it's my downfall

[emmasmommy]

what's one thing you do that you consider a fault?
like me, i tend to have diarrhea of the mouth....and it sometimes gets people irritated with me.

what's something you do that is just who you are, and sometimes don't even realize you're doing it?

[jacinda]

In certain circumstances I take over. When I see a job not being done properly I jump in and do it myself. That can annoy people sometimes.

[KristinCB]

second-guessing and changing my mind and asking for advice and then not taking it because of second-guessing..

[Traci Reed]

*snort*

I'm too opinionated.

[LJSDesigns]

On the same lines as you Laura, my mouth gets me in trouble. I am very blunt and just speak my mind. A lot of times it surprises me that people equate it with being mean. I don't think of myself as mean, so that bothers me, but I just can't help but say what I think and I don't sugar coat it. Life is too short to spend a lot of time trying to figure out the perfect thing to say when the truth works each and every time.

[emmasmommy]

Originally Posted by Loriebug66

On the same lines as you Laura, my mouth gets me in trouble. I am very blunt and just speak my mind. A lot of times it surprises me that people equate it with being mean. I don't think of myself as mean, so that bothers me, but I just can't help but say what I think and I don't sugar coat it. Life is too short to spend a lot of time trying to figure out the perfect thing to say when the truth works each and every time.

girl. we are SO one in the same.

[LJSDesigns]

Originally Posted by emmasmommy

girl. we are SO one in the same.

It's the name.

[MandaT]

Well....lots of things.

Right now, the biggest one I'm working on letting self-doubt 'make' my decisions...worrying about everyone else's feelings and not taking care of me.

[MommaTrish]

I cuss. And I fidget. Like annoyingly fidget. And I'm a very expressive enthusiastic talker. And when you get me talking I don't shut up.

So basically.... talking to me is like talking to someone on speed. I'll be moving, picking at things, flinging my arms around, and unable to shut up.

The more nervous I am the worse it gets.

[littlekiwi]

that I don't say no enough (basically im too kind and let others at times take advantage of me)

that I am unorganized

[yari]

I can be waaaaaayyy too sensitive and it gets in the ways of meaningful relationships. :/

[krystalhartley]

uh hello. i'm perfect.

[krystalhartley]

ow. I just pulled something rolling my eyes at myself.

I don't use my time well.

[littlekiwi]

Originally Posted by krystalhartley

I don't use my time well.

i'm guilty of this too eg: I should be doing the dishes, ironing, essentially staying off the computer but....

[ZaCola3]

Because I say what I mean-all the time-It is hard for me to understand that some people don't. I'm terrible at reading between the lines!

[joelsgirl]

I don't follow through.

I have these great ideas and plans, but they never get finished, and I really, really hate it. I think there's this amazing woman inside of me, but I make her play on the computer all day long instead of doing all of her amazing things.

[mrshobbes]

Like Kellie, I tend to forget to follow through or even get scared to follow through.

And I hate that I often care too much about what people think :/ (why do you think I admire Traci and Laura so much? They rawk in my heart)

[BrattyMeg]

mine is probably my lack of self confidence or my overabundance of self doubt..and it rolls over into other aspects of my life like friendships and job opportunities

[marlathrall]

I have this really dry humor that doesn't always come across that well. And I'm really reserved in groups so people often think I'm stuck up.

[Tracyfish]

I always tend to be the voice of reason and I think it's annoying when others are trying to just have fun. But I swear the older I get, the worse it gets. (and I think it's usually because I'm the sober designated driver when we go out)

[mariewilcox]

I'll sit on the bench with you Laura and Lorie... I try to be better about it and bite my tongue at times but I speak my mind. Although I do try to make sure it isn't insulting to the person I'm actually talking to

[MamaBee]

I feel like I don't know how to act in public, anymore... Since leaving my career 5 years ago... now I'm around kiddo 99% of the time... so when I'm around others - and add on that I'm so incredibly shy and getting worse the more I'm not around people... I get so nervous that either I freeze when someone talks to me... or I say something that sounds stupid. I also have a very odd sense of humor and can find the funny in the worse situation... and I laugh/joke when I'm very uncomfortable... yeah... I'm a whole ball of mess...

[DawnMarch]

Mine are probably related, but I procrastinate and I have a really hard time making decisions.

[Jenn Barrette]

*sigh* I am a know-it-all. I tend to give advice and my opinion on things whether it is asked for or not.

[BrattyMeg]

geez reading these makes me realize my other faults too haha

Like Jenn I'm a know it all and tend to stick my nose where it doesn't go...AND like Marla (in fact my dh and I just had this conversation last Sunday) that I can come across stuck up b/c I'm shy..

[Robin Carlton]

I don't sleep and I like to bake and I'm stubborn. Otherwise, I'm like Krystal and kinda awesome!

[Lizzy257]

I don't spend my time well and procrastinate a lot. I doubt myself and my decisions all the time. And I can be too nice and not say no enough

[HeatherKS]

Originally Posted by Jenn Barrette

*sigh* I am a know-it-all. I tend to give advice and my opinion on things whether it is asked for or not.

*sigh* Yes, this. I try to do better and keep my mouth shut but it just bursts out of me. And I use sarcasm and humor to cover up the fact that I am a self-conscious, insecure person on the inside.

[LeeAndra]

I am opinionated. And perfectionistic.

So things should be done a certain way *ahemmywayahem* and when they are not, it annoys me and/or I can't understand why someone would do it any other way because OBVIOUSLY I have thought my way through, have experience doing it this way, etc etc.



Hubs and I drive each other bonkers on a regular basis b/c he operates so much differently from me and always does things slower/less efficiently/more 'whatever happens, happens.' than I would or would like him to e.g. it does not bother him that he might not eat lunch until 2 p.m. because it takes him 60-90 minutes to get ready to leave the house to go to the restaurant to eat.

[Jenn Barrette]

Oh, and to be clear....I don't think my "know-it-all" attitude is a problem; I think others may believe it to be one though!

[maryinaz]

I take too long to tell a story. I like to start with details and work through the whole thing. But half the time my rude friends interrupt me (I guess I'm boring), and I never get to the end.

And other times I'm too blunt. Like yesterday at a football game party we were at, someone asked me if 2 kids who grew up with our kids could go to Grad Night this May even though neither of them graduated from our school (one is in REHAB for crying out loud and one chose to drop out and get his GED - their choices, no one made them do those things). I said, without hesitation - NO. And I think it made her mad. (I'm on the committee.)

Oh, and see my second paragraph proved my first paragraph.

[taracotta7]

Mine is I let my sarcastic humor hurt others. Mainly because I don't know when to turn it off. Like if something serious is going on, I want to lighten things up and those times I just need to shut it and let it be serious.

[Sherri Tierney]

Well, gracious, I have things in common with most of you.

I am not sure that others see my downfalls (besides my husband, really, and he gets the unrefined me!) because I have a thick filter when I am in public and therefore am constantly thinking ahead to how what I say or do might be perceived by someone else. I suppose that in itself is a downfall at times. I don't always say what I want to say because of how it might be taken.

Online my filter is different. I tend to be a little more open with what I say but I still reign myself in a whole lot. Also, like Mary, I tend to take too long to tell a story. My posts can get quite long sometimes when I'm telling a story so I have to stop myself, go back and delete and keep it short and sweet. I also tend to relay personal experiences in my posts. If someone asks a question or shares something with me then I tend to want to share my experiences with them when it isn't always what they are asking for. Sometimes they don't want to hear my crap. LOL I have to remind myself to not get so personally wrapped up in every answer I give.

In general, I am rather introverted. I wouldn't call myself shy, but I can be perceived as shy (or stuck up) at times because of my introversion. I don't say something when I don't have anything to say. I don't make small talk a lot. I think things through before I say them so my silence while I am thinking or because I don't have anything to say can be taken wrong. Once I get to know someone that changes and I am quicker to speak and able to just chit chat more and therefore I seem more friendly. I've had to teach myself, over the years, to engage in conversation even when I'm not really interested (like with the cashier at the grocery store) so that I am not mistaken for rude or stuck up. I live in a small town and there is nowhere within a 60 mile radius that I can go without knowing someone and quite often it is someone who knows me, in some fashion, through work or my kids. I feel like I have to uphold myself to a certain standard or reputation because I am someone who is representing our school district and our community. I never considered myself a community figure until I ended up in a focus group with several very prominent members of the community and realized, that, wow, they considered me important enough to invite into the group...

Way more than you wanted to know, eh? I have some diarrhea of the mouth too.

[MandaT]

I love that I can relate to you all in some way or another.

[Milmomma]

Originally Posted by MommaTrish

I cuss. And I fidget. Like annoyingly fidget. And I'm a very expressive enthusiastic talker. And when you get me talking I don't shut up.

So basically.... talking to me is like talking to someone on speed. I'll be moving, picking at things, flinging my arms around, and unable to shut up.

The more nervous I am the worse it gets.

Oh man, I think you just nailed my problems on the head and explained them perfectly! The worse part is the more emotional I am the more my accent comes out. Then nobody seems to understand a word I say.
But when I get nervous I talk more or become a giggler if I have nothing to say. Its embarassing!

[KristinCB]

oh! I can seem like a bit of a ditz and an airhead so I can come across as pretty dumb sometimes.. but I like to think I'm smarter than I seem

[Chels85]

umm... i'm many of those things lol

[LJSDesigns]

Another one for me is that I am impatient as heck and don't hide it well. Every single thing I feel is written all over my face so I can't get away with any of those social lies that would save me a lot of trouble.

[alinalove]

uhm. sherri nailed it for me.
i tend to overthink and not tell anything or tell it all and afterwards feel bad because i said it all.
and because i tend to overthink i often get off-topic because in my mind i am far over the pond already.

[emmasmommy]

yah, again i'm with lorie. my facial expressions give me away every time. there are SO many times my husband has hit me on the arm to say, 'dude. face.'

[Traci Reed]

I'm also waaay too passionate about my opinions.

[Sherri Tierney]

Originally Posted by woofpurrpurr

uhm. sherri nailed it for me.
i tend to overthink and not tell anything or tell it all and afterwards feel bad because i said it all.
and because i tend to overthink i often get off-topic because in my mind i am far over the pond already.

My husband has to often remind me to stop and back track when I'm talking because I think right past myself. LOL

[Sherri Tierney]

Originally Posted by Traci Reed

I'm also waaay too passionate about my opinions.

Umm... me too. In many cases it is a good thing, but sometimes it just leaves me foaming at the mouth angry because others don't see things the way I do. I stop myself before lashing out at them, but it doesn't keep me from thinking nasty thoughts in my head!

[jessica31876]

I do this...this christmas we were at my aunts and all the guys had a bet they could pick up a five gallon jug filled to the top with pennies over their head. And Im like you're gonna put it through the wall. Athough I was laughing at their attempts. Until my nephew DID almost put it through the wall. Then my aunt was all like ok thats enough with that. Only one guy was able to do it out of five and both my sisters tried as well and could not even pick it up off the ground. Im guesing it weighed a couple hundred pounds at least (200 or more)

Originally Posted by Tracyfish

I always tend to be the voice of reason and I think it's annoying when others are trying to just have fun. But I swear the older I get, the worse it gets. (and I think it's usually because I'm the sober designated driver when we go out)

[jessica31876]

and for my own issues...I am stubborn, opinionated and too sensitive. Which I do not think combine well. But being stubborn and opinionated can also come in handy at times when you need to be persistent to get something done.

[LJSDesigns]

OMGee on the stubborn, but I agree; it gets things done. For those of you that are stubborn and opinionated, are you the "strong" one in your family? The one every one else counts on during a crisis? And during those times no one seems to mind those "flaws" that drive them crazy the rest of the time, do they?

Honestly after reading all these posts I know two things. I have a crap ton of flaws and I need a husband like Laura's. Seriously though most of our flaws can also be strengths in the right situation.

[alinalove]

Originally Posted by Sherri Tierney

My husband has to often remind me to stop and back track when I'm talking because I think right past myself. LOL

one popular sentence here at home is: context! give me some context! lol

[jessica31876]

Yep exactly...but I think me being stubborn my husband actually loves because when I get something in my head I make it happen. Whereas he is more apt to kinda just go with the flow and accept stuff he is told.

Originally Posted by Loriebug66

OMGee on the stubborn, but I agree; it gets things done. For those of you that are stubborn and opinionated, are you the "strong" one in your family? The one every one else counts on during a crisis? And during those times no one seems to mind those "flaws" that drive them crazy the rest of the time, do they?

Honestly after reading all these posts I know two things. I have a crap ton of flaws and I need a husband like Laura's. Seriously though most of our flaws can also be strengths in the right situation.

[alinalove]

Originally Posted by Loriebug66

OMGee on the stubborn, but I agree; it gets things done. For those of you that are stubborn and opinionated, are you the "strong" one in your family? The one every one else counts on during a crisis? And during those times no one seems to mind those "flaws" that drive them crazy the rest of the time, do they?

Honestly after reading all these posts I know two things. I have a crap ton of flaws and I need a husband like Laura's. Seriously though most of our flaws can also be strengths in the right situation.

i don't consider myself stubborn but my husband always says: okay. i don't like this idea but we are going to do it anyway because it was your idea, so let's do it.

and i go like '*%§$"/&$&$§ because most of the time i am trying to please him, and make it better for him. okay. not over the moon and back but i am really trying! AND HE CAN BE STUBBORN! OMG CAN HE BE STUBBORN!

so i really think this is more a communication thing than really being stubborn.
and yes, i think our flaws are our strengths. it's a matter of the situation, i think.