worried for about 15 minutes of our hearing because our side or Peanut's side was not being listened to. The judge came through. It was a totally God interruption. I am SURE of it!

SO, he is still OUR foster son. He will be here through the holidays for sure. We are at total peace about this and I know that wouldn't be here if God wasn't a part of this.

SO, again thank you for caring and loving me through this. I can not express in words how much it has meant to me. ((HUGS))
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Old 11-17-2011, 09:46 PM
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Tara I am crying in relief for you right now...such a huge blessing! Praying that the courts continue to rule in the best interest of your Peanut, and that your family can feel His peace no matter what may come in the future.
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That's good news Tara. I will keep your family in my thoughts for continued good news. Enjoy your holidays with him and cherish every moment.
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Old 11-17-2011, 09:56 PM
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me, too! What a relief! I'm glad that the judge is putting Peanut's well-being first, continuing to pray for you and him (and bio-parents, as well!). As another foster parent, I deeply support reunification when it is SAFE and appropriate. It's a rewarding journey but heartbreaking and gray-hair making, too. Keep up the good work, mama!
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